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Youre 27. single. just finished uni.returning to your hometown. no friends back home.

I'm just about to finish uni and I've been lonely here for three years. I have a best friend and a some other close friends. but iv e still felt very lonely at times.

I started uni at 24 and i turned 25 i think days after i moved in. I already felt like i stuck out abit because of that.
I think the locaiton of my uni was an issue as its quite small. same old places. everyone knows each other. but whos to say i would have met a good guy elsewhere..but i do feel it held me back.

I've been dumped twice and was in a relationship that lasted 6 months then I didn't have another relationship for like another year then I had another boyfriend a month then I got dumped again (nothing i did wrong, from what i can gather they didnt think we were compatible ) . Since ive been dumped now it's been over a year since I've been in a relationship.

It's sad really because I went out quite a lot hoping I meet somebody and now I've got a return home single , I'm worried how i'm going to make friends back home in my hometown which is got only like 14,000 people in roughly I can't afford to live on my own so I'm going to be living with family. I feel like im going backwards and not forwards.

Ive been told it gets harder when you're in your late 20s especially when you touch 30
and now I'm really worried now . I want to meet a good man but hes probably already snapped up by now. I'm probably not going to meet a decent man at a club (and maybe it would be a bit sad for me to go at 27 although apparently i look much younger than my age!) or a pub to be honest and there's no rule book and how to meet men after this .
I was in place where young people that they were much generally younger than me, not all but most would just sleep around and im at a small uni, small town its been so limiting! I just felt super sad because I had to go to clubs and my friends and I never slept with a random people but I did hope one day I would just meet a nice man! and it hasn't happened ,now I'm really worried =. I worry my life's going to go back to what it was before because I cam to uni. I had no friends. I'm not close to anybody back home, my year group in high school were pretty horrible (No exaggeration) .

i don't even have friends in my hometown although my best friend and others want to stay in touch and meet up- but they live miles away. It wont be the same.

add in the works that my town back home has quite a rough element (im no snob but i dont want to date a guy who swears and swigs stella around town thank you ).

People say nice things like oh you'll meet someone but I'm 28 in a few months. its hard. i wont just have a relationship for the sake of it either. then we would have to probably date for a while. both like each other. that takes time..

I'm upset. If you have any advice id appreciate it . Or any thoughts .
(edited 1 month ago)
Original post by Heyheyhey5
I'm just about to finish uni and I've been lonely here for three years. I have a best friend and a some other close friends. but iv e still felt very lonely at times.
I started uni at 24 and i turned 25 i think days after i moved in. I already felt like i stuck out abit because of that.
I think the locaiton of my uni was an issue as its quite small. same old places. everyone knows each other. but whos to say i would have met a good guy elsewhere..but i do feel it held me back.
I've been dumped twice and was in a relationship that lasted 6 months then I didn't have another relationship for like another year then I had another boyfriend a month then I got dumped again (nothing i did wrong, from what i can gather they didnt think we were compatible ) . Since ive been dumped now it's been over a year since I've been in a relationship.
It's sad really because I went out quite a lot hoping I meet somebody and now I've got a return home single , I'm worried how i'm going to make friends back home in my hometown which is got only like 14,000 people in roughly I can't afford to live on my own so I'm going to be living with family. I feel like im going backwards and not forwards.
Ive been told it gets harder when you're in your late 20s especially when you touch 30
and now I'm really worried now . I want to meet a good man but hes probably already snapped up by now. I'm probably not going to meet a decent man at a club (and maybe it would be a bit sad for me to go at 27 although apparently i look much younger than my age!) or a pub to be honest and there's no rule book and how to meet men after this .
I was in place where young people that they were much generally younger than me, not all but most would just sleep around and im at a small uni, small town its been so limiting! I just felt super sad because I had to go to clubs and my friends and I never slept with a random people but I did hope one day I would just meet a nice man! and it hasn't happened ,now I'm really worried =. I worry my life's going to go back to what it was before because I cam to uni. I had no friends. I'm not close to anybody back home, my year group in high school were pretty horrible (No exaggeration) .
i don't even have friends in my hometown although my best friend and others want to stay in touch and meet up- but they live miles away. It wont be the same.
add in the works that my town back home has quite a rough element (im no snob but i dont want to date a guy who swears and swigs stella around town thank you ).
People say nice things like oh you'll meet someone but I'm 28 in a few months. its hard. i wont just have a relationship for the sake of it either. then we would have to probably date for a while. both like each other. that takes time..
I'm upset. If you have any advice id appreciate it . Or any thoughts .

I would suggest finding a few social type clubs, walking, hobby clubs etc and meet someone that way. Gotta get out there and im sure someone will come along in same position who you will get on with. I know another young lady, 24 ,whose relatives keep saying "have you got a boyfriend yet" lol.

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