Giving up on dating
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
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Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
Reply 2
I met my partner online so to that extent I am bias.
I found it works best it you don’t take all the misfires to heart. Treat it like a screening process and knock things on the head quickly when it’s obvious you’re not likeminded or they’ve not even given you the courtesy of reading your profile.
I found it works best it you don’t take all the misfires to heart. Treat it like a screening process and knock things on the head quickly when it’s obvious you’re not likeminded or they’ve not even given you the courtesy of reading your profile.
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Hi, I think younger men are getting more imature and dumb year by year and generally girls are having too higher expectations and actually the pool of decent men is getting smaller, so less choice. As a more mature guy I get loads of interest from younger girls simply because im not an idiot - and thats a bit sad to be honest.
Dont blame yourself, its not unusual to feel the way you do and online boys do indeed say the most stupid things thinking they are being funny, or smart.
Dont give up, but just look harder and join chat rooms and forums with intelligent people in them, or join physical clubs where theres a more likely attendance of those few decent men who properly talk to and understand girls, and most of all respect them. 😃
Personally Im happy to always be an ear to talk to anonymous 🙂
Dont blame yourself, its not unusual to feel the way you do and online boys do indeed say the most stupid things thinking they are being funny, or smart.
Dont give up, but just look harder and join chat rooms and forums with intelligent people in them, or join physical clubs where theres a more likely attendance of those few decent men who properly talk to and understand girls, and most of all respect them. 😃
Personally Im happy to always be an ear to talk to anonymous 🙂
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Original post by NeoIan
Hi, I think younger men are getting more imature and dumb year by year and generally girls are having too higher expectations and actually the pool of decent men is getting smaller, so less choice. As a more mature guy I get loads of interest from younger girls simply because im not an idiot - and thats a bit sad to be honest.
Dont blame yourself, its not unusual to feel the way you do and online boys do indeed say the most stupid things thinking they are being funny, or smart.
Dont give up, but just look harder and join chat rooms and forums with intelligent people in them, or join physical clubs where theres a more likely attendance of those few decent men who properly talk to and understand girls, and most of all respect them. 😃
Personally Im happy to always be an ear to talk to anonymous 🙂
Dont blame yourself, its not unusual to feel the way you do and online boys do indeed say the most stupid things thinking they are being funny, or smart.
Dont give up, but just look harder and join chat rooms and forums with intelligent people in them, or join physical clubs where theres a more likely attendance of those few decent men who properly talk to and understand girls, and most of all respect them. 😃
Personally Im happy to always be an ear to talk to anonymous 🙂
nice perspective I'm in the same boat get attention from women because majority of men online lack personality and or are just hormonal teens but on the flip side the women that i attract lack emotional intelligence or just want flings which is a pain when looking for a genuine connection aside from the sexual aspect
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Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
If you'd rather do dating face to face then you've got to go out and meet people. Do you have hobbies/interests, do you go out with friends, etc?
Reply 7
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Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
Depends on how old these guys are. The younger guys mainly just want something sexual and they think bringing it up in the conversation as early as possible will help differential the women who are more promiscuous from the ones who are now.
The older guys get, the more they value spending time with someone as they realise tomorrow is not guaranteed.
You could try matching with older guys or with guys further afield. If you do want to give up and accept being alone forever, then join the club - I'm 35 years old and I've watched the woman I loved marry my former flatmate and now they have children. They're about to celebrate 10 years of marriage and I've never gotten over her despite being on all the dating apps and matching and meeting other women.
Some of us men are just emotionally broken 😟
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
Well, you find most guys looking for one night stands. Not many want a genuine relationship. All the good ones would be taken up or not searching.
You just have to be more patient, and that special someone will come by.
You can go speed dating depending on where you live.
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
Go on dating apps made for relationships, not hookups in mind.
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
Honestly, same here. Guys just don't get us women, they just rush or use us. I feel so deflated with relationships and I'm only 17. Just so much effort guys. It's up to you, but I've noticed that you're more likely to meet someone when you aren't looking. It just happens. Lilly x
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Original post by LillyTegan2006
Honestly, same here. Guys just don't get us women, they just rush or use us. I feel so deflated with relationships and I'm only 17. Just so much effort guys. It's up to you, but I've noticed that you're more likely to meet someone when you aren't looking. It just happens. Lilly x
In the words of Katebush and indeed Peter Gabriel - dont give up. As a guy im more than aware of what we are like and without denying all resposibility I think we are programmed differently, and possibly at a very much less intelectual level than women following primal urges and the Sacral Chakra - which without getting too hippy on you - handles the energy flow for sexual desire etc etc.
It is easier if "your not looking" for the following reason, you need to attatch is less - and attatchement is the problem, attatch to nothing the yogi will say. You dont need anything or anyone, humans in general are messed up - look at the world around you and history, its not got much better and smart phones and social media since 2010 have just made it a ton worse (check this link for anyone who think Steve Jobs did us a favour with the smart phone https://www.amazon.co.uk/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic-ebook/dp/B0CGWS3JQ6)
Assume most men are useless and you might be surprised when you meet one that isnt. Talk to decent men alot before dating them, and find out about whats behind the Chakra
. Sorry ladies - we are hopeless and to be fair getting worse with generation Z due to screen time - however we might evolve eventually.... keep positive.
Reply 12
There are many people who just want the pleasure rather than true intimacy. As advanced as we appear to be in our society, there are many men who just don't care about the emotional side of a relationship, probably because they've been hurt by women and have become something of an incel. I think the most genuine and kind people are the ones you don't recognize or are hidden away. I tend to get this feeling because I'm a male empath, and I don't think women would be interested in me because I'm not a conventional type. You can't give up though because giving up on dating is giving up on yourself. Life's greatest challenges are a test of personal endurance. You have to stay the course because one day you will strike gold-just keep on going.
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I like your angle JD actually 🙂 - everyone should bloom and be out there whatever they are really. Social media , tv and pop culture has told us what and how we should be to attract others - honestly some of the what pop culture would call highly attractive people are the most hideous representations of human life out there , some are not ofcourse like princess diana 🙂 .
People be your self and be confident to be whatever goes. Imagine this really was a matrix style environment generated by machines to make us all comply to set rules . Well that is pretty much where we are - and it doesn’t make anyone happy but sells makeup and clothes and cars to the masses - so it works to sell brands for that reason . Look past it and don’t get into it . Talk to people whether they are gods gift to women or just what culture calls a no one 🙂 . I like to talk to everyone as thier stories are so different . Old, young , homeless , rich , famous . You’ll start to realise everyone has a story and you’ll also figure out who the baddies are - the ones not to go near. Watch shallow Hal the movie too hehe . Sums it up really .
People be your self and be confident to be whatever goes. Imagine this really was a matrix style environment generated by machines to make us all comply to set rules . Well that is pretty much where we are - and it doesn’t make anyone happy but sells makeup and clothes and cars to the masses - so it works to sell brands for that reason . Look past it and don’t get into it . Talk to people whether they are gods gift to women or just what culture calls a no one 🙂 . I like to talk to everyone as thier stories are so different . Old, young , homeless , rich , famous . You’ll start to realise everyone has a story and you’ll also figure out who the baddies are - the ones not to go near. Watch shallow Hal the movie too hehe . Sums it up really .
Reply 14
Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
I totally agree like I am 22 and it’s so hard to find genuine people- like I don’t even go out and I for have many friends and most of my friends are not very outgoing so it’s so difficult to meet up and go out. I do agree that if you are outgoing you will meet more people. Also what you said about marriage, I would only speak to a man if it’s for marriage which makes it more difficult as they don’t want that.
Reply 15
Original post by Anonymous
I went through a breakup of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago. Since then I’ve not been seeing anyone, I’ve just been focussing on myself. Last week I decided to try online dating - bear in mind, I was in a relationship between age 18-22 so I had no idea what to expect with dating as an adult.
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
One guy basically wanted a hookup, even though I clearly stated in my profile that I am looking for something long term. One guy seemed genuine but then kept turning the conversation sexual in the first conversation. I just felt really uncomfortable.
I personally don’t want to be intimate with someone unless I’m actually in a relationship with them. I don’t feel like having sexual chats with strangers I’ve never even met, especially knowing that they’re probably talking to other people. Is that so rare nowadays??? It just seems like most of the guys I’ve matched with expect sex whilst I’m trying to get to know them and see if we are compatible. The stuff these guys have been saying to me seems like things they would never say to a girl if they were face to face.
It’s upsetting to me because I came from a relationship where we were talking about marriage and having to start again with people acting like this.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone in person rather than online, idk if I should just be more patient. Or if I should just give up on dating entirely and accept being alone forever 🥲
Does anyone have any advice?
Also are you from London? Are you studying? I was going to say you could meet people in uni.
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Original post by Anonymous
I totally agree like I am 22 and it’s so hard to find genuine people- like I don’t even go out and I for have many friends and most of my friends are not very outgoing so it’s so difficult to meet up and go out. I do agree that if you are outgoing you will meet more people. Also what you said about marriage, I would only speak to a man if it’s for marriage which makes it more difficult as they don’t want that.
If you meet a person for the first time and mention marriage i think it would freak them out straight away - dating isnt done that way here - and would be dangerous if it was to be honest, just saying. You marry someone who is a freind, and you need to make freinds first then decide who is best fitted in that freind group.
Reply 17
Original post by NeoIan
If you meet a person for the first time and mention marriage i think it would freak them out straight away - dating isnt done that way here - and would be dangerous if it was to be honest, just saying. You marry someone who is a freind, and you need to make freinds first then decide who is best fitted in that freind group.
I was born here I know but I am saying it’s better to be clear about what you want cos I know so many people that have done it that way they were friends and the guy just leaves them and never wanted marriage to begin with.
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yes understood, i guess its personal preference then. I dont see a bad thing in dating without a longer term want to marry someone, but it would be perceived as a waste of time to some for exmaple you ?
Dating for fun - to live in the moment, or even just to be there for someone for a while in my mind isnt a bad thing at all. Marraige is a desicision to be with someone ultimelty forever, in reality only 50 percent or less marraiges go that way these days, so you could say its an illusion anyway...
Dating for fun - to live in the moment, or even just to be there for someone for a while in my mind isnt a bad thing at all. Marraige is a desicision to be with someone ultimelty forever, in reality only 50 percent or less marraiges go that way these days, so you could say its an illusion anyway...
Reply 19
Original post by NeoIan
yes understood, i guess its personal preference then. I dont see a bad thing in dating without a longer term want to marry someone, but it would be perceived as a waste of time to some for exmaple you ?
Dating for fun - to live in the moment, or even just to be there for someone for a while in my mind isnt a bad thing at all. Marraige is a desicision to be with someone ultimelty forever, in reality only 50 percent or less marraiges go that way these days, so you could say its an illusion anyway...
Dating for fun - to live in the moment, or even just to be there for someone for a while in my mind isnt a bad thing at all. Marraige is a desicision to be with someone ultimelty forever, in reality only 50 percent or less marraiges go that way these days, so you could say its an illusion anyway...
I agree with what your saying too it’s nice to have someone and who doesn’t want to date and love someone in the moment but I don’t know I feel like it’s so important for girls cos we can’t spend our 20s with a man and he never wanted anything long term. That’s our prime years and also idk but surely if a man loves you he would make you his wife maybe not when your young but eventually it should be on his mind.
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