Really struggling with self-worth/purpose in life

I feel chronically low and lonely. Whenever I do something enjoyable I'm only happy for a short period of time then seem to fall into an even deeper state of unhappiness because it's over.

I feel like I'm achieving highly and reaching my potential so I don't know why I'm unhappy so much of the time. I achieved a first in my undergrad and have been admitted to an Oxbridge college to study for a masters but I can't help feeling 'what is it truly worth when I have no-one who loves me.'

I've been on several dates but I feel like I end up sabotaging them by feeling like I'm either not good enough for them or, conversely, they're not interesting or good enough for me :frown:

I feel so unfulfilled in relationships. I hardly ever see my friends who mean the world to me. It's hard enough to get someone on a first date before even considering a second. I haven't had sex in literal years such that I think I've completely forgotten what any form of intimacy actually feels like.
I'm only 23 but I feel like I'm just wasting the best years of my life.

Sorry, this is such a trauma dump but I really needed to get some of it off my chest. What do I do though? Do I seek out new friends? Delete tinder and trust that 'the one' will come along sooner or later? I feel so stuck

Reply 1

saraalegria

Original post by Anonymous

I feel chronically low and lonely. Whenever I do something enjoyable I'm only happy for a short period of time then seem to fall into an even deeper state of unhappiness because it's over.
I feel like I'm achieving highly and reaching my potential so I don't know why I'm unhappy so much of the time. I achieved a first in my undergrad and have been admitted to an Oxbridge college to study for a masters but I can't help feeling 'what is it truly worth when I have no-one who loves me.'
I've been on several dates but I feel like I end up sabotaging them by feeling like I'm either not good enough for them or, conversely, they're not interesting or good enough for me :frown:

I feel so unfulfilled in relationships. I hardly ever see my friends who mean the world to me. It's hard enough to get someone on a first date before even considering a second. I haven't had sex in literal years such that I think I've completely forgotten what any form of intimacy actually feels like.
I'm only 23 but I feel like I'm just wasting the best years of my life.
Sorry, this is such a trauma dump but I really needed to get some of it off my chest. What do I do though? Do I seek out new friends? Delete tinder and trust that 'the one' will come along sooner or later? I feel so stuck

I know it’s hard but try to focus of yourself. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I feel chronically low and lonely. Whenever I do something enjoyable I'm only happy for a short period of time then seem to fall into an even deeper state of unhappiness because it's over.
I feel like I'm achieving highly and reaching my potential so I don't know why I'm unhappy so much of the time. I achieved a first in my undergrad and have been admitted to an Oxbridge college to study for a masters but I can't help feeling 'what is it truly worth when I have no-one who loves me.'
I've been on several dates but I feel like I end up sabotaging them by feeling like I'm either not good enough for them or, conversely, they're not interesting or good enough for me :frown:

I feel so unfulfilled in relationships. I hardly ever see my friends who mean the world to me. It's hard enough to get someone on a first date before even considering a second. I haven't had sex in literal years such that I think I've completely forgotten what any form of intimacy actually feels like.
I'm only 23 but I feel like I'm just wasting the best years of my life.
Sorry, this is such a trauma dump but I really needed to get some of it off my chest. What do I do though? Do I seek out new friends? Delete tinder and trust that 'the one' will come along sooner or later? I feel so stuck

I dont know if im the right person answer this (im 16) but i was in a bad relationship a little while ago. I think that if your mental health isnt ok then thats ok and maybe a relationship isnt whats best for you right now. I know very little about you but i think that you might need to take some time to think about how you feel and what might be causing it. If you’re experiencing chronic loneliness then id speak to your friends or someone you trust if you feel comfortable doing so because they would help better than I can as they know your exact circumstance

Sorry if that didnt help wishing you the best