Older men

I don't know if you've ever seen that chart- its a record of what is the ideal age of women according to men. As it goes from 18-50 year old males, their preferences stay within the range of 18-22 year old females. their interest in young girls is creepily common, and these men essentially want someone they believe is easier to manipulate and someone they perceive to be 'dumber' due to their age. They find it hot that someone is 'barely legal' and still in school. They use the 'you're so mature for your age' as a buffer to what is basically paedophilia, so it raises less red flags for you when they speak to you. Don't worry about wanting to flirt back, the creepiness is from their end. Idk about you, but for me I just liked the attention and I thought it was cool that older men liked me at 16/17, but now I'm 20, and if I imagine myself at 25/30, I would never even think of going after a teenager. Honestly, if you really want to, harmless talking online for a bit is fine if you want to entertain it for your curiosity, but things like this escalate really quick, so id recommend never reciprocating in person.

Also forgot to mention I am mixed race and these men that have flirted with me have all been white.
To be 100% honest I would like to meet an older man after I turn 18 soon but I don't know how I could go about it. My friends have said to try dating apps but idk how safe the men are on there. Ideally I'd want to date someone 10+ years older than me. Anyone have any advice on that too?

I would suggest that you stick to men within your age group until you are older and more mature.

What age would you say would be mature enough? I was hoping that by around 21, after finishing uni and if I haven't met someone then I could start talking to older men.

Id say about 35-40

But that's so old. Ideally I'd want to get married before or by the time I'm 30 so I would have to start a relationship with a man who's older many years before then

What age would you say would be mature enough? I was hoping that by around 21, after finishing uni and if I haven't met someone then I could start talking to older men.

I know an 80 year old pensioner, he'd be a good catch.

If you are 21, i would suggest that you play it by ear and see what options are there for you, but don't go too old as the large age gap could cause generational disconnect. For example, your man could think you are too childish if you want to go out with your mates as a 21 year old whilst he is 38 and wants to just have a chill weekend.
The typical age formula for women would be (Your age - 7) x 2
So it would be (21 - 7) x 2 = 28.

I know an 80 year old pensioner, he'd be a good catch.

What age would you say would be mature enough? I was hoping that by around 21, after finishing uni and if I haven't met someone then I could start talking to older men.

I'm not 21 yet but yes I know what you mean. I wouldn't go as far to date someone as old as like 40 or 50 currently as that's obviously too old

Why are older men attracted to me I'm 17 (nearly 18) and I've noticed mostly middle aged guys around early/mid 30s are generally more attracted/ flirt more with me than guys my age. Why does this always happen to me? I wouldn't consider myself more physically developed than your avarage 18 year old although most of my friends say I look and act 'mature' or 'mature for my age'

This iz so relatable except I'm 14

Oh lmao join the club I love older guys 😂. Did you make the post about the 18yr old?

Welp. I don't like it. I don't find it flattering and frankly, I wish they would stop approaching me. I am tired of them 🤷*♀️. I find it very weird that an older guy will step out of his age range and try to get with me. You're done with uni, working, have experienced life, and you're coming around a university to stake me out. That's weird. I haven't even started life. What can you get from me? Especially when 95% of them think I'm younger than I actually am. A 35 yr old should not be trying to date someone he thinks is 18.
Although I'm quite mature for my age, we still aren't in the same place mentally and if we are; then, he's limited mentally and not someone I can grow with. Honestly, I wouldn't recommend age gaps till you're at least 25 because that's when you mature fully, and can stand firm on who you are as a person and partner. So much change happens in your early 20s and it's a lot harder to go through those changes authentically if you have an older partner that could influence the path you take. I see so many of my mates with older guys doing things they wouldn't because they've been molded to fit that partner's ideals. That's unhealthy. If you're fully mature, it's harder for someone to come in and restructure your life to suit them.

Excellent post! Spot on with everything you've said.

Welp. I don't like it. I don't find it flattering and frankly, I wish they would stop approaching me. I am tired of them 🤷*♀️. I find it very weird that an older guy will step out of his age range and try to get with me. You're done with uni, working, have experienced life, and you're coming around a university to stake me out. That's weird. I haven't even started life. What can you get from me? Especially when 95% of them think I'm younger than I actually am. A 35 yr old should not be trying to date someone he thinks is 18.
Although I'm quite mature for my age, we still aren't in the same place mentally and if we are; then, he's limited mentally and not someone I can grow with. Honestly, I wouldn't recommend age gaps till you're at least 25 because that's when you mature fully, and can stand firm on who you are as a person and partner. So much change happens in your early 20s and it's a lot harder to go through those changes authentically if you have an older partner that could influence the path you take. I see so many of my mates with older guys doing things they wouldn't because they've been molded to fit that partner's ideals. That's unhealthy. If you're fully mature, it's harder for someone to come in and restructure your life to suit them.