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by appalled-raisingHi guys so this story is going to sound really stupid and random but pls don't judge me 
Basically, I'm going uni in 2 years time (I'm in y12) and I was friends with this person (they r in the uni that I rlly want to go to) that I met thru the uni buddy app and I was talking with them on snap chat. I became very close to them and sent some rlly silly messages and stuff that are jus stupid. However, I fell out with them and now we're not friends anymore and the person really hates me now. Now I'm scared if I come to the uni the person will share all the messages to everyone (as I shared my face with them) and I'll be ridiculed and have no friends. I rlly want uni to be a clean slate bcuz I was involved in so much drama during high school and I don't want this to set me back I don't want to change my uni options as well cuz it's my only really option and I've been working so hard to get in
Basically, I'm going uni in 2 years time (I'm in y12) and I was friends with this person (they r in the uni that I rlly want to go to) that I met thru the uni buddy app and I was talking with them on snap chat. I became very close to them and sent some rlly silly messages and stuff that are jus stupid. However, I fell out with them and now we're not friends anymore and the person really hates me now. Now I'm scared if I come to the uni the person will share all the messages to everyone (as I shared my face with them) and I'll be ridiculed and have no friends. I rlly want uni to be a clean slate bcuz I was involved in so much drama during high school and I don't want this to set me back I don't want to change my uni options as well cuz it's my only really option and I've been working so hard to get inDO NOT WORRY GIRL. go to the uni you want to go to and i promise u this guy will not be hung up over the drama in two years time. try ur best to move forwards - i did silly things in the past but genuinely people forgot about it. the best thing to do is make some rly good friends once ur at uni because whatever happens, you have people to support u and fall back on. but nothings gonna happen
good luck gal 🙂Reply 2
as someone who also wants uni to be a clean slate that sounds like a not ideal position to be in, so, sorry that’s happened to you ( BUT I would obviously really advise against changing what uni you go to based on this !! I’d also say not to worry too much bc unless you’re doing the same course or end up in the same accommodation you’re unlikely to end up spending much (if any) time around them (and if they only know you by your face it’d be really, REALLY weird for them to catch a glimpse of you in passing and then track down everyone you know to share any messages they’ve saved)
also in the worst case scenario where they do share messages around they’re going to look like the more unlikable one by spreading stuff around immaturely lmao, and if people do start taking them seriously you can just say they faked screenshots because they have a grudge against you or something. there’s lots of ways around this I wouldn’t panic about it)
( BUT I would obviously really advise against changing what uni you go to based on this !! I’d also say not to worry too much bc unless you’re doing the same course or end up in the same accommodation you’re unlikely to end up spending much (if any) time around them (and if they only know you by your face it’d be really, REALLY weird for them to catch a glimpse of you in passing and then track down everyone you know to share any messages they’ve saved)also in the worst case scenario where they do share messages around they’re going to look like the more unlikable one by spreading stuff around immaturely lmao, and if people do start taking them seriously you can just say they faked screenshots because they have a grudge against you or something. there’s lots of ways around this I wouldn’t panic about it
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by appalled-raisingHi guys so this story is going to sound really stupid and random but pls don't judge me Basically, I'm going uni in 2 years time (I'm in y12) and I was friends with this person (they r in the uni that I rlly want to go to) that I met thru the uni buddy app and I was talking with them on snap chat. I became very close to them and sent some rlly silly messages and stuff that are jus stupid. However, I fell out with them and now we're not friends anymore and the person really hates me now. Now I'm scared if I come to the uni the person will share all the messages to everyone (as I shared my face with them) and I'll be ridiculed and have no friends. I rlly want uni to be a clean slate bcuz I was involved in so much drama during high school and I don't want this to set me back I don't want to change my uni options as well cuz it's my only really option and I've been working so hard to get in
Basically, I'm going uni in 2 years time (I'm in y12) and I was friends with this person (they r in the uni that I rlly want to go to) that I met thru the uni buddy app and I was talking with them on snap chat. I became very close to them and sent some rlly silly messages and stuff that are jus stupid. However, I fell out with them and now we're not friends anymore and the person really hates me now. Now I'm scared if I come to the uni the person will share all the messages to everyone (as I shared my face with them) and I'll be ridiculed and have no friends. I rlly want uni to be a clean slate bcuz I was involved in so much drama during high school and I don't want this to set me back I don't want to change my uni options as well cuz it's my only really option and I've been working so hard to get inNo this doesn’t sound silly, I can understand why you would be worried about this.
If you’re not planning on going to uni for another 2 years, the likelihood is that this person will no longer be a student there. This is also quite a long time away and I’m sure you’ll have almost completely forgotten about it by then.
I definitely wouldn’t consider changing uni or anything like that because of this. Like you said you have worked really hard and this is not a reason to give up on uni!
It is also a crime to share imagines of you without your consent (depending on the nature of the images). It is also a crime to threaten someone about sharing intimate images, so if this has happened you can call the non-emergency police line on 101. You’ll be able to report it as a crime or even gain advice.
I think it’s great that you make friends but maybe be a little more cautious about the types of messages you send and images you share. What’s done is done now and you can only learn from it.
Try not to stress too much about uni, it’s still 2 years away. A lot can happen in that time!
Good luck. I hope this helps some!
Sophie (ARU) 🙂
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What size is the uni you're going to, and does this person study a similar subject to the one you're interested in? If it's a big uni and they're in different classes and societies to you, you might end up barely even seeing them over your time at uni. If you don't have any mutual friends, it's possible they'd never even realize that you were attending that uni. Also if the uni has multiple campuses, maybe you could check if the campus they're not at is a realistic option for you?
Btw if the images you shared were sexually explicit, I'm pretty sure it would be illegal for this person to share them without your consent. In that scenario, hopefully this person would know that and not risk it, or if the worst came to the worst you could notify the uni and/or the local police that you'd had your images shared and hopefully they'd be able to help you.
When I was in secondary school, someone who knew sensitive medical information about me that I wanted kept private moved to my school. When I expressed my concern to the safeguarding team, they made her sign a contract agreeing not to share that information with anyone, and that if they found out she had she would be expelled from the school. If you're super worried, maybe you could apply to the uni anyway, and once you get an offer contact them, explain the situation, and ask if they could arrange something similar? Then if they say no, start considering if you'd rather not risk going there.
I hope you work something out and are happy with whatever uni or alternative institution/workplace you do end up going to
Btw if the images you shared were sexually explicit, I'm pretty sure it would be illegal for this person to share them without your consent. In that scenario, hopefully this person would know that and not risk it, or if the worst came to the worst you could notify the uni and/or the local police that you'd had your images shared and hopefully they'd be able to help you.
When I was in secondary school, someone who knew sensitive medical information about me that I wanted kept private moved to my school. When I expressed my concern to the safeguarding team, they made her sign a contract agreeing not to share that information with anyone, and that if they found out she had she would be expelled from the school. If you're super worried, maybe you could apply to the uni anyway, and once you get an offer contact them, explain the situation, and ask if they could arrange something similar? Then if they say no, start considering if you'd rather not risk going there.
I hope you work something out and are happy with whatever uni or alternative institution/workplace you do end up going to
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by Anonymousas someone who also wants uni to be a clean slate that sounds like a not ideal position to be in, so, sorry that’s happened to you ( BUT I would obviously really advise against changing what uni you go to based on this !! I’d also say not to worry too much bc unless you’re doing the same course or end up in the same accommodation you’re unlikely to end up spending much (if any) time around them (and if they only know you by your face it’d be really, REALLY weird for them to catch a glimpse of you in passing and then track down everyone you know to share any messages they’ve saved)
also in the worst case scenario where they do share messages around they’re going to look like the more unlikable one by spreading stuff around immaturely lmao, and if people do start taking them seriously you can just say they faked screenshots because they have a grudge against you or something. there’s lots of ways around this I wouldn’t panic about it)
( BUT I would obviously really advise against changing what uni you go to based on this !! I’d also say not to worry too much bc unless you’re doing the same course or end up in the same accommodation you’re unlikely to end up spending much (if any) time around them (and if they only know you by your face it’d be really, REALLY weird for them to catch a glimpse of you in passing and then track down everyone you know to share any messages they’ve saved)also in the worst case scenario where they do share messages around they’re going to look like the more unlikable one by spreading stuff around immaturely lmao, and if people do start taking them seriously you can just say they faked screenshots because they have a grudge against you or something. there’s lots of ways around this I wouldn’t panic about it
)Thank you so much for this!! But yeah unfortunately imma do the same course as them but I hope I won't see them as they are a year above me. Also imma just say they changed the msgs or smth tysm
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by AnonymousDO NOT WORRY GIRL. go to the uni you want to go to and i promise u this guy will not be hung up over the drama in two years time. try ur best to move forwards - i did silly things in the past but genuinely people forgot about it. the best thing to do is make some rly good friends once ur at uni because whatever happens, you have people to support u and fall back on. but nothings gonna happen good luck gal 🙂
good luck gal 🙂I'm a boy 😭 😭 😭 It's ok tho ur right imma jus ignore them chances of this happening r rlly low than m u so much for warm message!!!
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by AnonymousWhat size is the uni you're going to, and does this person study a similar subject to the one you're interested in? If it's a big uni and they're in different classes and societies to you, you might end up barely even seeing them over your time at uni. If you don't have any mutual friends, it's possible they'd never even realize that you were attending that uni. Also if the uni has multiple campuses, maybe you could check if the campus they're not at is a realistic option for you?
Btw if the images you shared were sexually explicit, I'm pretty sure it would be illegal for this person to share them without your consent. In that scenario, hopefully this person would know that and not risk it, or if the worst came to the worst you could notify the uni and/or the local police that you'd had your images shared and hopefully they'd be able to help you.
When I was in secondary school, someone who knew sensitive medical information about me that I wanted kept private moved to my school. When I expressed my concern to the safeguarding team, they made her sign a contract agreeing not to share that information with anyone, and that if they found out she had she would be expelled from the school. If you're super worried, maybe you could apply to the uni anyway, and once you get an offer contact them, explain the situation, and ask if they could arrange something similar? Then if they say no, start considering if you'd rather not risk going there.
I hope you work something out and are happy with whatever uni or alternative institution/workplace you do end up going to
Btw if the images you shared were sexually explicit, I'm pretty sure it would be illegal for this person to share them without your consent. In that scenario, hopefully this person would know that and not risk it, or if the worst came to the worst you could notify the uni and/or the local police that you'd had your images shared and hopefully they'd be able to help you.
When I was in secondary school, someone who knew sensitive medical information about me that I wanted kept private moved to my school. When I expressed my concern to the safeguarding team, they made her sign a contract agreeing not to share that information with anyone, and that if they found out she had she would be expelled from the school. If you're super worried, maybe you could apply to the uni anyway, and once you get an offer contact them, explain the situation, and ask if they could arrange something similar? Then if they say no, start considering if you'd rather not risk going there.
I hope you work something out and are happy with whatever uni or alternative institution/workplace you do end up going to
Thank you so much for these msgs 🙂 The uni I'm going to has like 20K students but idk if it's big? Maybe it is. However thankfully the images were not sexual or anything like that it was just the message I sent were so sus 😭
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by appalled-raisingI'm a boy 😭 😭 😭 It's ok tho ur right imma jus ignore them chances of this happening r rlly low than m u so much for warm message!!!
OMG I am so sorry HAHAH. Dude. trust me ur gonna be ok
you’re welcome ))Reply 10
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by 04MR17Thread title updated from "Help me pls urgent [s]frown[/s]"
Hi can you please delete this whole post and thread? I've gained all the answers I need.
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by appalled-raisingHi can you please delete this whole post and thread? I've gained all the answers I need.
Hello, we don't do that I'm afraid as other people may find it useful. Users have given their time to share advice, that advice is public. If you've revealed any details you're uncomfortable with you can edit your posts and I can adjust any of the quotes in this thread accordingly.
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by appalled-raising...
Absolutely agree with what everyone else is saying, most likely it won't be a problem and anything explicit, if shared, could get that person into a lot of trouble!!
You'll be okay, honestly hate to be that person but just be very cautious about who you share images with. There are horror stories out there about people who shared images with the wrong person, personally I just don't think it's worth the risk. Not shaming, just be very careful next time and think of potential outcomes
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