I'm fed up of uni

Just want to preface this by saying this is more just a rant than looking for actual help or solutions. I've posted similar threads before been overwhelmingly told to drop out and that I'm gonna fail in my degree/future career because of my *****y attitude. I'm not looking to drop out or change courses, I just like yapping on the internet lol.

As the title says, I'm fed up of uni and basically can't stand it at the moment. I'm a second year Oxford law student (not the one who posted the other rant about how **** it is here, it must just be widely held opinion) and just finding absolutely no enjoyment in my course or in being here at the moment.

I have basically zero motivation to study and find myself just involuntarily zoning out and not participating enough in tutorials and when I try to participate I just end up ******* up the point I was trying to make and getting berated by the tutor for it. My average mark this term is 63 which is okay but very mediocre and I'm still getting the same marks I was getting in my first term of uni. No matter how hard I work (and I've had periods of putting in serious 50 hour weeks previously), my marks just don't seem to be improving which is again very demotivating. I'm finding the content extremely painful at the minute and just dreading this **** being my life forever.

I also just generally hate being here. I don't have a single friend and spend basically all my free time in my room alone so I don't really do any fun stuff or anything at all aside from study then go back to my room. Most other people love it here and say they've met the best friends of their life but that has just been the complete opposite of my experience here. I try to go out for a walk or talk to my housemates at least once a day so I'm not just entirely in my room alone but that doesn't really help either.

I just generally hate it here and find no enjoyment in my course or being in Oxford at all at the minute. I have my year abroad next academic year and then only one more year in Oxford and go through periods of finding it more tolerable here so I'm not looking to drop out or switch unis, just hating it at the minute and needed to rant.

Reply 1

Nikiki

Original post by Anonymous

Just want to preface this by saying this is more just a rant than looking for actual help or solutions. I've posted similar threads before been overwhelmingly told to drop out and that I'm gonna fail in my degree/future career because of my *****y attitude. I'm not looking to drop out or change courses, I just like yapping on the internet lol.
As the title says, I'm fed up of uni and basically can't stand it at the moment. I'm a second year Oxford law student (not the one who posted the other rant about how **** it is here, it must just be widely held opinion) and just finding absolutely no enjoyment in my course or in being here at the moment.
I have basically zero motivation to study and find myself just involuntarily zoning out and not participating enough in tutorials and when I try to participate I just end up ******* up the point I was trying to make and getting berated by the tutor for it. My average mark this term is 63 which is okay but very mediocre and I'm still getting the same marks I was getting in my first term of uni. No matter how hard I work (and I've had periods of putting in serious 50 hour weeks previously), my marks just don't seem to be improving which is again very demotivating. I'm finding the content extremely painful at the minute and just dreading this **** being my life forever.
I also just generally hate being here. I don't have a single friend and spend basically all my free time in my room alone so I don't really do any fun stuff or anything at all aside from study then go back to my room. Most other people love it here and say they've met the best friends of their life but that has just been the complete opposite of my experience here. I try to go out for a walk or talk to my housemates at least once a day so I'm not just entirely in my room alone but that doesn't really help either.
I just generally hate it here and find no enjoyment in my course or being in Oxford at all at the minute. I have my year abroad next academic year and then only one more year in Oxford and go through periods of finding it more tolerable here so I'm not looking to drop out or switch unis, just hating it at the minute and needed to rant.

Hey, seems like you’re in a bit of a rut!!! I’m gonna probably give you some bad advice you didn’t ask for I know.. but maybe some of it might be useful for you. Just breathe. Maybe try find atleast one positive thing about the situation. Always looking at the negatives has maybe caused you to just think of the whole situation as negative it can have a lot to do with mindset! Idk you personally but is this what you are passionate about? Maybe you aren’t finding this as interesting or exciting as you thought it would be as this might not be right for you. Just don’t put yourself down as you are trying and have worked to the best of your ability to get to where you are today! Try find something about the situation that intrigues you, set goals, start small. Make a goal that you are going to try and listen to the whole class and ask questions. This can make it more interesting idk

Reply 2

The_Lonely_Goatherd

Just posting to gently dispute that 63 is "very mediocre"! Anywhere outside Oxbridge, I'm not sure you'd be saying that :nah:

That said, I hear your frustrations. Sorry to hear it's been such a crappy experience for you thus far. Sending lots of hugs (though I appreciate that's not much use for anything either!) :jumphug:

Letting off steam can be somewhat good for the soul, so I hope other current students, prospective students, and alumni who read this will let you do that without judgment :yes: