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so pathetic with guys

I know that this whole post is very pathetic, so no need to point it out because believe me, i know.

I cannot talk to guys. Maybe it's because I've gone to an all girls school and i didn't make any guy friends in sixthform. But some of my other friends can have conversations with guys even though they too, are from an all girls school. I've only had 2 proper guy friends but then idk if you can them friends bc we aren't very close. It just sucks because so many girls would have so many guy friends - and yeah i know it's not deep but ig im just jealous that i'm not as outgoing as some girls are. I am outgoing once i become comfortable but I'm never brave enough to be outgoing as soon as i meet someone. I need to get used to them first.

I just have a hard time talking to anyone because I'm quiet and shy. And it's hard to say that I can talk to guys because the guys I've spoken to, haven't turned into strong friendships. About 90% of the guys i knew in school were all very extroverted so I always felt awkward that i could never match their energy even if i tried too. I've been told that I have a nice and funny personality but multiple friends - but again, they're my friends so they could just be saying that to make me feel better. I don't think i'm ugly either - the worst attributes I think i have is my height(i'm 5'11) and my hairline bc of my baby hairs. I don't wear alot of makeup, only bb cream, mascara and lip balm. So i definitely don't put alot of effort into my appearance but i never thought i needed to - bc im wanting to make friends, not wanting to feel desired and have a relationship. I would say that i'm a 6 or 7 out of 10.

I've always just felt more comfortable around girls as I've always had more friends that were girls than boys. It's not like i have trauma or anything. It's just because i'm shy. I can talk to anyone provided that theres a group. But i just feel like i should be able to feel more comfortable when i talk to them, especially with uni right round the corner.
Original post by Anonymous
I know that this whole post is very pathetic, so no need to point it out because believe me, i know.
I cannot talk to guys. Maybe it's because I've gone to an all girls school and i didn't make any guy friends in sixthform. But some of my other friends can have conversations with guys even though they too, are from an all girls school. I've only had 2 proper guy friends but then idk if you can them friends bc we aren't very close. It just sucks because so many girls would have so many guy friends - and yeah i know it's not deep but ig im just jealous that i'm not as outgoing as some girls are. I am outgoing once i become comfortable but I'm never brave enough to be outgoing as soon as i meet someone. I need to get used to them first.
I just have a hard time talking to anyone because I'm quiet and shy. And it's hard to say that I can talk to guys because the guys I've spoken to, haven't turned into strong friendships. About 90% of the guys i knew in school were all very extroverted so I always felt awkward that i could never match their energy even if i tried too. I've been told that I have a nice and funny personality but multiple friends - but again, they're my friends so they could just be saying that to make me feel better. I don't think i'm ugly either - the worst attributes I think i have is my height(i'm 5'11) and my hairline bc of my baby hairs. I don't wear alot of makeup, only bb cream, mascara and lip balm. So i definitely don't put alot of effort into my appearance but i never thought i needed to - bc im wanting to make friends, not wanting to feel desired and have a relationship. I would say that i'm a 6 or 7 out of 10.
I've always just felt more comfortable around girls as I've always had more friends that were girls than boys. It's not like i have trauma or anything. It's just because i'm shy. I can talk to anyone provided that theres a group. But i just feel like i should be able to feel more comfortable when i talk to them, especially with uni right round the corner.

Baby hairs are sooo cute though!
Original post by Anonymous
I know that this whole post is very pathetic, so no need to point it out because believe me, i know.
I cannot talk to guys. Maybe it's because I've gone to an all girls school and i didn't make any guy friends in sixthform. But some of my other friends can have conversations with guys even though they too, are from an all girls school. I've only had 2 proper guy friends but then idk if you can them friends bc we aren't very close. It just sucks because so many girls would have so many guy friends - and yeah i know it's not deep but ig im just jealous that i'm not as outgoing as some girls are. I am outgoing once i become comfortable but I'm never brave enough to be outgoing as soon as i meet someone. I need to get used to them first.
I just have a hard time talking to anyone because I'm quiet and shy. And it's hard to say that I can talk to guys because the guys I've spoken to, haven't turned into strong friendships. About 90% of the guys i knew in school were all very extroverted so I always felt awkward that i could never match their energy even if i tried too. I've been told that I have a nice and funny personality but multiple friends - but again, they're my friends so they could just be saying that to make me feel better. I don't think i'm ugly either - the worst attributes I think i have is my height(i'm 5'11) and my hairline bc of my baby hairs. I don't wear alot of makeup, only bb cream, mascara and lip balm. So i definitely don't put alot of effort into my appearance but i never thought i needed to - bc im wanting to make friends, not wanting to feel desired and have a relationship. I would say that i'm a 6 or 7 out of 10.
I've always just felt more comfortable around girls as I've always had more friends that were girls than boys. It's not like i have trauma or anything. It's just because i'm shy. I can talk to anyone provided that theres a group. But i just feel like i should be able to feel more comfortable when i talk to them, especially with uni right round the corner.

I mean, personally I always found boys easier to talk to. Maybe just start getting used to talking to complete strangers, more than thinking it's about girls? Idk.I don't see how it would require you wearing makeup to have friends tbh. Maybe you need to just say hi, start some small talk. You don't have to be an extrovert to be friends with one. :smile:
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Original post by Hannahblossom
Baby hairs are sooo cute though!
mine used to be cute until i started doing haircare and they started growing. They're in that awkward stage where their too long to be able to hide them but not long enough to hide them. And trying to wax them down looks greasy
Original post by Anonymous
mine used to be cute until i started doing haircare and they started growing. They're in that awkward stage where their too long to be able to hide them but not long enough to hide them. And trying to wax them down looks greasy

Yeah mine are like that. I like them though lol, mine curl a bit though so maybe it doesn't look as good when they're straight, idk. I mean I'm pretty sure there will be yt or tiktok videos on how to deal with them. Also you can get hair pen things that deal with frizz or baby hairs without it looking greasy. If I remember the name I'll come back lol, saw one recently
Original post by Anonymous
mine used to be cute until i started doing haircare and they started growing. They're in that awkward stage where their too long to be able to hide them but not long enough to hide them. And trying to wax them down looks greasy

Got2b bye bye baby hair on amazon. Looks like it has good reviews, haven't tried it myself though.
I'm a guy and I feel the same way around girls ... :/

Feel free to hmu if you'd like to be friends and I'd love to have a chat!
Original post by quinvincible
I'm a guy and I feel the same way around girls ... :/
Feel free to hmu if you'd like to be friends and I'd love to have a chat!
how old are you? im sixteen and female
Original post by Anonymous
how old are you? im sixteen and female

Hi, nice to meet you! That's cool, I'm 18 and about to turn 19 soon :smile:
Original post by quinvincible
Hi, nice to meet you! That's cool, I'm 18 and about to turn 19 soon :smile:
oh dang your old (jk) what course are you doing

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