Confused

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months. I recently broke up with him because I had realized I have feelings for my ex, & they haven't left for the two years after I broke up with that ex. I thought that I had moved on from said ex, but now I'm wondering if I made the wrong choice of breaking up with my boyfriend over this. I like them both & can't choose who I should be with. My 2-year-long ex told me that I shouldn't get back with my recent ex because they were a bit controlling & never fixed it in the relationship. But I want to be with my more recent ex because they're in person & my 2-year-long ex isn't. Any advice?

Reply 1

Surnia

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Stay single for now and don't get back with these previous boyfriends; they are your exes for a reason!

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

I'd have generally said figure out attraction Vs love before doing anything, and to mention your thoughts to your most recent ex before breaking up with him. Communication and comprehension will get you really far.

From experience, being with someone you know is controlling will only fuel their imagination for how much more controlling they can get away with being.

Also consider if your recent ex will trust you. In his head, what's to say you won't leave him again for someone else? Just be careful with how you approach other people with their feelings.