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Anxiety about uni + fitting in

Going to uni of liverpool in september and I'm absolutely terrified I really love the campus and the city but I am just so worried about not fitting in with anybody. On the gcs i have joined the people are not my peopleee 😭😭 Any advice from anyone? Also does anyone know how big the lgbt community is among the students in Liverpool? Thanks
Original post by Anonymous
Going to uni of liverpool in september and I'm absolutely terrified I really love the campus and the city but I am just so worried about not fitting in with anybody. On the gcs i have joined the people are not my peopleee 😭😭 Any advice from anyone? Also does anyone know how big the lgbt community is among the students in Liverpool? Thanks

Hi there!

Try not to worry! Everyone is in the same position when they first go to uni. And no matter how secure some people may seem, they probably have worries of their own.

I can 100% relate to the pre - uni group chat feeling. To be honest, they're a great way to find people in your accommodation or uni course, but they're not really the best for making friendships. I would stay in them to keep in the loop, but don't let them put you off talking to new people when you arrive.

My best advice would be to say yes to as many things as possible when you first start. Try some societies out, go to some Freshers' events. Realistically, not everything will be your cup of tea, but you never know who you'll meet at these events, so they're a great place to start to meeting new friends.

Also, don't be discouraged if some people aren't receptive of you, or just seem disinterested in making friendships. Making friends as adults isn't necessarily as easy as it was in school, and some people at uni aren't always wanting to chat - as I've learnt! But this is by no means because of you or anything you've done. Keep trying to spark up conversations, get involved with people, and the right people will find their way to you.

I've also met some of my closest friends in my second year, so try not to put pressure on yourself to make friendships the minute you arrive. There are so many people at uni, that you'll constantly meet new friends.

Try not to worry, you'll find your way. And best of luck with your new start! 🙂

Emily
Student Rep at BCU
Reply 2
Good advice above to join societies, but don't restrict yourself to events and activities on-campus; look at what's happening out in the city. Whilst at uni I made friends from other places and walks of life.

Take the opportunity to try something new, or be on a committee for the experience; you can be a Secretary or Treasurer with participation in the actual pursuits.
Original post by Anonymous
Going to uni of liverpool in september and I'm absolutely terrified I really love the campus and the city but I am just so worried about not fitting in with anybody. On the gcs i have joined the people are not my peopleee 😭😭 Any advice from anyone? Also does anyone know how big the lgbt community is among the students in Liverpool? Thanks


Hi anonymous,

I agree with everyone else! You’re all in the same boat at uni, and pretty much everyone is open to making friends. I wouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself to find your people right away, and don’t be disheartened if you don’t. I wasn’t very good friends with my flatmates, but after first term I’d formed really strong friendships with my course mates and others I’d met through societies/just at uni. Societies are a great way to make friends and a fab chance to meet some new people and try something new.

Bottom line, my advice is to be friendly and chatty, and you’ll find your people!

All the best,

Jen,

University of Exeter student ambassador
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Original post by anonymous
Going to uni of liverpool in september and I'm absolutely terrified I really love the campus and the city but I am just so worried about not fitting in with anybody. On the gcs i have joined the people are not my peopleee 😭😭 Any advice from anyone? Also does anyone know how big the lgbt community is among the students in Liverpool? Thanks

hii I'm going to uni like half hour away from Liverpool and I'm in the exact same boat! I've joined all these group chats but they're just these Snapchat groups and I am not a Snapchat kind of person if you know what I mean 😅

Most unis have a LGBTQ+ society so I would recommend joining that, that's what I'm gonna do, and hopefully you'll meet more like-minded people : D
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Original post by Anonymous
Going to uni of liverpool in september and I'm absolutely terrified I really love the campus and the city but I am just so worried about not fitting in with anybody. On the gcs i have joined the people are not my peopleee 😭😭 Any advice from anyone? Also does anyone know how big the lgbt community is among the students in Liverpool? Thanks

Hi there,

Try not to worry too much about the before you come to uni- everyone is in the same boat with wanting to make friends and you will meet so many more people than you have already spoke to on the uni group chats! I do think the group chats are great to join as you can often find people you will be living with which I found helpful as I felt less nervous moving in when I already knew them and we could plan some things for freshers together, but I didn't speak to many other people in the group chats and I just made friends when I got to uni!

You will meet lots of people in freshers week and you won't stay close to all of them so don't put too much pressure on yourself to find your best friends as soon as you arrive. Some of the best friendships come later on at uni and over time so don't worry if you don't find best friends immediately. Freshers is a great time to go out, say yes to things and meet lots of new people! You won't stay close to everyone you meet, but you might find people you click with so definitely say yes to as much as you can and put yourself out there!

As others have said, societies are a great way of making friends so go to the societies and sports fairs in freshers week and find out if there are any you would be interested in. If there are then think about joining them as they are great ways to meet people who have similar interests to you and the socials are also good too!

I also made a lot of my closest friends on my course so I would also say to make sure you go to any course welcome events that you have as this is where I met my friends! Also, try and go to your lectures and seminars and meet people this way as there will be lots of people here to meet and make friends with !

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
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Original post by Robyn_13
hii I'm going to uni like half hour away from Liverpool and I'm in the exact same boat! I've joined all these group chats but they're just these Snapchat groups and I am not a Snapchat kind of person if you know what I mean 😅
Most unis have a LGBTQ+ society so I would recommend joining that, that's what I'm gonna do, and hopefully you'll meet more like-minded people : D

ah thank u sm would be good if we were going to the same place. there r a bunch of whatsapp ones and a few instagram ones if u have a look too
Reply 7
Original post by hallamstudents
Hi there,
Try not to worry too much about the before you come to uni- everyone is in the same boat with wanting to make friends and you will meet so many more people than you have already spoke to on the uni group chats! I do think the group chats are great to join as you can often find people you will be living with which I found helpful as I felt less nervous moving in when I already knew them and we could plan some things for freshers together, but I didn't speak to many other people in the group chats and I just made friends when I got to uni!
You will meet lots of people in freshers week and you won't stay close to all of them so don't put too much pressure on yourself to find your best friends as soon as you arrive. Some of the best friendships come later on at uni and over time so don't worry if you don't find best friends immediately. Freshers is a great time to go out, say yes to things and meet lots of new people! You won't stay close to everyone you meet, but you might find people you click with so definitely say yes to as much as you can and put yourself out there!
As others have said, societies are a great way of making friends so go to the societies and sports fairs in freshers week and find out if there are any you would be interested in. If there are then think about joining them as they are great ways to meet people who have similar interests to you and the socials are also good too!
I also made a lot of my closest friends on my course so I would also say to make sure you go to any course welcome events that you have as this is where I met my friends! Also, try and go to your lectures and seminars and meet people this way as there will be lots of people here to meet and make friends with !
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

thank uu it is very comforting to hear i think i just needed someone to reassure me tbh

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