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how do I tell my bf that p*rn makes me uncomfortable especially when he jerks off to it on vc?
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
how do I tell my bf that p*rn makes me uncomfortable especially when he jerks off to it on vc?

I think that if you tell him don't force your opinien on him coz each person has his preferences
Reply 2
Original post by Sherelenda
I think that if you tell him don't force your opinien on him coz each person has his preferences

I'm scared that its gonna sound like I'm telling him to not watch it
Original post by Anonymous
I'm scared that its gonna sound like I'm telling him to not watch it

So what do you want to happen? You can tell him what makes you uncomfortable, but what is a possible solution to the issue?
Reply 4
Original post by Surnia
So what do you want to happen? You can tell him what makes you uncomfortable, but what is a possible solution to the issue?

i prefer him to do it off camera
if he genuinely cared about you then he would want to know if something is making you uncomfortable as i'm sure you would too if it was the other way around. the best thing to do is sit down and talk and just be honest! if he reacts badly and makes a whole situation out of this then it shows you who he really is. You have boundaries and you have every right to have them. As your boyfriend he should understand that and compromise to a point where you're both happy.
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
if he genuinely cared about you then he would want to know if something is making you uncomfortable as i'm sure you would too if it was the other way around. the best thing to do is sit down and talk and just be honest! if he reacts badly and makes a whole situation out of this then it shows you who he really is. You have boundaries and you have every right to have them. As your boyfriend he should understand that and compromise to a point where you're both happy.

thank you
Reply 7
Original post by Idk12367
Have you tired to tell him it makes you uncomfortable or you can try different approache like talk dirty other him instead of watching porn ?

that's what I've tried but I could be completely undressed and him still on p*rn
not sure why everyone’s giving overly s/xual advice here lmao, the best thing to do is directly say ‘hey i don’t like it when you do this’ and if he gets overly defensive about that that’s his problem. communication is key in relationships and you have a right to set boundaries, it’s not good for either of you if you’re not honest about this. also if he ignores you in favour of p/rn that’s not a sign you need to do better it’s a sign he doesn’t respect you ngl, i’d also mention that if it makes you uncomfortable
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
not sure why everyone’s giving overly s/xual advice here lmao, the best thing to do is directly say ‘hey i don’t like it when you do this’ and if he gets overly defensive about that that’s his problem. communication is key in relationships and you have a right to set boundaries, it’s not good for either of you if you’re not honest about this. also if he ignores you in favour of p/rn that’s not a sign you need to do better it’s a sign he doesn’t respect you ngl, i’d also mention that if it makes you uncomfortable

yeah thanks for the advice
Reply 10
Original post by Idk12367
You can also try give him a tit **** ?

its over a facetime which is why I don't want him to think I want him to never watch porn just not with me on a video call
Original post by Anonymous
how do I tell my bf that p*rn makes me uncomfortable especially when he jerks off to it on vc?

She sounds awesome mate
Original post by Anonymous
how do I tell my bf that p*rn makes me uncomfortable especially when he jerks off to it on vc?

Explain to him its not something you enjoy and it makes you feel weird when he does that to girls that arent you
Reply 13
Original post by Theyluv_chozen1
Explain to him its not something you enjoy and it makes you feel weird when he does that to girls that arent you

thx for the help
Original post by Anonymous
its over a facetime which is why I don't want him to think I want him to never watch porn just not with me on a video call

does he satisfy you good over FaceTime wen you see his dic* ?
Damn 💀
Reply 16
Original post by Anonymous
does he satisfy you good over FaceTime wen you see his dic* ?

no, I do not care for it because when he watches p*rn on ft it makes me uncomfortable and frustrated, emotions aren't something I'm good with because I have some mental issues that mess with my emotions

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