Girlfriend giving me mixed signals

Myself and my girlfriend’s relationship has been on the rocks shall we say for the past couple of weeks. We have been together for nearly 8 months and said she wants to talk as her feelings for various things and things have happened in her life are all over the place at the moment. I have been very anxious about this as I have been worried what she might say to me. She has said it’s nothing bad but said she wants to talk. I bought her a gift a week ago as she was having a stressful time and she appreciated and it cheered her up but said it might have pushed me away? Sometimes she tells me she loves me and talks about our future plans we have made and says she is looking forward to them. However she sometimes doesn’t tell me she loves me or misses me and can be slightly abrupt. In addition she has said about the plans we have made she says we will need to find out if we will do them after we have spoken. This has been going on for about 2 weeks now and I’m quite stressed I don’t know why she is giving me mixed signals she has also said about a break from each other but also staying really close. She has also staying together but working through things. I just don’t know I love her loads and this is the closest I’ve been with someone and I don’t want to lose her.

Reply 1

BraeLynnT

16

Sometimes, I DEFINATLEY know, girls are confusing sometimes. We say things one time, and the opposite other times. I dont even know why we do. Just talk to her about what you're feeling. Tell her everything. Explain. If she really loves you, she'll listen and consider what you say. But also listen to her. Maybe she's going through something she doesn't feel 100% up to talking about. Communicate with her though. It'll be alrightm and I bet she loves you tons.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Myself and my girlfriend’s relationship has been on the rocks shall we say for the past couple of weeks. We have been together for nearly 8 months and said she wants to talk as her feelings for various things and things have happened in her life are all over the place at the moment. I have been very anxious about this as I have been worried what she might say to me. She has said it’s nothing bad but said she wants to talk. I bought her a gift a week ago as she was having a stressful time and she appreciated and it cheered her up but said it might have pushed me away? Sometimes she tells me she loves me and talks about our future plans we have made and says she is looking forward to them. However she sometimes doesn’t tell me she loves me or misses me and can be slightly abrupt. In addition she has said about the plans we have made she says we will need to find out if we will do them after we have spoken. This has been going on for about 2 weeks now and I’m quite stressed I don’t know why she is giving me mixed signals she has also said about a break from each other but also staying really close. She has also staying together but working through things. I just don’t know I love her loads and this is the closest I’ve been with someone and I don’t want to lose her.

as a girl if it gives u a piece of mind, she still is into you, maybe she just has something on her chest that’s worrying or troubling her, best thing to do would be to talk to her about it and see what would work best for ur future, atleast I don’t think she has lost interest in you which is good

Reply 3

Foxehh

21

Have the conversation soon and don't avoid it. If she has some negative feeling towards the relationship, that's only going to grow and exaggerate the longer she sits and thinks about it without actually talking to you. That's how resentment builds. Conversations are hard, but way easier than ignoring your issues.

Don't accept a 'break' though, if that's what she wants. A 'break' is just a prelude for a break up from someone who can't make up their mind. Either work it out or end it, don't string yourself along for games.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Myself and my girlfriend’s relationship has been on the rocks shall we say for the past couple of weeks. We have been together for nearly 8 months and said she wants to talk as her feelings for various things and things have happened in her life are all over the place at the moment. I have been very anxious about this as I have been worried what she might say to me. She has said it’s nothing bad but said she wants to talk. I bought her a gift a week ago as she was having a stressful time and she appreciated and it cheered her up but said it might have pushed me away? Sometimes she tells me she loves me and talks about our future plans we have made and says she is looking forward to them. However she sometimes doesn’t tell me she loves me or misses me and can be slightly abrupt. In addition she has said about the plans we have made she says we will need to find out if we will do them after we have spoken. This has been going on for about 2 weeks now and I’m quite stressed I don’t know why she is giving me mixed signals she has also said about a break from each other but also staying really close. She has also staying together but working through things. I just don’t know I love her loads and this is the closest I’ve been with someone and I don’t want to lose her.

Definitely let her know that you're still here for her- and don't be afraid of the talk, you haven't done anything wrong, you're just there to listen to something she probably needs to get off her chest or sort her thoughts out. Sometimes people just have a lot of pent up emotions that just need to be talked out, not even solved, and a listening ear is the best thing you can offer. If it gets to the point of discussing a break, make sure you tell her that a relationship with you is not 'another thing on her plate' which is a pretty common thing to think when someone is overwhelmed, and you want to be with her. At the same time, though, it shouldn't drain you or anything so I guess its just a matter of seeing what she says

Reply 5

Zarek

21

My advice would be to not question her too much and to allow some space. When a girl starts to not know what’s she wants smothering with love can be counterproductive. Be there for her, but keep your self confidence

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