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Does anyone else feel lonely?

I'm a sixth former and I don't have a boyfriend. I know it's not the end of the world but sometimes I feel lonely and I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to rush getting myself into relationship just out of desperation, because I would rather stay committed to one person and the idea of saying '' love yous' to different people is not my thing. I wasn't too bothered about getting a boyfriend in high school but even at that time, being single was never a problem for me. But now that I'm older I'm envious of my friends and there are moments in life where I think it would be nice to have someone alongside me doing this activity or having someone to chill with at home or getting a lift. Just the little things in life, I'm not asking for big fancy dates or expensive gifts. I do want to focus on my career as I have high aspirations but at the same time I don't know if this "loneliness" is going to hold me back or make me "miserable", which is something I don't want. I want to find a way to overcome this and I know that I will find a long term partner at some point I just don't know when and how and who and waiting in anticipation isn't healthy. Does anyone have any advice they can offer?
Original post by Anonymous
I'm a sixth former and I don't have a boyfriend. I know it's not the end of the world but sometimes I feel lonely and I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to rush getting myself into relationship just out of desperation, because I would rather stay committed to one person and the idea of saying '' love yous' to different people is not my thing. I wasn't too bothered about getting a boyfriend in high school but even at that time, being single was never a problem for me. But now that I'm older I'm envious of my friends and there are moments in life where I think it would be nice to have someone alongside me doing this activity or having someone to chill with at home or getting a lift. Just the little things in life, I'm not asking for big fancy dates or expensive gifts. I do want to focus on my career as I have high aspirations but at the same time I don't know if this "loneliness" is going to hold me back or make me "miserable", which is something I don't want. I want to find a way to overcome this and I know that I will find a long term partner at some point I just don't know when and how and who and waiting in anticipation isn't healthy. Does anyone have any advice they can offer?

You should find happiness in something to overcome the negative emotions - this could be hanging out with friends, spending time with family, meeting new people, go on self-dates and treating yourself, joining a club, picking up a new hobby, and so on!
Moreover, loneliness is a normal emotion people feel now and then - yet it’s easy to overcome when you have the motivation each morning to get out of bed to look forward into doing something.

Fill your schedule with different activities and it’s not too late to find someone to have a relationship with - spending time with them.

I wish you all the best and good luck with your journey. I hope the feeling of emptiness and loneliness disappears soon. :smile:

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Original post by Anonymous
I'm a sixth former and I don't have a boyfriend. I know it's not the end of the world but sometimes I feel lonely and I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to rush getting myself into relationship just out of desperation, because I would rather stay committed to one person and the idea of saying '' love yous' to different people is not my thing. I wasn't too bothered about getting a boyfriend in high school but even at that time, being single was never a problem for me. But now that I'm older I'm envious of my friends and there are moments in life where I think it would be nice to have someone alongside me doing this activity or having someone to chill with at home or getting a lift. Just the little things in life, I'm not asking for big fancy dates or expensive gifts. I do want to focus on my career as I have high aspirations but at the same time I don't know if this "loneliness" is going to hold me back or make me "miserable", which is something I don't want. I want to find a way to overcome this and I know that I will find a long term partner at some point I just don't know when and how and who and waiting in anticipation isn't healthy. Does anyone have any advice they can offer?

I think might be a good idea to seek some help and advice. Let me suggest, you look up a good Hypnotherapist on Hypnotherapy Directory (Google it and will be first few results) and ask for a 20-30 minute free consultation. They will likely tell you what they think etc and then if you think can work for you then get a full proper session. Can work.

Do you think you could be "Neurodivergent" ?. That can cause things like social anxiety etc etc etc resulting in loneliness.

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Original post by Anonymous
I think might be a good idea to seek some help and advice. Let me suggest, you look up a good Hypnotherapist on Hypnotherapy Directory (Google it and will be first few results) and ask for a 20-30 minute free consultation. They will likely tell you what they think etc and then if you think can work for you then get a full proper session. Can work.
Do you think you could be "Neurodivergent" ?. That can cause things like social anxiety etc etc etc resulting in loneliness.

addi9ng to my post. Yes you are very very right to concentrate on HAPPINESS of Yourself ,above all else. Really who wants to be rich and unhappy. Better to be happy with no money.

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