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Why do I feel so frustrated knowing that my gf was touched by other guys? like hug n kiss… etc
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Original post by Anonymous
Why do I feel so frustrated knowing that my gf was touched by other guys? like hug n kiss… etc

This is something you need to work through.

You do not own your gf in the same way that she does not own you. Your gf hugging other people should not make you jealous or frustrated, in the same way you hugging someone should not have the same reaction in her. If it is about past bf that bothers you, the same applies. If she was intimate with other men/women then that is in the past and nothing to do with you.

Do have access to support (parent, wellbeing counsellor at school/university/work etc) to talk things through? Feeling like this is not healthy for you and especially not good for any relationship you have and could damage this one.

Relationships are a partnership of equals and require trust and effort.
Original post by Anonymous
Why do I feel so frustrated knowing that my gf was touched by other guys? like hug n kiss… etc

touch other guys to get back at her
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Original post by Anonymous
Why do I feel so frustrated knowing that my gf was touched by other guys? like hug n kiss… etc
Its really important you understand that she is her own person and she had a life before you. And she chose you so i there is nothing you should be worried abt
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Original post by 1freakypearcy
touch other guys to get back at her


that’s not helpin 😄
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Original post by Anonymous
This is something you need to work through.
You do not own your gf in the same way that she does not own you. Your gf hugging other people should not make you jealous or frustrated, in the same way you hugging someone should not have the same reaction in her. If it is about past bf that bothers you, the same applies. If she was intimate with other men/women then that is in the past and nothing to do with you.
Do have access to support (parent, wellbeing counsellor at school/university/work etc) to talk things through? Feeling like this is not healthy for you and especially not good for any relationship you have and could damage this one.
Relationships are a partnership of equals and require trust and effort.


The things is she let other guys touch her easily ( all of those men are not even tgt with her, just friends or stranger ) so yea idk, I don’t feel like I’m special to her.
I would talk to her about it. What if there's something more behind it?
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Original post by Anonymous
I would talk to her about it. What if there's something more behind it?


I did ask her about those stuff n she said she’s still have her V card blah blah blah.. but yea these things still bother me idk i guess i have to trust her :smile:
Did you explain to her that it bothers you?
Original post by Anonymous
Did you explain to her that it bothers you?


yea dude, she said it’s the past well true can’t do nth to change that facts. I’m so tired thinking of these things ..
If it happens again, then do something about it. If not, she's all yours obviously
If you're not her first, you just need to get past that, and also think: Is she your first?
Original post by BraeLynnT
If you're not her first, you just need to get past that, and also think: Is she your first?


She’s my very first gf, she’s my first kiss, she’s my every first about anything yk im not hers 😢 but I’m tryin to get thru this n stop my overthinking games .. 😀
I get how you feel. But think: the way to find "The One" is to go though many. She's already started that journey, and now its your turn. Who knows? Maybe she IS the one.

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