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Family still treat me like a child when I’m in my late 20s

My family are always treating me like I’m a child still and I had moved away to be with my boyfriend for a year and suddenly they started causing problems trying to accuse him of being abusive and because it messes with my head and I start thinking they might be right I started agreeing with them. They don’t even know him they just analyze every detail they see in pictures of me etc, like I might have a bruise and they will say he’s been abusing me. Then I start thinking maybe he has and I was just that drunk I don’t remember or something because they tell me things like those kind of bruises don’t appear from nowhere. It’s ended up been reported to the police and everything but I am happy with him, they made me move back home and controlling me but I’m not happy here. They think I’m too stupid to know what he’s doing, constantly saying I’m still like a kid to my face & that I’m vulnerable and that he would choose someone like me because of how vulnerable i am. just because I’m shy which affects me and stops me being able to mature when they treat me like a kid all the time. My boyfriend always tells me I’m smart and encourages me, yet they want to say he’s the bad one. If I wasn’t happy with him I wouldn’t keep wanting to go back, I don’t know what to do because it’s been reported to the police and my family get angry saying I’m not allowed to go back. Any advice? Should I contact the police and tell them this.
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Original post by Anonymous
My family are always treating me like I’m a child still and I had moved away to be with my boyfriend for a year and suddenly they started causing problems trying to accuse him of being abusive and because it messes with my head and I start thinking they might be right I started agreeing with them. They don’t even know him they just analyze every detail they see in pictures of me etc, like I might have a bruise and they will say he’s been abusing me. Then I start thinking maybe he has and I was just that drunk I don’t remember or something because they tell me things like those kind of bruises don’t appear from nowhere. It’s ended up been reported to the police and everything but I am happy with him, they made me move back home and controlling me but I’m not happy here. They think I’m too stupid to know what he’s doing, constantly saying I’m still like a kid to my face & that I’m vulnerable and that he would choose someone like me because of how vulnerable i am. just because I’m shy which affects me and stops me being able to mature when they treat me like a kid all the time. My boyfriend always tells me I’m smart and encourages me, yet they want to say he’s the bad one. If I wasn’t happy with him I wouldn’t keep wanting to go back, I don’t know what to do because it’s been reported to the police and my family get angry saying I’m not allowed to go back. Any advice? Should I contact the police and tell them this.

First off, which Country are you in ,the UK ?
Original post by Anonymous
My family are always treating me like I’m a child still and I had moved away to be with my boyfriend for a year and suddenly they started causing problems trying to accuse him of being abusive and because it messes with my head and I start thinking they might be right I started agreeing with them. They don’t even know him they just analyze every detail they see in pictures of me etc, like I might have a bruise and they will say he’s been abusing me. Then I start thinking maybe he has and I was just that drunk I don’t remember or something because they tell me things like those kind of bruises don’t appear from nowhere. It’s ended up been reported to the police and everything but I am happy with him, they made me move back home and controlling me but I’m not happy here. They think I’m too stupid to know what he’s doing, constantly saying I’m still like a kid to my face & that I’m vulnerable and that he would choose someone like me because of how vulnerable i am. just because I’m shy which affects me and stops me being able to mature when they treat me like a kid all the time. My boyfriend always tells me I’m smart and encourages me, yet they want to say he’s the bad one. If I wasn’t happy with him I wouldn’t keep wanting to go back, I don’t know what to do because it’s been reported to the police and my family get angry saying I’m not allowed to go back. Any advice? Should I contact the police and tell them this.


Are there any historic things (don't say what they are) that may cause them to think you are Vulnerable ? Maybe something happened long ago and they think you are still that same age etc and cannot understand you have grown up. Late twenties is usually old enough tp do what you want when you want. That said I knew a young lady who was likely about your age ,who was vulnerable because of sexual abuse since young age,and she ended up marrying someone even though she didnt want to, simply because she did not have ability to say No. She was that shy and vulnerable.
Original post by Anonymous
My family are always treating me like I’m a child still and I had moved away to be with my boyfriend for a year and suddenly they started causing problems trying to accuse him of being abusive and because it messes with my head and I start thinking they might be right I started agreeing with them. They don’t even know him they just analyze every detail they see in pictures of me etc, like I might have a bruise and they will say he’s been abusing me. Then I start thinking maybe he has and I was just that drunk I don’t remember or something because they tell me things like those kind of bruises don’t appear from nowhere. It’s ended up been reported to the police and everything but I am happy with him, they made me move back home and controlling me but I’m not happy here. They think I’m too stupid to know what he’s doing, constantly saying I’m still like a kid to my face & that I’m vulnerable and that he would choose someone like me because of how vulnerable i am. just because I’m shy which affects me and stops me being able to mature when they treat me like a kid all the time. My boyfriend always tells me I’m smart and encourages me, yet they want to say he’s the bad one. If I wasn’t happy with him I wouldn’t keep wanting to go back, I don’t know what to do because it’s been reported to the police and my family get angry saying I’m not allowed to go back. Any advice? Should I contact the police and tell them this.

Your words and actions don't match. How can you claim to be mature enough then allow others to convince you that your bf who you actually live with is abusive but they have never met him?

If you have history of abuse or immaturity, maybe work on that to prove that you are grown.

Good luck

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