Tattoo is ruining the wedding ?
Just recently, I’ve been thinking about my girlfriend’s tattoos, and they’ve started bothering me. She has five tattoos. The one on her back and two on her arm are bothering me. When I met her, she already had those tattoos, which was fine with me at first, but now it's bothering me because they might not look good on the wedding day. (Plus our culture doesn’t really value tattooing..)
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
What exactly do you think is going to happen? They're not going to come off or go away. They're permanent features. So if that's a problem then your relationship and marriage isn't going to work...
Original post by Anonymous
Just recently, I’ve been thinking about my girlfriend’s tattoos, and they’ve started bothering me. She has five tattoos. The one on her back and two on her arm are bothering me. When I met her, she already had those tattoos, which was fine with me at first, but now it's bothering me because they might not look good on the wedding day. (Plus our culture doesn’t really value tattooing..)
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
what do u want her to do about it 💀 also it's her body, i doubt she'd appreciate you complaining about how they don't look good
Reply 3
Original post by artful_lounger
What exactly do you think is going to happen? They're not going to come off or go away. They're permanent features. So if that's a problem then your relationship and marriage isn't going to work...
I’m saying it will not look good on the wedding day with those black ink and a white dress tgt… the things is our culture does not like tattoos, we’re from Asian.. Im not saying I hate tat, I just don’t find it attractive
Reply 4
Original post by elareare
what do u want her to do about it 💀 also it's her body, i doubt she'd appreciate you complaining about how they don't look good
Buddy I’m mature enough to know all of those. I hear to ask ppl ideas..
So why did you start dating her? She had them when you first met. If you don't find them attractive, you could have walked away.
She doesn't have to change herself or cover up or hide a part of herself just because you don't find it attractive. Nobody forced you to be with her. Don't go making her feel insecure on her wedding day. You either accept her as she was when you met her or let her find someone who will.
She doesn't have to change herself or cover up or hide a part of herself just because you don't find it attractive. Nobody forced you to be with her. Don't go making her feel insecure on her wedding day. You either accept her as she was when you met her or let her find someone who will.
Reply 6
Original post by DarylO
So why did you start dating her? She had them when you first met. If you don't find them attractive, you could have walked away.
She doesn't have to change herself or cover up or hide a part of herself just because you don't find it attractive. Nobody forced you to be with her. Don't go making her feel insecure on her wedding day. You either accept her as she was when you met her or let her find someone who will.
She doesn't have to change herself or cover up or hide a part of herself just because you don't find it attractive. Nobody forced you to be with her. Don't go making her feel insecure on her wedding day. You either accept her as she was when you met her or let her find someone who will.
I don’t find “TATTOO” attractive, but the person I’m staying with is Attractive.. and I’m fine with her tattoos cuz i met her with those tat.. I didn’t know she has those tattoo.. eps the one on her back, I discovered it after we’re together and break up is not an option cuz I truly love her, I’m just afraid of my “Asian” relative will judge us.. I know them rlly well
Original post by Anonymous
I don’t find “TATTOO” attractive, but the person I’m staying with is Attractive.. and I’m fine with her tattoos cuz i met her with those tat.. I didn’t know she has those tattoo.. eps the one on her back, I discovered it after we’re together and break up is not an option cuz I truly love her, I’m just afraid of my “Asian” relative will judge us.. I know them rlly well
If you're fine with her tattoos, then act like you are. Coming online to ask us how to tell her to hide them doesn't prove that you're fine with her tattoos. If you really love her, her happiness and self esteem should matter more then the opinion of your relatives. You don't need to tell me how judgemental they are. I'm African. Our relatives and parents are the same when it comes to judging us. But if you love and accept someone, you should be able to turn a deaf ear to the relatives' judgement. Which is why I ask "why did you start dating her?"
'Ruin the wedding' is a very strong phrase; is that how you really feel or is it wedding nerves (being lenient here)? Communication is key in a relationship, so I'm struggling with someone who is mature enough to get married, but comes online to ask this question. If you haven't spoke to your girlfriend about this, how will bigger and more serious issues between you be managed in future?
Thing is, no-one has actually said anything against the tattoos yet, except you. If they do, you ignore it or stand up to any naysayers and show how much you love your partner. You haven't even said 'Asian family', so is 'relative' a more distant connection and what involvement will they have with you during your marriage? If it's none, stop stressing.
Thing is, no-one has actually said anything against the tattoos yet, except you. If they do, you ignore it or stand up to any naysayers and show how much you love your partner. You haven't even said 'Asian family', so is 'relative' a more distant connection and what involvement will they have with you during your marriage? If it's none, stop stressing.
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
Just recently, I’ve been thinking about my girlfriend’s tattoos, and they’ve started bothering me. She has five tattoos. The one on her back and two on her arm are bothering me. When I met her, she already had those tattoos, which was fine with me at first, but now it's bothering me because they might not look good on the wedding day. (Plus our culture doesn’t really value tattooing..)
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
I would persuade here ,nicely, would look good without them. Then for the wedding you can simply Mask them. Either use skin coloured plasters,which you can get, large ones if need be, or some other cosmetics masking and cover them for the wedding day. Easy to do.
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
I would persuade here ,nicely, would look good without them. Then for the wedding you can simply Mask them. Either use skin coloured plasters,which you can get, large ones if need be, or some other cosmetics masking and cover them for the wedding day. Easy to do.
Not something you decide for other people though.
Original post by Anonymous
I would persuade here ,nicely, would look good without them. Then for the wedding you can simply Mask them. Either use skin coloured plasters,which you can get, large ones if need be, or some other cosmetics masking and cover them for the wedding day. Easy to do.
How do you know she won't look good with them? Anyway, they are an expression of her character and shouldn’t be covered up because the OP thinks someone might be bothered by them.
Reply 12
You could suggest she covers them, you can buy strong foundation specifically designed for covering tattoos however if you go this route be prepared for it to back fire. She clearly has no problem and I have spoke to some people who use their wedding and the dress they buy in order to showcase their tattoos, make the suggestion (not demand, my Mum demanded I cover mine and I refused and got another while on honeymoon) and see how it goes but she may be quite hurt if you ask her to cover a part of her artwork that she is particularly fond of
Original post by Anonymous
Just recently, I’ve been thinking about my girlfriend’s tattoos, and they’ve started bothering me. She has five tattoos. The one on her back and two on her arm are bothering me. When I met her, she already had those tattoos, which was fine with me at first, but now it's bothering me because they might not look good on the wedding day. (Plus our culture doesn’t really value tattooing..)
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
How should I talk to her about this?
What should I ask her to do?
You should encourage her to have them removed by lasers? Nothing tackier than a bride showing tattoos. Do you really want all your friends and family thinking you’re marrying a trashy Chav?
Apparently laser removal is expensive and painful, but who wants a wife with tattoos? What will your future children think having an inked mother? Everyone you meet, every where you go, you’ll be judged as a chavvy family
Original post by Sarah242
You should encourage her to have them removed by lasers? Nothing tackier than a bride showing tattoos. Do you really want all your friends and family thinking you’re marrying a trashy Chav?
Apparently laser removal is expensive and painful, but who wants a wife with tattoos? What will your future children think having an inked mother? Everyone you meet, every where you go, you’ll be judged as a chavvy family
Apparently laser removal is expensive and painful, but who wants a wife with tattoos? What will your future children think having an inked mother? Everyone you meet, every where you go, you’ll be judged as a chavvy family
I don't like tattoos but it doesn't mean they're a "trash chav".
People can get them for special reasons like the death of the parents or a significant event. Don't just label them once you see them. People can also make mistakes when getting them and then can't afford the laser surgery as it can be very costly.
Original post by Sarah242
You should encourage her to have them removed by lasers? Nothing tackier than a bride showing tattoos. Do you really want all your friends and family thinking you’re marrying a trashy Chav?
Apparently laser removal is expensive and painful, but who wants a wife with tattoos? What will your future children think having an inked mother? Everyone you meet, every where you go, you’ll be judged as a chavvy family
Apparently laser removal is expensive and painful, but who wants a wife with tattoos? What will your future children think having an inked mother? Everyone you meet, every where you go, you’ll be judged as a chavvy family
this makes absolutely no sense to be honest. you want the bride to go through a painful procedure because a woman with tattoos is unmarriageable? what happened to concealer, or accepting her as is...?!
even I think you are being fairly unreasonable, and tattoos are against my religion.
and also, sarah dear, this post is two months old...
Tattoo threads always throw up the wildest opinions.
“Just so you’re not surprised on the big day, she has some tattoos which she already had when we met. She’s the love of my life regardless.”
Job done.
“Just so you’re not surprised on the big day, she has some tattoos which she already had when we met. She’s the love of my life regardless.”
Job done.
Reply 17
well if u really love her than I think it shouldn't matter what she looks like or what tattoos she might have and if u still love her with them then it shows that your relationship is real bc u love each other for who u are instead of appearances
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