Third year

I am a third year student at DMU and unfortunately I am not in the right mental state when doing my assignment I was struggling so bad but I could not ask for help because of the shame that I am feeling and now to make maters worst I have failed my core module by 38% literally 2 points away form passing and I am really struggling accepting it and I do not want to retake it because I don't want to graduate during winter time specially not with my friends and it is very embarrassing and I do not know how to break the news to my parents as this will disappoint them and it will just make my mental state decline even more. I am very devastated about this and I don't know what to do anymore I don't know who to talk to and I don't know what will happen to me anymore. I have done much to get into degree and finding out that I might not graduate in September is really taking a toll on me. Please help me. Anyone that has been in this situation please help me.

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She-Ra

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Original post by Anonymous

I am a third year student at DMU and unfortunately I am not in the right mental state when doing my assignment I was struggling so bad but I could not ask for help because of the shame that I am feeling and now to make maters worst I have failed my core module by 38% literally 2 points away form passing and I am really struggling accepting it and I do not want to retake it because I don't want to graduate during winter time specially not with my friends and it is very embarrassing and I do not know how to break the news to my parents as this will disappoint them and it will just make my mental state decline even more. I am very devastated about this and I don't know what to do anymore I don't know who to talk to and I don't know what will happen to me anymore. I have done much to get into degree and finding out that I might not graduate in September is really taking a toll on me. Please help me. Anyone that has been in this situation please help me.

Hello

It sounds like you’ve had a really hard time. Feeling shame can make me want to hide so I can understand why reaching out for help felt impossible.

Have you checked with your uni if it is still possible to join graduation in the summer and retake this assignment in August?

I have heard of this being possible at some universities - perhaps DMU might offer it too?

Someone in a student support team should be able to advise you. DMU have an academic support page on their website which links through to well-being.

In my experience taking a small step by asking the question about what is possible can make you feel so much better.

:heart:

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De Montfort University

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Original post by Anonymous

I am a third year student at DMU and unfortunately I am not in the right mental state when doing my assignment I was struggling so bad but I could not ask for help because of the shame that I am feeling and now to make maters worst I have failed my core module by 38% literally 2 points away form passing and I am really struggling accepting it and I do not want to retake it because I don't want to graduate during winter time specially not with my friends and it is very embarrassing and I do not know how to break the news to my parents as this will disappoint them and it will just make my mental state decline even more. I am very devastated about this and I don't know what to do anymore I don't know who to talk to and I don't know what will happen to me anymore. I have done much to get into degree and finding out that I might not graduate in September is really taking a toll on me. Please help me. Anyone that has been in this situation please help me.

Dear @Anonymous - I am deeply sorry to hear that you are struggling so much and that this year has perhaps not gone as you had hoped.😰

To echo the wise words of @She-Ra , it is so isolating to feel and experience the fallout from those emotions. It can be overwhelming to think about what steps can put you on the right path moving forward again. :frown:

As a DMU student support is available and we endeavour to help and provide this to our students as much as we can throughout their journey with us here, both emotional and academic. :lovedup:

We want to ensure that all students have a positive experience at DMU. It's important to us that you ask for advice and support as early as possible with any issues you might be facing in order to reduce the possible impact on your mental health. :sadnod:

However, it is not too late to ask and this first - albeit scary and sometimes nerve-wracking - step is a step in the right direction nonetheless. Ultimately your mental wellbeing is the most important!

As a current student, please do pop the Wellbeing team an email on [email protected] or book a Single Point of Access (SPA) appointment via MyGateway 📧 :cyber:

This might help you feel like you can then begin tackling the other elements you mentioned are causing you distress. :heart:

Please also feel free, but no pressure, to contact your Student Advice Centre as part of your Faculty. These teams have the expertise and the support systems in place to help with the academic side of things and can be a great resource when paired with the help from our Student Services and Wellbeing team.🤗

As you mentioned, shame, understandably, is becoming a big worry and a barrier to you feeling like you can move towards a resolution. Perhaps looking into support online might feel easier? I would recommend to look into Tellmi.💬

Our DMU students can now access this new service, Tellmi, which provides free digital mental health support, 365 days a year to anyone aged 11+ across Leicester, Leicestershire and Rutland. Tellmi is a safe, anonymous app where you can talk to people your age who get what you are going through or join conversations that matter to you. If you need professional support, their in-house counsellors are available 365 days a year. Find out more here: Tellmi helps

I hope that things improve for you soon. The hardest thing to remember, but the truth, is that you are not alone. Small steps are still steps in the right direction.😇

Best wishes,

-Rose🌹, De Montfort University Rep.

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