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This girl started flirting with me when I was 16 and she was 24. When I turned 18 she went to my house for work purposes and gave me hints that she wanted to sleep with me. I didn't know until I told my friends what happend and they said she definitely wanted to sleep with me. If you want to know what she did she basically went inside my house and she was in the living room and I told her I was going to get something in my room and she went inside my room and said "your not gonna give me a tour". I found out what she was trying to do and texted her that wanted to see her and she rejected me and dosent respond to my text anymore. Is this considered grooming? Is she mad I didn't want to sleep with her? Why did she reject me? Why does she not respond to my messages?
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Original post by Anonymous
This girl started flirting with me when I was 16 and she was 24. When I turned 18 she went to my house for work purposes and gave me hints that she wanted to sleep with me. I didn't know until I told my friends what happend and they said she definitely wanted to sleep with me. If you want to know what she did she basically went inside my house and she was in the living room and I told her I was going to get something in my room and she went inside my room and said "your not gonna give me a tour". I found out what she was trying to do and texted her that wanted to see her and she rejected me and dosent respond to my text anymore. Is this considered grooming? Is she mad I didn't want to sleep with her? Why did she reject me? Why does she not respond to my messages?

this is technically grooming as you were underage at the beginning of the start of this situation. she probs rejected you because she either now knows you have the capacity to call her out for her actions and she cant control you or that she lost interest but its most likely the first one. and she probs didnt responf to your messages to ignore the ideas that come to her mind of that day and basically trying to remove that moment so shes not as guilty. dont think of it as something you did, but something she did and is not taking account for.
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Original post by Anonymous
This girl started flirting with me when I was 16 and she was 24. When I turned 18 she went to my house for work purposes and gave me hints that she wanted to sleep with me. I didn't know until I told my friends what happend and they said she definitely wanted to sleep with me. If you want to know what she did she basically went inside my house and she was in the living room and I told her I was going to get something in my room and she went inside my room and said "your not gonna give me a tour". I found out what she was trying to do and texted her that wanted to see her and she rejected me and dosent respond to my text anymore. Is this considered grooming? Is she mad I didn't want to sleep with her? Why did she reject me? Why does she not respond to my messages?

she was toying with you
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Original post by t4hs23
this is technically grooming as you were underage at the beginning of the start of this situation. she probs rejected you because she either now knows you have the capacity to call her out for her actions and she cant control you or that she lost interest but its most likely the first one. and she probs didnt responf to your messages to ignore the ideas that come to her mind of that day and basically trying to remove that moment so shes not as guilty. dont think of it as something you did, but something she did and is not taking account for.

Do you think she still likes me? I don't think so but she did text me first and when I replied she didn't respond. I believe she just texted me to see if I still like her but what do you think?
Original post by t4hs23
this is technically grooming as you were underage at the beginning of the start of this situation. she probs rejected you because she either now knows you have the capacity to call her out for her actions and she cant control you or that she lost interest but its most likely the first one. and she probs didnt responf to your messages to ignore the ideas that come to her mind of that day and basically trying to remove that moment so shes not as guilty. dont think of it as something you did, but something she did and is not taking account for.

16 is NOT underage at all. That is age of consent ,in UK at least
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Original post by Anonymous
16 is NOT underage at all. That is age of consent ,in UK at least

I live in America
Original post by Anonymous
I live in America

statutory grooming....
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
statutory grooming....

What are your thoughts on my situation?
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
What are your thoughts on my situation?

16 is the legal age of concent but it only allows up to 20
Original post by Adamarie17
16 is the legal age of concent but it only allows up to 20

WRONG. That is entirely and utterly wrong.

A 16 year old can have sex with anyone else over 16 ,whether they be 16,18, 20, 28 30, 40 whatever. THAT is in the UK. There are other laws governing those like teachers or persons in position of power over the 16 year old.
Thpe problem is people are posting different Country's laws. This is a UK Forum I believe, but people from USA are posting their laws, which are different to UK.
Original post by Anonymous
I live in America

Well since you are on a UK based forum why dont you make that CLEAR, because UK laws apply in UK and US laws apply is US.
Original post by Anonymous
WRONG. That is entirely and utterly wrong.
A 16 year old can have sex with anyone else over 16 ,whether they be 16,18, 20, 28 30, 40 whatever. THAT is in the UK. There are other laws governing those like teachers or persons in position of power over the 16 year old.

danggg, yall in the UK are lucky cuz in US it is only up to 20 once we turn 16
Original post by Adamarie17
danggg, yall in the UK are lucky cuz in US it is only up to 20 once we turn 16

Ah OK noted.
Original post by Adamarie17
danggg, yall in the UK are lucky cuz in US it is only up to 20 once we turn 16

It varies from state to state and by situation:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_the_United_States
(edited 7 months ago)
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Original post by t4hs23
this is technically grooming as you were underage at the beginning of the start of this situation. she probs rejected you because she either now knows you have the capacity to call her out for her actions and she cant control you or that she lost interest but its most likely the first one. and she probs didnt responf to your messages to ignore the ideas that come to her mind of that day and basically trying to remove that moment so shes not as guilty. dont think of it as something you did, but something she did and is not taking account for.

Do you think she was trying to sleep with me when she went to my house for a session and said that ?

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