does love last a lifetime?

Look I know love exists, but its hard for me to see love lasting forever. How can you love someone when they change with time?
and more importantly, how can you move on after someone who you loved died, and start another relationship
I know so many people end up doing this, but dont u get a sense that your first love is invalidated,.
On top of that, how do u know when u love someone, how do you know they are the one??
what makes u cut off all the other endless opportunites and stop thinking abput what others u may have, and know deep down that they are the one youre looking for?
I know people say its a feeling, but how do I know im feeling that feeling and not something like attachment
thanks for reading if u did lol

for me, when i see love, its not really a feeling
its like a jigsaw puzzle the person either fits that or they dont
so people either date or ge engaged and actually take math before they actually get married so they understand the person and see if the person is for them
i hope u understand my point of view
and ur not the only one that thinks that
and yes people do get other relationships
some are beautiful; they cant get rid of the sense of loneliness and some decide to marry more than one wife
it depends on how u feel toward that person and their psychological similarities with you.

I've been in love for like 14 years. And she's not here all that time.

how can you get engaged without knowing them?

well in islam
when i want to get married, my parents or you choose the man or lady
then u get engage d then u basically date but every1 is aware u r dating
then if u think its right, you marry

oh okay, and if its not right?

and has your love remained with the same passion and dedication it had at the begininnig?

Look I know love exists, but its hard for me to see love lasting forever. How can you love someone when they change with time?
and more importantly, how can you move on after someone who you loved died, and start another relationship
I know so many people end up doing this, but dont u get a sense that your first love is invalidated,.
On top of that, how do u know when u love someone, how do you know they are the one??
what makes u cut off all the other endless opportunites and stop thinking abput what others u may have, and know deep down that they are the one youre looking for?
I know people say its a feeling, but how do I know im feeling that feeling and not something like attachment
thanks for reading if u did lol

There is no "the one" that's a stupid cultural construct that doesn't actually exist

For me I think I knew from the beginning that he was the one for me - even though we both were young and only friends at the time, I looked at him and saw a person I could call home. When we spoke, I was me - all parts of me and he appreciated and accepted that, even loves me for being me.
I don't think love or knowing that you're in love is just a feeling, it's also a choice. Don't get me wrong at least 40% of love is romance and physical attraction, but the other 60% is so much more than just a feeling. And imo, true love isn't about what your partner does for you. It's what they make you feel you want to do for them.
Do you look at them and think I want to make them smile their brightest, I want to give them a safe place where they can be themselves and freely express whatever is going on inside their head, I want to be there for them no matter what, I want to give them the love that they deserve, I want to better myself for them?
If you answer yes to that, you very well may be in love. (Another obvious hint is if your brain turns to absolute gobbldigoop around them and when they text you your heart does a lil turn, or you just can't stop smiling around them.)
I like to think that I was in love with him from the very beginning but if I had to pick a moment, I think it would be when he was there for me at my most vulnerable. Which he continues to do every single time. (Goodness damn, I love him so much.)
I think that when you really find the one, you never stop falling in love because they grow and the qualities that you fell for become more and more beautiful. And you fall in love with other qualities that develop in their growth. Of course there are hiccups and not so little hiccups, but part of love is working through it TOGETHER and making the choice to stick it out, knowing that the other is worth it.

i think u will not find love soon or u the type of person who wont be able to last to a relationship
as someone already said m=love is about patience but also ur commitment to that person

Ok? What does that have to do with what I said? I'm not saying that you can't be deeply attached to someone but to claim there is legit one person who is completely compatible to you that other people won't match up to is stupid

Ok? What does that have to do with what I said? I'm not saying that you can't be deeply attached to someone but to claim there is legit one person who is completely compatible to you that other people won't match up to is stupid

It's not stupid. Some people have a lifelong happy marriage or partnership and never consider other options. Some people lose a spouse/partner and don't get into another relationship because they don't find anyone compatible or feel that even small differences with someone else isn't enough or they can be happy with their life and memories without a new person.
I have a partner. He's my only ever boyfriend, because he's the only guy I've met that I know I love. If a friend had said to me "there's someone you should meet as a potential boyfriend" and described him to me I'd have said no, because we have quite different characters and interests. But that's what makes it work; we play to and complement each other's strengths and weaknesses and I know I won't find someone else like him. I was happy single before him, I'd be single after him because he's a complete one-off. Will there be compatible people out there for me? Yes. Would I date them? No.

I've been in love for like 14 years. And she's not here all that time.