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My boyfriend is struggling to stay hard

I'm 20 and he's 19 and whenever we try to have sex he loses his erection quickly. Is there anything we can do as he's a bit embarrassed by it and we haven't been successful yet.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and he's 19 and whenever we try to have sex he loses his erection quickly. Is there anything we can do as he's a bit embarrassed by it and we haven't been successful yet.

I would say almost certainly, but not certainly because could be other factors, I would say Stress. Stress has that affact, whether he is worried whether he can perform and then gets worse etc, or it could be some drugs (medical or otherwise) affecting. Well if he is prepared to pay maybe £120 or so, he could get a couple of hypnotherapy sessions, that can work especially if it is stress. Definitely that is what I would suggest.

Reply 2

ageshallnot

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and he's 19 and whenever we try to have sex he loses his erection quickly. Is there anything we can do as he's a bit embarrassed by it and we haven't been successful yet.

Is the situation different with other types of sex, eg hand, oral?

Reply 3

surf_lozz

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and he's 19 and whenever we try to have sex he loses his erection quickly. Is there anything we can do as he's a bit embarrassed by it and we haven't been successful yet.

Be understanding and take your time, as I been that guy before. Don't take it personally, nerves and performance anxiety can seriously effect libido, fearing not be able meet needs. Focus on learning each other bodies, f.oreplay, or.al sex, toys, lingerie everything but full sex. Build that trust and reassurance. Use massage. Help build his and yours confidence.

Don't ever think its because he finds you unattractive rest assured that is not the case.

Think time of day too, does he have morning glory? In which case have fun morning times.

Alternatively although own short term quick fix, viagra from pharmacy will help, only side effect slight headache afterwards, and rest assured ot will only work if your bf turned on by you too.

Good luck, I feel for you both.

Reply 4

surf_lozz

Sorry in addition: Fatigue and stress are your own worse enemy too. Just take your time and if you both really care for each other everything will blossom. I guess I feared I was too vanilla which gave way a little to my trouble staying hard.

Reply 5

surf_lozz

Original post by surf_lozz

Final point sorry...if your bf does go blue pill route, don't buy over counter. Much much cheaper be brave and request private sensitive understanding chat with pharmacist in consultation room 8 for £10.

Reply 6

H8Courtship217

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and he's 19 and whenever we try to have sex he loses his erection quickly. Is there anything we can do as he's a bit embarrassed by it and we haven't been successful yet.

i assume your BF was the one who asked you out and hit on you

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and he's 19 and whenever we try to have sex he loses his erection quickly. Is there anything we can do as he's a bit embarrassed by it and we haven't been successful yet.