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Was she trying to sleep with me?

This girl is 26 and I was 18 and she went to my house for a counseling session because she was my councelar. She went inside and I told her that I was going to get something from my room. She then goes inside my room and tells me "your not gonna give me a tour" my friends told me she was trying to sleep with me what do you think?

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Reply 1
how did you go from "counseling" to "councelar"?
Reply 2
well it difficult to tell she might have just wanted to get to know you better considering she is counseling you and if she was sarcastily or talking in that tone "if you know you know" then she could have been wanting to hope this helps
Reply 3
Original post by indotime
well it difficult to tell she might have just wanted to get to know you better considering she is counseling you and if she was sarcastily or talking in that tone "if you know you know" then she could have been wanting to hope this helps

She would always flirt with me
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
She would always flirt with me
What sort of flirting? What would she say?
I'll guess 'No' - just wishful thinking from you.
Reply 6
Original post by Doomotron
What sort of flirting? What would she say?

Gave me the nickname the chosen one and told me not to tell anyone. Followed me on Instagram first. Would check me out. Always wanted to touch my hand. Gave me gifts and wanted to have matching keychains. Asked if i had a girlfriend. Went to my graduation. Bragged about my accomplishments to other people. Told her friends about me. Always complented me. Would say i make her nervous. When we were near alot of people she would always find a way to sit next to me.
I can see where you're coming from but to me, if she is your counselor, maybe she was being sweet to try deepen your bond so that you can be more comfortable being honest with her. There's no point debating this on here, but I would ask her if it bothers you. But make no mistake about it, if she is flirting with you it is quite inappropriate considering her position
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
I can see where you're coming from but to me, if she is your counselor, maybe she was being sweet to try deepen your bond so that you can be more comfortable being honest with her. There's no point debating this on here, but I would ask her if it bothers you. But make no mistake about it, if she is flirting with you it is quite inappropriate considering her position

Absolutely. While not all of the things the OP listed as being her flirty behaviour are actually flirty, if she is flirting it's an issue and something that could be career-ending.
Original post by Anonymous
This girl is 26 and I was 18 and she went to my house for a counseling session because she was my councelar. She went inside and I told her that I was going to get something from my room. She then goes inside my room and tells me "your not gonna give me a tour" my friends told me she was trying to sleep with me what do you think?

This is my personal advice but take it as you will.

As you are an adult, unless she is repulsive to you or within prohibited categories, never turn down box.
Reply 10
Original post by Wired_1800
This is my personal advice but take it as you will.
As you are an adult, unless she is repulsive to you or within prohibited categories, never turn down box.

She was flirting with me since I was 16
Original post by Anonymous
She was flirting with me since I was 16
That’s wrong. Please report it
Reply 12
I'll tell you what I told another student who was in a similar position. This is not a flattering situation to be in. She's your counsellor, and she's taking advantage of a teen in a vulnerable place. It doesn't matter if you're 15 or 18. She shouldn't be doing that and you shouldn't see this as a compliment. I can't imagine my counsellor taking advantage of that trust to try to sleep with me. That's terrible. If someone's a counsellor, they have to be very messed up in the head to make advances on the kids under their care.

What I'll suggest is that you set clear boundaries and keep your interactions professional. Don't let her into your bedroom again. If she keeps pushing the line, tell her she's making you uncomfortable and let a trusted adult know what's going on.
Reply 13
Original post by DarylO
I'll tell you what I told another student who was in a similar position. This is not a flattering situation to be in. She's your counsellor, and she's taking advantage of a teen in a vulnerable place. It doesn't matter if you're 15 or 18. She shouldn't be doing that and you shouldn't see this as a compliment. I can't imagine my counsellor taking advantage of that trust to try to sleep with me. That's terrible. If someone's a counsellor, they have to be very messed up in the head to make advances on the kids under their care.
What I'll suggest is that you set clear boundaries and keep your interactions professional. Don't let her into your bedroom again. If she keeps pushing the line, tell her she's making you uncomfortable and let a trusted adult know what's going on.

Do you think she was trying to sleep with me tho I'm very curious.
Reply 14
Original post by indotime
well it difficult to tell she might have just wanted to get to know you better considering she is counseling you and if she was sarcastily or talking in that tone "if you know you know" then she could have been wanting to hope this helps

She was showing signs of attraction for a while before she went to my house
Reply 15
You know i think she is just trying to bond with you like everyone is saying just because someone says that doesn't mean they want to sleep with you or have sex some people just might really getting to know you more!! Am I wrong???🤔🧐
Reply 16
was it like play flirting? or real flirting like trying to get with you? and what should she say/do if your not confertable talk here just pm me I'll respond
Reply 17
Original post by indotime
was it like play flirting? or real flirting like trying to get with you? and what should she say/do if your not confertable talk here just pm me I'll respond

Gave me the nickname the chosen one and told me not to tell anyone. Followed me on Instagram first which your not supposed to do. Would say I hate you I a flirty tone. Would check me out. Always wanted to touch my hand. Gave me gifts and wanted to have matching keychains. Asked if i had a girlfriend. Went to my graduation. Bragged about my accomplishments to other people. Told her friends about me. Always complented me. Would say i make her nervous. When we were near alot of people she would always find a way to sit next to me. She used to work at my school before she was my counselar and I was told she fought hard and had to convince her boss to be my counselor. So she was showing attraction since I was 16 and when she went to my house I was 18.
Reply 18
well some of the things you pointed out are just play full I think like the nickname idk why she wouldn't anyone else to know following you in insta is strange if anything I would sugjest posting a pic and seeing how fast they like the post and comment it can show you if they actively look at your instagram. going to graduation not that strange if she is a teacher/ counsular they might have to go. asking if your in a relation ship I mean she is your counsular not that strange unless she looked happy after you said that you should say you have a bf/ gf idk you idk what way you swing and see if she is happy or sad about the news bragging to her friends is strange to say the least like she wants you to be her daughter or something. sitting next to you might just be her not knowing anyone there but idk. but begging her boss to be your courser is weird and the affecting at 16 years old is also pedo like this can also be kind of stalker vibes. if there more info like that I could see what it could mean always good for extra eyes in situations like that if anything new happens let me know hope this helps
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Reply 19
Original post by indotime
well some of the things you pointed out are just play full I think like the nickname idk why she wouldn't anyone else to know following you in insta is strange if anything I would sugjest posting a pic and seeing how fast they like the post and comment it can show you if they actively look at your instagram. going to graduation not that strange if she is a teacher/ counsular they might have to go. asking if your in a relation ship I mean she is your counsular not that strange unless she looked happy after you said that you should say you have a bf/ gf idk you idk what way you swing and see if she is happy or sad about the news bragging to her friends is strange to say the least like she wants you to be her daughter or something. sitting next to you might just be her not knowing anyone there but idk. but begging her boss to be your courser is weird and the affecting at 16 years old is also pedo like this can also be kind of stalker vibes. if there more info like that I could see what it could mean always good for extra eyes in situations like that if anything new happens let me know hope this helps

She didn't need to go to my graduation she texted me asking "can I go to your graduation" and right after that she texted me "who's you gf now these days" we weren't in session. She knew everybody In the room and talked to them more than me and she was still trying to sit next to me.

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