I want to start off by saying I love and care for my boyfriend a lot, and I know he loves and cares about me too. We are both 18 and have been dating for almost two years now. Mostly, we have a very strong and good relationship. But at the same time, when I’m by myself and start thinking about thing, I have this extreme frustration and anger towards him and his lifestyle - I don’t think it’s jealously, more just frustration as to how disconnected he is from what it’s like not to have a super wealthy family who can provide absolutely everything for their children. To put into context, I’m not from a particularly wealthy family, so I’ve been working part time since I was 13 on top of full time school. I also participate in, and pay for, my own figure skating lessons which takes up a lot of time. I took driving lessons for six months and worked to help my mum pay for my lessons and driving test. I struggle with the fact that I have to work to help pay for all of these things and all the while my boyfriend has every opportunity to do things like learning to drive, participating in extracurricular activities etc all of which his parents would pay for, but yet he chooses not to. I often finding myself thinking he’s just lazy, though I never would say that to him. We’ve both left school now and have many months before college starts, so I am using this time to work a lot and my boyfriend is doing absolutely nothing with his time. I suggested maybe he could learn to drive since his parents would pay for all of the costs but he dismissed this idea quickly. This frustrates me especially since I have passed my driving test but cannot afford to insure a car, and my boyfriend always gets on at me that I should pay for insurance so I can drive us both places. And he won’t even learn to drive, even though his parents would cover his lessons AND insurance! He has no desire to learn. For me it was a privilege to be able to afford and to pass my test and I can’t understand why he wouldn’t want to learn if it won’t cost him anything. He has been unemployed for almost a year. He had one job which lasted a couple of months a long time ago. He’s been saying he will look for a new job for MONTHS. And he has done nothing about it despite me nagging him and offering to help him with a CV and to look for jobs. What really irritates me is that almost every day he complains that he ‘can’t’ get a CV written, he just simply can’t for no identifiable reason. I’m trying so hard to stay patient, but while I’m working my ass off to save for college, he’s complaining every day that he’s just unable to complete a CV. I get really angry at this since for me working is not a choice - it is something I do so I can financially support myself. Meanwhile he’s moaning about the difficulties of simply writing a CV, which has been going on for several months which to be honest I find pathetic. It would take twenty minutes to throw one together. I’m embarrassed when people ask what my boyfriend does, and I have to tell them he’s unemployed for no reason. And on top of that he can’t drive, and isn’t even planning on learning. His parents pay for everything he needs and to be honest I think this might just be a result of him being spoiled. I cringe at the things I’ve heard his mum say to him. When we go out, his mum always asks him if he needs more money. She buys him designed branded clothes because he’s ’worth all the money in the world’ and to be honest I find it quite sickening while I have to work for most of what I have. I have so much anger surrounding this and it’s driving me insane and I wish I didn’t feel this way. Can anyone help? What should I do? Is this a me problem?