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Should I let my sister go?

Firstly, it's not easy for me, I also like to clarify that my sister is alive and not dead, the title to me sounds like she died when she hasn't. Now to the situation.

A while ago, my family disowned me over my politcal views (I'm a conservative and they're not. Although I don't agree with certain political views I always have a friendly conversation and talk about why, whereas my family are upset with me being a conservative, they called me all sorts of names and said I'm only saying I'm a conservative to p""s the family of). When I was disowned I didn't hear from anyone, my oldest sister messaged me a few days ago out of the blue, acting like nothing happened.

Today, I'm just done physically and mentally. My middle sister needed to sort something out, she was meant to go somewhere to grab something in order for her to do the thing she needed, it turns out she didn't need that item. My middle sister lives with my older sister and went back home empty handed. My middle sister texted my older sister and explained what happened, I knew she didn't need that item to do the thing and I kept saying it to them. My oldest sister called me up, she was furious that our sister went home empty handed. She was cursing at me and I ended the call, she tried calling me twice, then texted me. We got into a rowing match, I finally called her out on her behaviour. Our middle sister is autistic, she's fiercly independent, she needs occasional help like we all do now and again. Our older sister treats my middle sister likes a baby and she's always been bossy to her. My middle sister hates it, she feels like a little baby, I called her out over her behaviour, more curse names was flying out of her mouth in text messages.

I finally deleted social media, I blocked her on everything. I'm so done with her behaviour. My middle sister feels like she's constantly having to choose between me and our other sister. I don't want her to choose, I'm trying to stick up for her as she doesn't stick up for herself, that's the one thing she doesn't do. My sister messaged saying she hates being in the middle. I can't do this anymore, I no longer want a relationship with my sister. During semester two my mental health spiralled because of the hurtful things my oldest sister said. I love my middle sister, I just can't stand our oldest sister anymore. Should I let her go? Would it make my life better by being in complete no contact with my oldest sister?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Forgive and forget (or just forgive)

Reply 2

londonmyst

If you are 100% certain that you no longer want a relationship with your sister, let her go.
Make it crystal clear to all your mutual friends and any family members you like that you will never have any contact with her again under any circumstances.