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Should I break up with my boyfriend two days before his birthday?

I’ve been seeing my current boyfriend since around February (four months) and we’ve only gone on one date. We talk almost daily and we see each other pretty often because we’re at the same school. He’s great except he doesn’t respect my boundaries (asking for hugs in the hallways, which I’m uncomfortable with), he doesn’t like talking about things that happen with me (I’ll send a big text and he’ll respond to one thing before changing the subject to something that happened with him. Then we’ll spend the next half hour talking about him), and he kinda just put labels on the relationship and didn’t ask me about it first? (One day just started calling me his girlfriend. Didn’t ask me first)

He’s not a bad guy, just the other day I was trying to talk about something at work and his response was “I’m not reading all that.” I asked him if I could vent about it first and he said no and changed the topic to his video game that he likes. He changed his mind after I started talking about it with him, and sent him a rundown about what was happening with my job. (The part he ignored) It made me upset and it was just the last straw for me, because I’ve been losing feelings for awhile (I’ve still been there for him) but we haven’t talked since I said I was too busy for a date this past weekend (my mom’s birthday)

I can tell he’s still interested in me because he’s asking for a date, but I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore because of all the aforementioned stuff. The problem is his birthday is in two days and I’d feel bad breaking up with him so close to the date. Then again, we’ll still be together for his birthday and I’ll have to get him a gift. I feel like that might be leading him on/kinda weird if I do? But it’ll also be weird if I don’t get him one well we’re still ‘together’

Should I get him a gift or not? And how long should I wait after his birthday? Or should I just do it today so close to his birthday?

Reply 1

Zarek

I’d get it over with. You’ll get criticised either way, for being hard hearted dumping him before his birthday or for the hypocrisy of celebrating with him while dumping was in your mind. Just try to be as honest and compassionate as you can

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

you’re kinda screwed no matter what bro

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

you’re kinda screwed no matter what bro

*I’m oops

Reply 4

depriveofsocial

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve been seeing my current boyfriend since around February (four months) and we’ve only gone on one date. We talk almost daily and we see each other pretty often because we’re at the same school. He’s great except he doesn’t respect my boundaries (asking for hugs in the hallways, which I’m uncomfortable with), he doesn’t like talking about things that happen with me (I’ll send a big text and he’ll respond to one thing before changing the subject to something that happened with him. Then we’ll spend the next half hour talking about him), and he kinda just put labels on the relationship and didn’t ask me about it first? (One day just started calling me his girlfriend. Didn’t ask me first)
He’s not a bad guy, just the other day I was trying to talk about something at work and his response was “I’m not reading all that.” I asked him if I could vent about it first and he said no and changed the topic to his video game that he likes. He changed his mind after I started talking about it with him, and sent him a rundown about what was happening with my job. (The part he ignored) It made me upset and it was just the last straw for me, because I’ve been losing feelings for awhile (I’ve still been there for him) but we haven’t talked since I said I was too busy for a date this past weekend (my mom’s birthday)
I can tell he’s still interested in me because he’s asking for a date, but I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore because of all the aforementioned stuff. The problem is his birthday is in two days and I’d feel bad breaking up with him so close to the date. Then again, we’ll still be together for his birthday and I’ll have to get him a gift. I feel like that might be leading him on/kinda weird if I do? But it’ll also be weird if I don’t get him one well we’re still ‘together’
Should I get him a gift or not? And how long should I wait after his birthday? Or should I just do it today so close to his birthday?

Have you spoken to him about this? Like sat him down and stated how you feel and that you’ve been contemplating ending the relationship.

Personally I feel like sometimes relationships can be salvaged if one person brings up the problem and how they feel. However, if you have already done this and he’s not reacted kindly, then I would recommend just breaking up with him. Wish him happy birthday and leave it at that.

Reply 5

JDINCINERATOR

I don't think this bf of yours is interested in you, he seems interested in having someone who he can tell everything to whilst not bothering to give you the same level of respect. I wouldn't say he's much of a boyfriend at all if all you're doing is listening and all he's doing is talking. Doesn't seem like he cares about you at all. I've been in a situation where I've given women all my time and attention but they don't reciprocate, and this seems to be just like that. Know your worth and that you deserve to be listened to and treated fairly, because if you don't you'll always be associated with those who use you as emotional support, but don't bother to listen to you when you need them.

Reply 6

Wired_1800

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve been seeing my current boyfriend since around February (four months) and we’ve only gone on one date. We talk almost daily and we see each other pretty often because we’re at the same school. He’s great except he doesn’t respect my boundaries (asking for hugs in the hallways, which I’m uncomfortable with), he doesn’t like talking about things that happen with me (I’ll send a big text and he’ll respond to one thing before changing the subject to something that happened with him. Then we’ll spend the next half hour talking about him), and he kinda just put labels on the relationship and didn’t ask me about it first? (One day just started calling me his girlfriend. Didn’t ask me first)
He’s not a bad guy, just the other day I was trying to talk about something at work and his response was “I’m not reading all that.” I asked him if I could vent about it first and he said no and changed the topic to his video game that he likes. He changed his mind after I started talking about it with him, and sent him a rundown about what was happening with my job. (The part he ignored) It made me upset and it was just the last straw for me, because I’ve been losing feelings for awhile (I’ve still been there for him) but we haven’t talked since I said I was too busy for a date this past weekend (my mom’s birthday)
I can tell he’s still interested in me because he’s asking for a date, but I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore because of all the aforementioned stuff. The problem is his birthday is in two days and I’d feel bad breaking up with him so close to the date. Then again, we’ll still be together for his birthday and I’ll have to get him a gift. I feel like that might be leading him on/kinda weird if I do? But it’ll also be weird if I don’t get him one well we’re still ‘together’
Should I get him a gift or not? And how long should I wait after his birthday? Or should I just do it today so close to his birthday?

You need a real man.

Reply 7

elareare

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve been seeing my current boyfriend since around February (four months) and we’ve only gone on one date. We talk almost daily and we see each other pretty often because we’re at the same school. He’s great except he doesn’t respect my boundaries (asking for hugs in the hallways, which I’m uncomfortable with), he doesn’t like talking about things that happen with me (I’ll send a big text and he’ll respond to one thing before changing the subject to something that happened with him. Then we’ll spend the next half hour talking about him), and he kinda just put labels on the relationship and didn’t ask me about it first? (One day just started calling me his girlfriend. Didn’t ask me first)
He’s not a bad guy, just the other day I was trying to talk about something at work and his response was “I’m not reading all that.” I asked him if I could vent about it first and he said no and changed the topic to his video game that he likes. He changed his mind after I started talking about it with him, and sent him a rundown about what was happening with my job. (The part he ignored) It made me upset and it was just the last straw for me, because I’ve been losing feelings for awhile (I’ve still been there for him) but we haven’t talked since I said I was too busy for a date this past weekend (my mom’s birthday)
I can tell he’s still interested in me because he’s asking for a date, but I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore because of all the aforementioned stuff. The problem is his birthday is in two days and I’d feel bad breaking up with him so close to the date. Then again, we’ll still be together for his birthday and I’ll have to get him a gift. I feel like that might be leading him on/kinda weird if I do? But it’ll also be weird if I don’t get him one well we’re still ‘together’
Should I get him a gift or not? And how long should I wait after his birthday? Or should I just do it today so close to his birthday?

he sounds like a right a-hole, break up with him asap

Reply 8

Zendaya1

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve been seeing my current boyfriend since around February (four months) and we’ve only gone on one date. We talk almost daily and we see each other pretty often because we’re at the same school. He’s great except he doesn’t respect my boundaries (asking for hugs in the hallways, which I’m uncomfortable with), he doesn’t like talking about things that happen with me (I’ll send a big text and he’ll respond to one thing before changing the subject to something that happened with him. Then we’ll spend the next half hour talking about him), and he kinda just put labels on the relationship and didn’t ask me about it first? (One day just started calling me his girlfriend. Didn’t ask me first)
He’s not a bad guy, just the other day I was trying to talk about something at work and his response was “I’m not reading all that.” I asked him if I could vent about it first and he said no and changed the topic to his video game that he likes. He changed his mind after I started talking about it with him, and sent him a rundown about what was happening with my job. (The part he ignored) It made me upset and it was just the last straw for me, because I’ve been losing feelings for awhile (I’ve still been there for him) but we haven’t talked since I said I was too busy for a date this past weekend (my mom’s birthday)
I can tell he’s still interested in me because he’s asking for a date, but I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore because of all the aforementioned stuff. The problem is his birthday is in two days and I’d feel bad breaking up with him so close to the date. Then again, we’ll still be together for his birthday and I’ll have to get him a gift. I feel like that might be leading him on/kinda weird if I do? But it’ll also be weird if I don’t get him one well we’re still ‘together’
Should I get him a gift or not? And how long should I wait after his birthday? Or should I just do it today so close to his birthday?

Hey sis, I dont really understand what the issue is? The fact this boy is interested in you, and to break up with him on his birthday and give that as a gift to him i am surprised to even see people would have that sort of audacity to do so. He seems like a really nice guy who is interested in you. See all the replies and they are all guys who wish nothing but bad for you. You know what the issue is with the younger generations is that they do NOT communicate with each other. You have any issues or you feel suffocated you talk to your man. If he's rushing it you need to let him know. If you and him arent coming anywhere then you tell your man, "look you're a nice guy but i am not ready hence I do not want to lead you on so we should break up". You must let him go and let him find someone else who is on the same wavelength as him.