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Don't want my flatmate to move out

Hi all.

I've been living with this flatmate for a while now. I really enjoy their company and living with them has been great. This week I've noticed their stuff moved out of the kitchen/bathroom, and other items are now in shopping bags. They haven't said anything yet, but I can totally see them being like "by the way, I'm moving out today" last minute.

I can't think of any other reason why they'd move their stuff and bag some of it up. I don't want to ask in case as they see it as me WANTING them to move. I'm just really going to miss them and also the fear of whoever moves into their room being a utter nightmare. Also our landlords communciation skills are not up to par so if my current flatmate moves, I can totally see me coming home one night to a random new person living in the house.

Just don't know how to deal with this
Reply 1
Also, just for transparency, I've had a crush on them for a long time
Original post by jt3500
Hi all.
I've been living with this flatmate for a while now. I really enjoy their company and living with them has been great. This week I've noticed their stuff moved out of the kitchen/bathroom, and other items are now in shopping bags. They haven't said anything yet, but I can totally see them being like "by the way, I'm moving out today" last minute.
I can't think of any other reason why they'd move their stuff and bag some of it up. I don't want to ask in case as they see it as me WANTING them to move. I'm just really going to miss them and also the fear of whoever moves into their room being a utter nightmare. Also our landlords communciation skills are not up to par so if my current flatmate moves, I can totally see me coming home one night to a random new person living in the house.
Just don't know how to deal with this

If you have them on social media you could message them privately to ask, and if they need any help with moving any of their stuff?
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Original post by Chronoscope
If you have them on social media you could message them privately to ask, and if they need any help with moving any of their stuff?

I don't, we just use iMessage to communicate when we don't see eachother. On the other hand it's like I'm scared for them to confirm if they ARE moving out
Original post by jt3500
I don't, we just use iMessage to communicate when we don't see eachother. On the other hand it's like I'm scared for them to confirm if they ARE moving out

If they're around, I would bite the bullet and ask as its probably better to find out now then discover they've gone which you might regret. Another option is to ask your other flatmates to see if they know if said flatmate is leaving.
Original post by jt3500
Hi all.
I've been living with this flatmate for a while now. I really enjoy their company and living with them has been great. This week I've noticed their stuff moved out of the kitchen/bathroom, and other items are now in shopping bags. They haven't said anything yet, but I can totally see them being like "by the way, I'm moving out today" last minute.
I can't think of any other reason why they'd move their stuff and bag some of it up. I don't want to ask in case as they see it as me WANTING them to move. I'm just really going to miss them and also the fear of whoever moves into their room being a utter nightmare. Also our landlords communciation skills are not up to par so if my current flatmate moves, I can totally see me coming home one night to a random new person living in the house.
Just don't know how to deal with this

@jt3500

It might be easier to ask your flatmate rather than your landlord. I don't think they would think you were suggesting they do move out, since it sounds like you have an okay relationship with them. I think they would understand that you had noticed some changes.

They might be going away for awhile. There might be a family matter, they could be going on holiday or even going on placement or doing an internship. It might be an idea to find out what the situation is so that if they are moving out, you have a bit of time to prepare yourself as well as to say goodbye, or even that you would like to stay in contact.

Hope that helps,

Oluwatosin 3rd year student University of Huddersfield

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