The Student Room Group

lonliness

ay so it’s recently just struck me that I genuinely have no friends. I have people to sit with at lunch and people that are nice and friendly to me but if I’m honest, I don’t enjoy their company and the only reason I hang out with them is so I don’t look like a complete loser.

Now back to my question.. I just want to be alone and undisturbed but at the same time, I don’t? I don’t like other people’s company but if I were to sit in the lunch hall on my own, people give you strange looks of pity and the looks they give you make you want to die and just punch yourself for being so lame. So that’s why I tend to eat with others even if I don’t necessarily talk to them. But I’ve just decided that I don’t want to be that odd one out in the group anymore. Nobody is outright mean to me or tells me to leave the lunch group but it’s quite obvious that I don’t belong with them. The library, has a no food policy, which is sad because it would be the ultimate place for me to go. Common rooms at my school have a lot of people there too, which is the opposite of what I want and classrooms are off limits so I’m completely stumped on where I could eat my lunch in peace, on my own, without any human interaction.
Haha I can relate to this way too much. Tbh I don’t mind having ppl’s company but if only like u said, I fit in with them and we get on together. Like yh I do have ppl I talk to in class or rarely if I see them outside but are they real friends? No. What I label them as is colleagues and nothing more. That’s another thing u feel like a loner being alone and obviously u think ppl with think stuff about u. For lunch I literally have nowhere to eat either (it’s a matter of going and sitting with ppl from your class as u said u don’t fit in and it’s just awkward being there), most of the time I won’t get anything or I’ll take food to my class before lunch ends because my teacher is slightly leaning even tho we shouldn’t have it. Tbh know that ur not alone bro and others are going through the same thing. I enjoy my own company but it would be nice to have a group of real ppl to chill with etc.
It's ok to sit alone in my apenion,
I sometimes sit alone and get on with my own things and In that time I don't care waht people think about me becouse I decided that's what I wanted to do.
But for me I feel good ether ways, with people and without, I don't mind if they came and sat with me, and if they didn't that's fine too.
You will find the right group of friend soon but you just need time.you should do what you feel lime doing and not act. And don't worry about what people think of you. Becouse where ever you go diffrent people will allways think of you in a diffrent way.


So if you enjoy being alone then why not, and if you don't then you will find the right people that you like to be around, but you just need time.
Original post by Mohamad.masre
It's ok to sit alone in my apenion,
I sometimes sit alone and get on with my own things and In that time I don't care waht people think about me becouse I decided that's what I wanted to do.
But for me I feel good ether ways, with people and without, I don't mind if they came and sat with me, and if they didn't that's fine too.
You will find the right group of friend soon but you just need time.you should do what you feel lime doing and not act. And don't worry about what people think of you. Becouse where ever you go diffrent people will allways think of you in a diffrent way.
So if you enjoy being alone then why not, and if you don't then you will find the right people that you like to be around, but you just need time.


Unfortunately I don’t have anymore time to find a group of friends as I leave in less than a month now after my exams. Also it’s one thing to sit alone and do work, this is different. But he’s talking about when you’re eating.
Original post by Anonymous
Unfortunately I don’t have anymore time to find a group of friends as I leave in less than a month now after my exams. Also it’s one thing to sit alone and do work, this is different. But he’s talking about when you’re eating.

I see.
Reply 5
I don't have friends either. I just eat in the canteen because literally no one cares or you can just eat as your walking around the area 🤷
"people give you strange looks of pity and the looks they give you make you want to die and just punch yourself for being so lame."

That's nothing to do with other people and sounds like some extreme projecting by you. Do what you want at lunchtime and ignore other people; they're not as interested in what you are doing as you think. You can even sit on your own and read a book; I do that in restaurants, including in evenings when it's busy, and no-one else bothers about it.
Original post by Anonymous
"people give you strange looks of pity and the looks they give you make you want to die and just punch yourself for being so lame."
That's nothing to do with other people and sounds like some extreme projecting by you. Do what you want at lunchtime and ignore other people; they're not as interested in what you are doing as you think. You can even sit on your own and read a book; I do that in restaurants, including in evenings when it's busy, and no-one else bothers about it.


Ur so cool
Original post by Devanshi Jain
ay so it’s recently just struck me that I genuinely have no friends. I have people to sit with at lunch and people that are nice and friendly to me but if I’m honest, I don’t enjoy their company and the only reason I hang out with them is so I don’t look like a complete loser.
Now back to my question.. I just want to be alone and undisturbed but at the same time, I don’t? I don’t like other people’s company but if I were to sit in the lunch hall on my own, people give you strange looks of pity and the looks they give you make you want to die and just punch yourself for being so lame. So that’s why I tend to eat with others even if I don’t necessarily talk to them. But I’ve just decided that I don’t want to be that odd one out in the group anymore. Nobody is outright mean to me or tells me to leave the lunch group but it’s quite obvious that I don’t belong with them. The library, has a no food policy, which is sad because it would be the ultimate place for me to go. Common rooms at my school have a lot of people there too, which is the opposite of what I want and classrooms are off limits so I’m completely stumped on where I could eat my lunch in peace, on my own, without any human interaction.


One thing I would suggest is either ask your Doctor / GP even have done privately whether you have a "Neurodivergence" A lot of people do, and can cause these things you describe. Whilst wanting company you somehow avoid it or put up without having it. You need to get it sorted. Other thing also might try is find good Hypnotherapist, they do range of things like hypnosis ,emdr etc and can greatly assist. I went to one other
day infact and found simply talking to her for an hour or so about my troubles was very releasing.
Original post by Anonymous
Ur so cool

It's a case of I'd rather do something on my own than miss out on it. I go to concerts and exhibitions on my own and solo travel; I enjoy it!
Original post by Anonymous
It's a case of I'd rather do something on my own than miss out on it. I go to concerts and exhibitions on my own and solo travel; I enjoy it!


I’d love to go to a concert 🙏

Quick Reply