dont know what i want out of life or career

hi, im on track to get good alevel grades and have recieved good gcses but i cant help but doubt my career decision. even the course i picked now was to make my parents happy, i know its a really dumb decision but when i think about my future and what career i REALLY want my head is saying 'yes, but what would your mum/dad/siblings/extended family/friends/teachers think?' and i doubt myself. people always say 'choose what you love' but how can you know what you love when every single thing youve done in hopes of finding a career has been haunted by the thought of making those around you happy? ive taken the damn UCAS careers quiz 5000 times and each result ive got is business management/solicitors/financial management etc etc but im scrolling through them thinking 'no XYZ wouldnt want me doing that', 'oh so-and-so is in law school. they'll think i have copied them'... Im at such a crossroads in life i cant stop thinking of others? its my life, but i cant seem to accept it

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Anonymous #2

I think at the end of the day, you can't focus on other people's opinions too much. Why should it matter if so-and-so is also in law school? there will be lawyers other than that person! pursue the career you want. it doesn't matter what others think! If nothing mattered, what do you think would be your ideal job, in a perfect world?

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Fifipencil11

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Original post by Anonymous

I think at the end of the day, you can't focus on other people's opinions too much. Why should it matter if so-and-so is also in law school? there will be lawyers other than that person! pursue the career you want. it doesn't matter what others think! If nothing mattered, what do you think would be your ideal job, in a perfect world?

I second it
Figures that OP should find some exercises and other things to help them embrace their individuality cuz they can't keep going on like this.

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Fifipencil11

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I second that
Figures that OP should prioritize their individuality and get into a habit of doing so, it won't be sustainable for much longer.

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

hi, im on track to get good alevel grades and have recieved good gcses but i cant help but doubt my career decision. even the course i picked now was to make my parents happy, i know its a really dumb decision but when i think about my future and what career i REALLY want my head is saying 'yes, but what would your mum/dad/siblings/extended family/friends/teachers think?' and i doubt myself. people always say 'choose what you love' but how can you know what you love when every single thing youve done in hopes of finding a career has been haunted by the thought of making those around you happy? ive taken the damn UCAS careers quiz 5000 times and each result ive got is business management/solicitors/financial management etc etc but im scrolling through them thinking 'no XYZ wouldnt want me doing that', 'oh so-and-so is in law school. they'll think i have copied them'... Im at such a crossroads in life i cant stop thinking of others? its my life, but i cant seem to accept it

hey, I am similar in some perspective here. I was always pushed and encouraged, not forced, by family to go down the dentistry and or medicine route (I ended up on dentistry). Although, my real interest lies more in computer science and economics and business, those type of careers and subjects. but at the end of the day after much reflecting I realised that dentistry is a career that is firm, as in I will be paid a good salary post degree at university because it is sought after, and even if I do a degree in dentistry it doesn't mean my whole life is committed to being a dentist, if I want to open a business, my dentist job can facilitate that by providing security. don't think that just because you are doing X degree at university, you can't do anything post university. Sometimes you shouldn't do what you like for security, if you were to be a solicitor there'd be a lot of competition post degree (ik someone in a similar position struggling), and this results in salaries beingg quite low and having to work quite hard even after the degree. my point being, is don't think that just because ur doing a degree that's not what u wanted, u can't chase what u like, think of it as security or a stepping stone to lead towards ur real interests! it would be helpful to know what u applied for at uni as well!!!

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1582

Volunteer Section Leader, Clearing and Applications Advisor

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Other people might have an opinion but they're not the ones to have to live your life - you do. You're going to spend 33% of your time Mon-Fri as an adult working (and another 33% sleeping!), so your job needs to be something that you will enjoy otherwise you will end up miserable, resenting your decisions, and hating your life.

(edited 10 months ago)

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Anonymous #3

Original post by 1582

Other people might have an opinion but they're not the ones to have to live your life - you do. You're going to spend 33% of your time Mon-Fri as an adult working (and another 33% sleeping!), so your job needs to be something that you will enjoy otherwise you will end up miserable, resenting your decisions, and hating your life.

Not necessarily though, a job is a means of making money, not a hobby to have fun in, of course it's better if your job is enjoyable, but at the end of the day, pay > enjoyability

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1582

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Original post by Anonymous

Not necessarily though, a job is a means of making money, not a hobby to have fun in, of course it's better if your job is enjoyable, but at the end of the day, pay > enjoyability

It's possible to make money and like your job. I love mine.

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