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wanting a boyfriend to try to be straight

Hi! I became bisexual over a year ago. It ended horribly btw. A lot of my friends think I'm weird for being gay and my family don't really like the idea. So, today, I'm going to ask out this boy from a neighbouring school. My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend but I have no choice but to be straight. idk what to do.
Original post by the_itgirl
Hi! I became bisexual over a year ago. It ended horribly btw. A lot of my friends think I'm weird for being gay and my family don't really like the idea. So, today, I'm going to ask out this boy from a neighbouring school. My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend but I have no choice but to be straight. idk what to do.

Don't force yourself to do things you don't really want to do. You shouldn't change your identity just because someone else's petty judgement.
+you're your own person, live up to it! :smile:
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I would like to say if you are gay bi or anything under the sun you need to be you if you don't like men that your choice to make if your parents and friends think its weird then **** them there not your friends if they don't support you for who you are
suppressing who you are isn't healthy for you. if you're not into guys then that's fine and that's normal. as queer people, we can't change the way we are.

even if you are bi and attracted to men, don't force yourself into a straight relationship just to please your family. you'll hurt yourself and the boy in the process.if you're friends are judgy about your sexuality then that's not a good sign. your friends should be supportive of you no matter what.

when you get out into the real world and find a good, supportive circle of friends, you'll realise that it's okay to be you. please don't change yourself to appease the thoughts of others.

if it's dangerous for you to be queer / out the closet, then maybe you should wait if you want to get into a wlw relationship
Original post by the_itgirl
Hi! I became bisexual over a year ago. It ended horribly btw. A lot of my friends think I'm weird for being gay and my family don't really like the idea. So, today, I'm going to ask out this boy from a neighbouring school. My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend but I have no choice but to be straight. idk what to do.

Be yourself dont change for them let them see you as you are also one bad relationship doesn't mean it will be the same next time
Original post by the_itgirl
Hi! I became bisexual over a year ago. It ended horribly btw. A lot of my friends think I'm weird for being gay and my family don't really like the idea. So, today, I'm going to ask out this boy from a neighbouring school. My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend but I have no choice but to be straight. idk what to do.

Hi my name is Adam I am 18, I am looking for a girlfriend in Bradford West Yorkshire. I have been looking but I can’t find anyone. I don’t care about looks but I just want someone to love me for who I am and how I look. And I don’t mind being your boyfriend
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Original post by Sheikhadamsadiq
Hi my name is Adam I am 18, I am looking for a girlfriend in Bradford West Yorkshire. I have been looking but I can’t find anyone. I don’t care about looks but I just want someone to love me for who I am and how I look. And I don’t mind being your boyfriend

im a minor bro
Original post by the_itgirl
Hi! I became bisexual over a year ago. It ended horribly btw. A lot of my friends think I'm weird for being gay and my family don't really like the idea. So, today, I'm going to ask out this boy from a neighbouring school. My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend but I have no choice but to be straight. idk what to do.

That's silly. No one can determine or judge your sexual preference and anyone who does is acting like a creeper. Just tell them "you're going to tell ME who to be sexually attracted to? That's weird. Why are YOU in MY sexual business?"

Your friends probably don't want you to be gay because they are opposite sex and want you hetero. And sometimes the same sex friends don't want you to be gay because that means not only do you know yourself but you are confident enough to express yourself regardless of who is judging.

People get very very jelly over self confidence and a willingness to be yourself regardless.

If you EVER again find yourself worried because you HAVE to BE something because of other people (even your parents) then IMMEDIATELY STOP!! you don't want to be blaming someone later for your own choices. That's weak and not going to work. So make sure you can only blame yourself for BEING anything.

It's great to experiment bi, straight, into trans masc or trans fem. That's how you figure yourself out. Not being something because everyone says you HAVE TO HAVE SEX with this kind of person. That's creepy and weird. You have what you want. That's all.
Original post by the_itgirl
Hi! I became bisexual over a year ago. It ended horribly btw. A lot of my friends think I'm weird for being gay and my family don't really like the idea. So, today, I'm going to ask out this boy from a neighbouring school. My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend but I have no choice but to be straight. idk what to do.

If your not straight - your not straight. And that’s ok. Stop caring about what others think and focus on your life and achieving your goals.
Original post by Anonymous
If your not straight - your not straight. And that’s ok. Stop caring about what others think and focus on your life and achieving your goals.


Most people think, forget girls and grind for a Beamer (BMW). But it’s our preferences if we want a girlfriend then allow it innit? Like this generation is f***ed
I recently found out my younger daughter ( she'll be 25 soon ) was bi and that only came out when she asked me how as her dad I would feel about her decision, she also told me that her mum was not pleased at all.

She was pleasantly surprised when I told her outright that its her choice respective of her preference and that it is not for me or her mum or anybody else to say what she does, if that's her choice then that's fine, needless to say she gave me 1 hell of a bear hug and couldn't stop thanking me for respecting her choice.

I had a similar conversation with my dad once after he told me my step brother was gay, my dad was very disapproving and consequently they never spoke again but my dad got the shock of his life when I turned round and told him that it was not up to him to say what my step brother should sexuality wise, it was his choice to make and he made it.

To the_itgirl do not feel like you have to try to be what you don't want to be, if people cannot accept you for what choice you make that's their problem not yours, don't ever let anybody judge you, you are who you are and that's not for anybody to question.

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