basically just a vent

okay guys, i just need to say this to someone, please feel free to give ur opinion!!
so im rlly close with my bsf and her full family, and she has a brother around my age (slightly younger which is the only thing i dont love) but we get on really well too, and my bsf likes to go to sleep really early, and she says i can go with him or in the living room and stuff, and usually when i go in his room we end up cuddling but he’s a really touchy person so i didnt think anything of it, i liked it anyway, and he acts the same during the day anyway, but the other day it happened and this time we ended up kissing, and we kissed a lot that night but never any further, usually when we cuddle he keeps his hands to my waist, this time tho they travelled a bit which i didnt mind, they were kinda on my bum and stuff, only thing is tho he was my first kiss and i dont want him knowing that cos ik im not his, and there’s no way i could tell my bsf about it
anyway, idk what to do because i do think i like him, but he’s younger and my bsf brother, the next day and today he just acted normal and stuff tho, i went home today though cos he’s made us all unwell, idk when ill go back but idk what will happen when i go back, because i do stay at their house for days at a time very often
please feel free to give advice!! just needed a place to speak this ahha

If he is under 16 and you are over 16 any sexual contact (kissing etc) is a criminal offence. You are having sexual contact with a minor.
If you are both over 16, then you need to consider how this will affect your relationship with your best friend.

i’m 16 and he’s 15

okay very technically, it is a criminal offence, however, when I was 15/16 (about 3 years ago) I knew exactly 0 people that cared about the age difference of what is essentially under 12 months. especially from 15-16 which is when most people are of a similar state of mind and maturity. I would definitely say to do this less and do not!! let it escalate any further, though. not only bc of the under 16 thing, but also because he is a friend's relative and it can get messy

Be careful. It is serious for you.
If the family find out and react badly, and make a complaint, you could be put on the sex offenders register. This will have far reaching repercussions for you and your life.
Plenty of people over the age of consent out there.

honestly idk how the student room works location-wise, like if it recommends questions to those in ur relative area or not.. I know this doesn't change legalities, however social context is super important here, just as it is for underage drinking and smoking. Most relationships in my area (London) during GCSE's (age 14/15-16) spanned over the top of that age range. not all of them were 'sexual' in nature, where the law could be involved, at that age it's mostly just about finding someone with similar experiences to talk to, anyways. That's why I said they shouldn't kiss again, and definitely should not escalate, but I'm here to give honest, realistic advice- I'm not a law enforcer. It can't be helped that that's already happened once, but OP is obviously not some sexual predator I'm 19 now, and still dating the guy I met at 15/ he was 16, no issue with people knowing as we weren't parading around in public or anything. You're right though, better to be safe than sorry- especially if they are the one above the age of consent in this situation.

The law is not a straitjacket that lacks nuance. The OP is 16 and her crush is 15. There is context to that engagement as there are months between them. No sane law enforcer or judge would take a case like that.
This would destroy many high school relationships currently happening where Person A turns 16 and Person B is still 15 and in the same school.

okay very technically, it is a criminal offence, however, when I was 15/16 (about 3 years ago) I knew exactly 0 people that cared about the age difference of what is essentially under 12 months. especially from 15-16 which is when most people are of a similar state of mind and maturity. I would definitely say to do this less and do not!! let it escalate any further, though. not only bc of the under 16 thing, but also because he is a friend's relative and it can get messy

This is probably just me, but I wanted to ask- when your best friend said- you can go with him or in the living room and “stuff”- Wdym? Because I’m sorry but I wouldn’t think that would mean the bedroom too and nowhere does it say your best friend would be fine with it.
It does come off as you being inconsiderate of your best friend and I hope you informed her about your “crush” on her brother.
Makes it worse if we take a look at the age situation too.

she does say to go to his room, i used to just go sit in the living room but her dad would even say to me go help him(her brother) with dishes and stuff then when we were finished go to his room cos he doesn’t like being bothered when he’s watching tv, im very close with them all and they all know i go to his room when im not with my friend, their dad will come in when im in there and say he’s going to bed and to turn off lights and stuff so it’s not as if it’s secret

she does say to go to his room, i used to just go sit in the living room but her dad would even say to me go help him(her brother) with dishes and stuff then when we were finished go to his room cos he doesn’t like being bothered when he’s watching tv, im very close with them all and they all know i go to his room when im not with my friend, their dad will come in when im in there and say he’s going to bed and to turn off lights and stuff so it’s not as if it’s secret

i’m 16 and he’s 15

If you want him, talk to your bsf about it. (Only if hes not with someone) If theyre rlly your bsf, they should understand.

If you want him, talk to your bsf about it. (Only if hes not with someone) If theyre rlly your bsf, they should understand.

i do but i don’t want to do anything about it for the sake of my friendship idk if it would mess things up

and no he’s not with someone