Is sex really all that it’s hyped up to be?

I’ve just gotten a partner and I think I want to have sex with him but I keep backing out. I’ll admit porn has affected my mind on certain things(I don’t watch it anymore) but when he dropped his boxers for the first time it was thick but short which is totally fine but in porn they’re normally thick and long. If anyone has tried either do tell which is better. I’m a virgin but was molested when I was 6, so I gain no pleasure from sex at all and honestly it scares me so idk

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Original post by Anonymous

I’ve just gotten a partner and I think I want to have sex with him but I keep backing out. I’ll admit porn has affected my mind on certain things(I don’t watch it anymore) but when he dropped his boxers for the first time it was thick but short which is totally fine but in porn they’re normally thick and long. If anyone has tried either do tell which is better. I’m a virgin but was molested when I was 6, so I gain no pleasure from sex at all and honestly it scares me so idk

well
it seems you are not ready
and d*** size doesnt really matter; it depends on people's preferences
You are not the only one who has changed ideas about sex due to porn
sex is just something people seem to find pleasure in
However, if you don't
also
If you think you are not ready, then don't do it because a lot of people have been through the idea of sex and are currently suffering from mental problems.
I hope this helps
if u have question, just ask

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Mwolf

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Original post by Anonymous

I’ve just gotten a partner and I think I want to have sex with him but I keep backing out. I’ll admit porn has affected my mind on certain things(I don’t watch it anymore) but when he dropped his boxers for the first time it was thick but short which is totally fine but in porn they’re normally thick and long. If anyone has tried either do tell which is better. I’m a virgin but was molested when I was 6, so I gain no pleasure from sex at all and honestly it scares me so idk

gets longer when aroused fully if that's what you are asking for/about. If you think he wants sex and you aren't ready, say so. Don't have sex just to please a guy. Sit him down, tell him you entrust him enough to tell him and keep this between the two of you. That you have PTSD trauma from sexual assault as a child and this makes you feel vulnerable and insecure and you appreciate his patience. If he responds by blabbing about it, demanding sex, and tries to convince you to do so, leave the situation. Otherwise the situation will become another PTSD trauma. Make sure to include the reason why you don't enjoy sex, and it's fine to say you are scared due to those reasons. It would be like a flashback. Ask to take things slow, ensuring consent each step of the way. If you are referring to PIV, there are other ways to enjoy orgasms. Can consider counseling to overcome things, but only if you are doing so because you feel you are ready to have sex and trauma is the reason not cause he wants you to and you have had trauma.

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