Reporting domestic abuse when I don’t want to
Hi,
My family are forcing me to report my boyfriend/ex boyfriend for domestic abuse when I don’t want to, I feel like we were just as bad as eachother and they are making him out to be worse than he is even though I do get scared of him and he has anger issues and threatens me and them alot. I still love him and liked his company, I’m confused what to do because I don’t want anything to happen to him.
My family are forcing me to report my boyfriend/ex boyfriend for domestic abuse when I don’t want to, I feel like we were just as bad as eachother and they are making him out to be worse than he is even though I do get scared of him and he has anger issues and threatens me and them alot. I still love him and liked his company, I’m confused what to do because I don’t want anything to happen to him.
okay I obv don't know the context here but I will say that a lot of people in toxic relationships try and justify awful things through love. No one leaves a toxic relationship because they don't love the other person. It's because they love themselves more.
If your partner has ever laid their hands on you, scares you when they are angry or threatens you, they are a violent partner. In that case, you need to leave the relationship before things get worse.
About reporting them, that's not for you. It's for other people. It's to help other people avoid this person when they're doing a quick background check before their first date. I would never let someone I love go on a date with someone with a history of domestic violence. If you feel that your partner could hurt someone as much as they have hurt you, please do report them and save some poor girl from a life of misery and violence.
Your family loves you and is trying to protect you. Please don't mistake the highs and lows of a toxic relationship for love. And please don't ignore the people that are trying to protect you. I hope you make the right decision <3
If your partner has ever laid their hands on you, scares you when they are angry or threatens you, they are a violent partner. In that case, you need to leave the relationship before things get worse.
About reporting them, that's not for you. It's for other people. It's to help other people avoid this person when they're doing a quick background check before their first date. I would never let someone I love go on a date with someone with a history of domestic violence. If you feel that your partner could hurt someone as much as they have hurt you, please do report them and save some poor girl from a life of misery and violence.
Your family loves you and is trying to protect you. Please don't mistake the highs and lows of a toxic relationship for love. And please don't ignore the people that are trying to protect you. I hope you make the right decision <3
Original post by Anonymous
Hi,
My family are forcing me to report my boyfriend/ex boyfriend for domestic abuse when I don’t want to, I feel like we were just as bad as eachother and they are making him out to be worse than he is even though I do get scared of him and he has anger issues and threatens me and them alot. I still love him and liked his company, I’m confused what to do because I don’t want anything to happen to him.
My family are forcing me to report my boyfriend/ex boyfriend for domestic abuse when I don’t want to, I feel like we were just as bad as eachother and they are making him out to be worse than he is even though I do get scared of him and he has anger issues and threatens me and them alot. I still love him and liked his company, I’m confused what to do because I don’t want anything to happen to him.
Original post by Ciel.
as long as you're an adult, then even if they report him (without any concrete evidence), nothing will happen.my neighbour constantly reports us (dv allegations against my boyfriend, noise complaints and all that). but if you deny everything they police doesnt do anything.
Well I was in hospital for something I did and they all think he did it and a domestic abuse worker came and asked me loads of questions and I ended up saying yes to most questions and they sent it off to police, but some questions they would try and tell me it’s a yes not no even when I wanted to say no just because of the things I’ve told them which I don’t think was that bad and they are reading too much into everything and making him sound worse than what he is. What would happen if they have already informed police about him?
Original post by Anonymous
Well I was in hospital for something I did and they all think he did it and a domestic abuse worker came and asked me loads of questions and I ended up saying yes to most questions and they sent it off to police, but some questions they would try and tell me it’s a yes not no even when I wanted to say no just because of the things I’ve told them which I don’t think was that bad and they are reading too much into everything and making him sound worse than what he is. What would happen if they have already informed police about him?
idk, depends how serious the allegations are. whenever my neighbour reports us and i have to talk to the police, they usually just ask a few questions, i deny everything and they leave. if they are persistent or comment on any bruises etc (which usually have nothing to do with my boyfriend, i just bruise easily and have a giant, crazy dog, lol) i just start messing with them and tell them i'm into bdsm, lol.
but yeah, if your partner is actually really abusive or something, you might wanna consider cooperating with the police. if you want. i know everyones situation is different
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