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University open day - terrible experience

Hello everyone,

I was just keen to share an experience I had when I attended a university open day today. There was a lecturer in the main lecture theatre just providing a little overview of what a course in Architecture would entail, what to expect in uni life and how to get the most out of it.

Obviously being the social bee that I am, I was just engaging with some of the people that I may be attending university with. Asking them questions on their favourite snacks, do they play.COD etc. And then the lecturer decided to get cheeky and asked if I was interrupting him.

I responded saying “kind off right now, but you do your own ting big man, I’ll do my ting cuz”. He then proceeded to say to me I have a foul manner and would be surprised if I got admitted into the university.

What are your thoughts? Was I in the wrong?

Thanks everyone .

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Reply 1
Original post by Patrick Somers
Hello everyone,
I was just keen to share an experience I had when I attended a university open day today. There was a lecturer in the main lecture theatre just providing a little overview of what a course in Architecture would entail, what to expect in uni life and how to get the most out of it.
Obviously being the social bee that I am, I was just engaging with some of the people that I may be attending university with. Asking them questions on their favourite snacks, do they play.COD etc. And then the lecturer decided to get cheeky and asked if I was interrupting him.
I responded saying “kind off right now, but you do your own ting big man, I’ll do my ting cuz”. He then proceeded to say to me I have a foul manner and would be surprised if I got admitted into the university.
What are your thoughts? Was I in the wrong?
Thanks everyone .

Hi it sounds like the lecturer was kind of in the wrong. Are you a sigma by any chance?
I may have misunderstood, but it sounds like the lecturer was giving a talk and you disrupted it by chatting to other people about random stuff while he was speaking.

If so, you were MASSIVELY rude, not just to the lecturer but also to the other students who were giving up their time to learn about that course, not to learn about your favourite snacks.

Chat to other people on an open day by all means, but in the breaks, not during a session. You are totally in the wrong here.
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
I may have misunderstood, but it sounds like the lecturer was giving a talk and you disrupted it by chatting to other people about random stuff while he was speaking.
If so, you were MASSIVELY rude, not just to the lecturer but also to the other students who were giving up their time to learn about that course, not to learn about your favourite snacks.
Chat to other people on an open day by all means, but in the breaks, not during a session. You are totally in the wrong here.

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Reply 4
umm why is this a question? Of course you were in the wrong! If you're going to an open day, you are expected to be polite enough to hear one lecture.. chatting should have happened before or after the lecture. Its so so rude to be chatting to someone else in the middle of a person giving a speech.
Original post by leot05
Hi it sounds like the lecturer was kind of in the wrong. Are you a sigma by any chance?
lol perhaps. But seriously i am glad you agree he was in the wrong, a lot of my pals are saying it was out of order from me but there’s also some saying the lecturer should have kept it zipped
Original post by Anonymous
I may have misunderstood, but it sounds like the lecturer was giving a talk and you disrupted it by chatting to other people about random stuff while he was speaking.
If so, you were MASSIVELY rude, not just to the lecturer but also to the other students who were giving up their time to learn about that course, not to learn about your favourite snacks.
Chat to other people on an open day by all means, but in the breaks, not during a session. You are totally in the wrong here.

Yeah he was giving the lecture during the time I was speaking, however, I also had a few people that I was keen to catch up with. As far as I’m concerned, this is mu open day and not the lecturers. So I need to mingle with people and know what their crack is
Original post by bamba12
umm why is this a question? Of course you were in the wrong! If you're going to an open day, you are expected to be polite enough to hear one lecture.. chatting should have happened before or after the lecture. Its so so rude to be chatting to someone else in the middle of a person giving a speech.

I disagree wholeheartedly. It’s my open day, not the lecturers, it’s important for me to feel the vibe ting when chatting to people. They were responding to me also , albeit one word responses but still .
As a parent commenting, you were inconsiderate of others, not just to the lecturer but also to others in the lecture that possibly could not hear clearly as you were talking near them. University open day lectures for many are taken seriously, deciding between institutions and courses. Your attitude would say to others and probably the lecturer that you are not passionate about the subject. As you say those you were talking to gave you one-word answers, that should have been a signal they were being polite to you replying but at the same time wanted to listen to what was being said rather than you.
Reply 9
Original post by Patrick Somers
Hello everyone,
I was just keen to share an experience I had when I attended a university open day today. There was a lecturer in the main lecture theatre just providing a little overview of what a course in Architecture would entail, what to expect in uni life and how to get the most out of it.
Obviously being the social bee that I am, I was just engaging with some of the people that I may be attending university with. Asking them questions on their favourite snacks, do they play.COD etc. And then the lecturer decided to get cheeky and asked if I was interrupting him.
I responded saying “kind off right now, but you do your own ting big man, I’ll do my ting cuz”. He then proceeded to say to me I have a foul manner and would be surprised if I got admitted into the university.
What are your thoughts? Was I in the wrong?
Thanks everyone .
Have I understood this correctly - you were talking while a lecturer was given a presentation, and then you had a go at him with that bizarre comment. Are you seriously asking who was in the wrong? If you want to socialise with other attendees, why would you not do so before/after the presentation or outside the lecture hall?
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
I may have misunderstood, but it sounds like the lecturer was giving a talk and you disrupted it by chatting to other people about random stuff while he was speaking.
If so, you were MASSIVELY rude, not just to the lecturer but also to the other students who were giving up their time to learn about that course, not to learn about your favourite snacks.
Chat to other people on an open day by all means, but in the breaks, not during a session. You are totally in the wrong here.
Completely agree. It’s shocking that they even need to ask who is in the wrong, unless this is a windup.
Obviously the 'being surprised if you got admitted' comment was a silly one made out of shock... but he could be right if you were really just behaving 'like the social bee that I am' and do this kind of thing wherever you are hoping to get an academic reference!

I rather suspect that you were (perhaps unconsciously) feeling nervous and this is how it manifested itself - in inappropriate behaviour.
Original post by dirtmother
Obviously the 'being surprised if you got admitted' comment was a silly one made out of shock... but he could be right if you were really just behaving 'like the social bee that I am' and do this kind of thing wherever you are hoping to get an academic reference!
I rather suspect that you were (perhaps unconsciously) feeling nervous and this is how it manifested itself - in inappropriate behaviour.

Na wasn’t nervous at all. I just genuinely couldn’t understand and still don’t understand why the lecturer thought he’d give it the big un. It’s my open day not his, so why is he going on so much….
Original post by lalexm
Have I understood this correctly - you were talking while a lecturer was given a presentation, and then you had a go at him with that bizarre comment. Are you seriously asking who was in the wrong? If you want to socialise with other attendees, why would you not do so before/after the presentation or outside the lecture hall?
Yes he was giving a lecture but that is besides the point . I don’t understand how what I said was bizarre, I told him yeah do your own thing and I’ll do mine so what’s the problem? Also I couldn’t socialise with the other people before the lecture because i was running late, I came into the lecture like 10 minutes late. And I couldn’t hang about after because I needed to play COD
New user... Ridiculous opinions... Not to be taken seriously.
Original post by Patrick Somers
Na wasn’t nervous at all. I just genuinely couldn’t understand and still don’t understand why the lecturer thought he’d give it the big un. It’s my open day not his, so why is he going on so much….
I presume you've not read all the comments explaining to you why what you did was wrong. It was everyone in that lecture hall open day NOT JUST YOURS!! Do you do the same in a cinema where everyone has paid to go and watch a film but it's OK for you to talk and disturb everyone else's experience because "it's your visit to the cinema".

Going to university means you will probably live with others you don't know and take others feelings, needs etc into consideration. Also if applying for architecture it will be a competitive process so getting on the wrong side of those who are likely to be reviewing your application is probably not the best route.
This is why architecture has a 10% dropout/failure rate after year 1
Reply 17
Original post by Patrick Somers
Yes he was giving a lecture but that is besides the point . I don’t understand how what I said was bizarre, I told him yeah do your own thing and I’ll do mine so what’s the problem? Also I couldn’t socialise with the other people before the lecture because i was running late, I came into the lecture like 10 minutes late. And I couldn’t hang about after because I needed to play COD
Okay, this is getting even more ridiculous, so must be a windup. I can’t believe how you can honestly not realise why you are in the wrong.
Yeah not only did you disrupt a lecture which other people were in to learn about the course but you were exceedingly rude to the lecturer when a sorry would have been the end of it. By all means chat to people at open days but in the breaks not in lectures.
Reply 19
He's definitely being silly...
No uni wouldve accepted him, this is obviously a windup..

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