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Is it okay for my boyfriend keep looking on girls online?

Girls and boys, I need some advice. My bf and I been together for almost 2.5 years. It’s my first relationship but I’m not his. He has experience with girls. I’m not even gonna talk about he’s exes cause they are all…H…Really tho. Anyways he had a porn addiction and he hid it from me. I was telling him that I’m not comfortable. He always said sorry etc idk why I’m doing this. I know that he really loves me and he is showing it to me since day 1. I know that he’s faithful to me cause we’re together all the time. After a lot of fights about this thing because he was continuing to do it behind my back I got tired of telling him or searching his phone to expose him. But lately I’m a little bit insecure. And I looked his phone. I saw like 15 girls on his search history on social media (girls from porn videos with theirs undies and u know what I mean…) I feel so sad and betrayed. What should I do?? Why he keep looking at them?? I feel like if I’m not around and not having sex often enough he will go back to watching other girls…. He knows that I don’t feel comfortable about it. Should I expose him again?? Tell him to delete this platform that he’s been watching these girls?? Or keep quiet since he already knows how I feel about it and just break up with him when I’m ready psychologically and just tell him I’m freaking over this shi ??? I know porn addiction is a problem but I offered him to help him with physical touch u know…or even photos of me that HE HAS ON HIS PHONE😏 Like whenever he needs to I’m here.I guess he got bored of my photos and wanted to look at other females.I ******* don’t know. I need help
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
Girls and boys, I need some advice. My bf and I been together for almost 2.5 years. It’s my first relationship but I’m not his. He has experience with girls. I’m not even gonna talk about he’s exes cause they are all…H…Really tho. Anyways he had a porn addiction and he hid it from me. I was telling him that I’m not comfortable. He always said sorry etc idk why I’m doing this. I know that he really loves me and he is showing it to me since day 1. I know that he’s faithful to me cause we’re together all the time. After a lot of fights about this thing because he was continuing to do it behind my back I got tired of telling him or searching his phone to expose him. But lately I’m a little bit insecure. And I looked his phone. I saw like 15 girls on his search history on social media (girls from porn videos with theirs undies and u know what I mean…) I feel so sad and betrayed. What should I do?? Why he keep looking at them?? I feel like if I’m not around and not having sex often enough he will go back to watching other girls…. He knows that I don’t feel comfortable about it. Should I expose him again?? Tell him to delete this platform that he’s been watching these girls?? Or keep quiet since he already knows how I feel about it and just break up with him when I’m ready psychologically and just tell him I’m freaking over this shi ??? I know porn addiction is a problem but I offered him to help him with physical touch u know…or even photos of me that HE HAS ON HIS PHONE😏 Like whenever he needs to I’m here.I guess he got bored of my photos and wanted to look at other females.I ******* don’t know. I need help

ofc its not okay.due to his addiction he must want more of it from other girls as ur not comfortable.plus they r online famous apple he aint gnna go a f them is he?its very hard to overcome asw if u love him u got to charge it.other wise break up.
Reply 2
Original post by TRANMHF
ofc its not okay.due to his addiction he must want more of it from other girls as ur not comfortable.plus they r online famous apple he aint gnna go a f them is he?its very hard to overcome asw if u love him u got to charge it.other wise break up.


Thanks for replying. Yes I love him and I want our relationship to last but he isn’t cooperating. I know that he won’t f them,like ever, but should I confront him for the 200000 time? Or just break up when I’m ready???
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for replying. Yes I love him and I want our relationship to last but he isn’t cooperating. I know that he won’t f them,like ever, but should I confront him for the 200000 time? Or just break up when I’m ready???

No problemmm.dont confront him talk to him about it.try to take his mind off about it eg doing something fun!if this still doesn't work talk to him about breaking up-if he says he doesn't want to and he'll change then its good!
Original post by Anonymous
Girls and boys, I need some advice. My bf and I been together for almost 2.5 years. It’s my first relationship but I’m not his. He has experience with girls. I’m not even gonna talk about he’s exes cause they are all…H…Really tho. Anyways he had a porn addiction and he hid it from me. I was telling him that I’m not comfortable. He always said sorry etc idk why I’m doing this. I know that he really loves me and he is showing it to me since day 1. I know that he’s faithful to me cause we’re together all the time. After a lot of fights about this thing because he was continuing to do it behind my back I got tired of telling him or searching his phone to expose him. But lately I’m a little bit insecure. And I looked his phone. I saw like 15 girls on his search history on social media (girls from porn videos with theirs undies and u know what I mean…) I feel so sad and betrayed. What should I do?? Why he keep looking at them?? I feel like if I’m not around and not having sex often enough he will go back to watching other girls…. He knows that I don’t feel comfortable about it. Should I expose him again?? Tell him to delete this platform that he’s been watching these girls?? Or keep quiet since he already knows how I feel about it and just break up with him when I’m ready psychologically and just tell him I’m freaking over this shi ??? I know porn addiction is a problem but I offered him to help him with physical touch u know…or even photos of me that HE HAS ON HIS PHONE😏 Like whenever he needs to I’m here.I guess he got bored of my photos and wanted to look at other females.I ******* don’t know. I need help

Personally I think that’s a huge red flag, and if he wants to be looking at other females then let him but don’t let it affect you, I would leave him.