Is my boyfriend using me

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now. However he’s never taken me out on a date and never bought me any kind of gifts. He does work and goes out a lot with his friends. The only time he ever wants to spend time with me is at his house or at mine. I just want to go on a date and feel loved. I feel used even after … I don’t feel happy I don’t like it anymore I don’t feel love but I also don’t know what to do

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Anonymous #2

I'm sorry thats happening ☹️ Have you told him you feel this way? To be honest if you've been together for a year there should be some signals he should be able to read- but anyways, sometimes they just need to be told upfront.

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Unknowngirl2409

I Have told him before like why do we never go out. I’m not even a materialistic person I don’t even mind paying and I’ve said it to him before. He always just has empty promises. He says he would rather spend time with me privately than publicly. And I say if you do come over again I’m not going to do anything but he just always ends up begging me to and I feel bad that I’m not giving him what he wants and scared he’s going to leave me. An example is flowers I love flowers so much , every month I buy myself new flowers to refresh my vase in my room and he always makes comment such as “I’ll get you flowers one day” for the past 8 months, but the inconsistency doesn’t even want me to have flowers anymore. We are young but we’re not kids. We both work full time and it makes me question he’s never gotten me a gift even on my birthday and I’ve showered him with plenty but the only thing he wants from me is sex. I don’t want to leave him I’m so scared to but I don’t know should I just be transparent with him ?

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Unknowngirl2409

I Have told him before like why do we never go out. I’m not even a materialistic person I don’t even mind paying and I’ve said it to him before. He always just has empty promises. He says he would rather spend time with me privately than publicly. And I say if you do come over again I’m not going to do anything but he just always ends up begging me to and I feel bad that I’m not giving him what he wants and scared he’s going to leave me. An example is flowers I love flowers so much , every month I buy myself new flowers to refresh my vase in my room and he always makes comment such as “I’ll get you flowers one day” for the past 8 months, but the inconsistency doesn’t even want me to have flowers anymore. We are young but we’re not kids. We both work full time and it makes me question he’s never gotten me a gift even on my birthday and I’ve showered him with plenty but the only thing he wants from me is sex. I don’t want to leave him I’m so scared to but I don’t know should I just be transparent with him ?

Actions speak louder than words, and they will tell you how a person really feels. I'm sure your boyfriend is a good guy, but making time for friends time and time again when you've expressed that you want to spend time with him is a little sh*tty. Making empty promises about the non-sexual side of the relationship, and then not keeping them, only to want sex from you, is bad. I don't wanna jump to the 'break up now' conclusion since you've been together so long, but if the only reason you're looking past this and staying with him is because you're scared to lose him, I don't think it's worth it. There are lots of ways to show someone you care without money, and he doesn't seem to get it/ put the effort in. Maybe tell him you're serious about having doubts in the relationship and see where it goes for the next month or so?

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Anonymous #2

But overall I'd say break up with him. You could do better

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