help gcse stress

I've been feeling so overwhelmed lately. Being the eldest daughter of immigrant parents means there's so much pressure on me to perform well academically. Sometimes it gets to be too much. My parents spend a lot of money on a math tutor just so I can get a 9 in my GCSEs. My dad literally threatened to disown me if I don't achieve that. I can't handle it anymore. Every mock exam, I perform really well, but it's never enough for them. All they care about is that perfect 9. It doesn't help that all my cousins are going to top universities like Cambridge. It's so unfair because I come from an underperforming school, while they all went to grammar schools. I can't deal with it anymore.
On top of that, I really messed up on my English Literature exam by writing about Mr. Birling instead of Ms. Birling. That mistake is going to stop me from getting the grade I need to impress my parents. I come from a big Pakistani family where reputation means everything. Getting bad grades won't just ruin my life, but my whole family's reputation. I'm so scared. I'm sorry for unloading all of this, but I really need someone to talk to about it

I've been feeling so overwhelmed lately. Being the eldest daughter of immigrant parents means there's so much pressure on me to perform well academically. Sometimes it gets to be too much. My parents spend a lot of money on a math tutor just so I can get a 9 in my GCSEs. My dad literally threatened to disown me if I don't achieve that. I can't handle it anymore. Every mock exam, I perform really well, but it's never enough for them. All they care about is that perfect 9. It doesn't help that all my cousins are going to top universities like Cambridge. It's so unfair because I come from an underperforming school, while they all went to grammar schools. I can't deal with it anymore.
On top of that, I really messed up on my English Literature exam by writing about Mr. Birling instead of Ms. Birling. That mistake is going to stop me from getting the grade I need to impress my parents. I come from a big Pakistani family where reputation means everything. Getting bad grades won't just ruin my life, but my whole family's reputation. I'm so scared. I'm sorry for unloading all of this, but I really need someone to talk to about it

hey hey its ok i come from an indian background and im currently doing my y10 mocks at 16 and my parents are also putting high stress. I have an email if u wanna rant to me on ggl chat also if ur parents are threatning to disown you over that something is clearly not ok and I suggest you tell some teacher or adult

also let me tell you u are the most freaking strongest girl i know. I would have lost my mind in that house and you still taking their crap. keep fighting inshallah in the future you will be able to live freely

aww thx I don't have an Emil yet but your so sweet

❤️ ill be here if u need me lol (if ur dad attacks u again ill personally come over to ur house and have a nice lil chat with him ;D)

I dint understad tho my dad was s sweet when I was little its just now he's gotten quite mean and pressurizing

my dad is similar but I think its how they were probably raised by their fathers. In their eyes your going into a big step into success in your life so he is probably making sure you have high grades so u get in a good uni then good job yada yada.

yeh I get that. but its still no excuse for him to say that and costly compare me

I agree so many brown parents end up not knowing what to say so just shove pressure down your throat

fr I actually getting a bit sick of it

hi is everything ok rn?

Hope ur alright. How did all your exams go? And speaking from experience, when your dad pressurises you into getting good grades, and they say they will disown you, it's usually just an empty threat. Being a Pakistani myself, my dad has used that line on my countless times and with time, when I get mainly 7s and a few 8s in mocks, he cba to have a go at me anymore. Take into account what I said in the other thread (if you can't find that, pm me) and try to enjoy your life. You're in my duas.
What do you want to do after the 3 month hols? Any specific job you want to go into?

hello fellow muslim! and yes this is true most of the time they are empty threats but dont worry also how are doing now?