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I hate being told to "move on" when it actually tells me to give up

Why? For the past decade, I have "moved on" for several times and lost out chances every single time. This is why my life is in a f***ing mess.

I will not "move on" for the sake of pleasing some of them again. I will always be there for whom I love. I will always be there for whom I am making sacrifices. I will stand firm on getting what I deserve.

Be it 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, or longer, I will wait. I will wait until they realise I am the one for them. I will not let myself lose hope again. I will back down for those keeping me losing.

I see no reason why I don't deserve what everyone else has. I see no reason why I have to continue giving up my well-being for theirs.

Reply 1

SaucissonSecCy

I relate. You can't move on from a rarity that is the right person. It's extremely hard.

Reply 2

Zarek

This is fine, if it comes with the prospect of someone coming round to value your love. Generally people giving advice to move have learnt from experience that not doing so doesn’t work out well

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by SaucissonSecCy

I relate. You can't move on from a rarity that is the right person. It's extremely hard.

It is also about career opportunities. Those "friends" never stop telling me to "move on" when those opportunities are what I deserve and which are necessary for my CV

Reply 4

StriderHort

You're speaking as though you'll wait 5-10 whatever years... on the presumption of someone giving you a another chance... because you feel you deserve it?

So. uh, what if they don't ever realise what you want them to? Isn't that your life just ****ed into a hole of bitter self pity and entitlement in the forlorn hope of being able to triumphantly crow that they needed you after all!