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I'm uncomfortable around my dad

I'm 14 and ever since I turned 11 and started to grow into my body my dad has always made remarks about my body. He said that I have a nice butt, a good squatting build, good legs, ECT. I wore a crop top around the house and I caught him staring at my chest and it felt weird because he looked away immediately after I caught him staring. I didn't say anything though. I wore another crop top another time, this one was more covering mind you, and he said that I shouldn't wear crop tops around him and said "don't wear it, even in the house because I'm here and you know I'm a man so" and I felt very uncomfortable. I haven't worn the crop top since and I've only worn big T-shirts now but he still won't stop making those same remarks about my lower body. He's never touched me inappropriately but when I say goodnight to him he puts his hand on the back of my neck and kisses the side of my head while sniffing my hair. He also said I can't wear baggy pants because he doesn't like his it makes my waist look small and he won't be able to look away. I try not to go around him anymore but he always finds a way to be near me, is this normal father behavior and I'm just looking too deeply into it? I apologize for the long message but I'd really like to know if I'm just overreacting.
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If this is true, this is completely disgusting and out of line for your dad to be doing this and the way you feel is completely rational. This is definitely not father like behaviour. Have you spoken to anyone about this?
I would say tell you mother yes it seem wrong and could break up the family but if he is okay with sexual remark on your body and kissing you like that you need to get him away from you if he is ok doing that then soon he will be okay with touching and other stuff and if you don't say something know it could get worse
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Original post by Anonymous
I'm 14 and ever since I turned 11 and started to grow into my body my dad has always made remarks about my body. He said that I have a nice butt, a good squatting build, good legs, ECT. I wore a crop top around the house and I caught him staring at my chest and it felt weird because he looked away immediately after I caught him staring. I didn't say anything though. I wore another crop top another time, this one was more covering mind you, and he said that I shouldn't wear crop tops around him and said "don't wear it, even in the house because I'm here and you know I'm a man so" and I felt very uncomfortable. I haven't worn the crop top since and I've only worn big T-shirts now but he still won't stop making those same remarks about my lower body. He's never touched me inappropriately but when I say goodnight to him he puts his hand on the back of my neck and kisses the side of my head while sniffing my hair. He also said I can't wear baggy pants because he doesn't like his it makes my waist look small and he won't be able to look away. I try not to go around him anymore but he always finds a way to be near me, is this normal father behavior and I'm just looking too deeply into it? I apologize for the long message but I'd really like to know if I'm just overreacting.

No. That is weird. He basically blaming you for having sexual thoughts about you. Time for him to be called on. Sorry to say that. Those are early signs of someone with pedo tendency

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