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how do i become less of a loser?

im just about to start my last year of highschool i only have 1 friend who i actually like. im only becoming more and more distant and disinterested in our wider friend group (we never really go out much and im not close with any of them) and outside of school no matter how much i fill my time with nature and hobbies im just constantly bored and unsatisfied, i know its cliche but i just want to do all that typical teenage **** (house parties, get drunk, silly situationships, sleepovers, sneaking out, girls trips) i dont even know where to start i hate school and never really want to talk much when im there but i still want to have fun and the closer uni application start the more scared i am of that and making friends there. any advice would be greatly appreciated <333
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Original post by Anonymous
im just about to start my last year of highschool i only have 1 friend who i actually like. im only becoming more and more distant and disinterested in our wider friend group (we never really go out much and im not close with any of them) and outside of school no matter how much i fill my time with nature and hobbies im just constantly bored and unsatisfied, i know its cliche but i just want to do all that typical teenage **** (house parties, get drunk, silly situationships, sleepovers, sneaking out, girls trips) i dont even know where to start i hate school and never really want to talk much when im there but i still want to have fun and the closer uni application start the more scared i am of that and making friends there. any advice would be greatly appreciated <333

Hello there, my name is Judith. I think I understand a little what you are going through.I was there,at that age, everyone seems to have it together exept you..I have learnt later in life that all my issues at the time were steming from just one issue: I lacked self-esteem and I believe it is something all youngsters especially in their teenage years should have been taught to develop their self esteem because the way you see yourself and consider your positive traits and negative traits affects everything in your life. If you think you or someone you know need help to develop their self esteem,please reply to this comment and I will be more than glad to help.
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Original post by Anonymous
im just about to start my last year of highschool i only have 1 friend who i actually like. im only becoming more and more distant and disinterested in our wider friend group (we never really go out much and im not close with any of them) and outside of school no matter how much i fill my time with nature and hobbies im just constantly bored and unsatisfied, i know its cliche but i just want to do all that typical teenage **** (house parties, get drunk, silly situationships, sleepovers, sneaking out, girls trips) i dont even know where to start i hate school and never really want to talk much when im there but i still want to have fun and the closer uni application start the more scared i am of that and making friends there. any advice would be greatly appreciated <333

Helllooo, I am so sad to hear about your current situation. Some things you can do to become “less of a loser” is probably to be the leader of the group, plan night outs, and be the social communicator between the group chats/friend groups. try to communicate with people whom you aren’t used to, or you believe you’ll make good friends with due to similiar interests and come up to them and perhaps ask them if they wanna hang out, if your wanting to do the sneaking out stuff, find a new friend that’s used to going out to have fun, it’ll allow you to meet even more people cause of the connections they may have.
Original post by Deediz
Hello there, my name is Judith. I think I understand a little what you are going through.I was there,at that age, everyone seems to have it together exept you..I have learnt later in life that all my issues at the time were steming from just one issue: I lacked self-esteem and I believe it is something all youngsters especially in their teenage years should have been taught to develop their self esteem because the way you see yourself and consider your positive traits and negative traits affects everything in your life. If you think you or someone you know need help to develop their self esteem,please reply to this comment and I will be more than glad to help.

Yeah it's definitely a big issue in my life. I think I can only be a burden to other people so I'm really passive and not the most interesting person you'll ever talk to. So any hitch makes me instantly retract and I don't really have friends

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