All my friends are having babies. I feel like I am missing out.

Hi everyone,
I 28 (f) have been with my boyfriend 35 (m) for almost 8 months.
90% of my friendship circle are having babies.
A few months ago my boyfriend randomly out of the blue told me that his ex girlfriend never got pregnant with him and they were together for close to 2.5 years. Now she's having a baby. He was worried he might be infertile. So he went to get tested. Im assuming he's fine now... considering if the test results indicated that he cannot have kids we wouldn't continue our relationship.
This discussion was had 2.5 months ago:
We have been having unprotected sex on and off for the last 2 months because we don't live in the same city so it's far from regular. I ovulate every month as normal.
He's reassured me that we will have babies in the future once we get married.
I just have a fear that... what if it doesn't happen? What if what happens to his ex.. happens to me ? We don't have our own house but I feel so much external pressure cos everyone around me is having a baby and I feel like I should be much further along with them.
But its only been 8 months. He's a wonderful man. I don't want to self-sabotage and lose him because I am constantly going on about how broody I am and we just don't have everything in place.
Im caught in-between wanting a baby and not really being ready for one because I don't have the house, marriage, car (he has one) ...
And I feel awful cos my best friend is on her second baby. And I am rushing things in my own head.

Hi everyone,
I 28 (f) have been with my boyfriend 35 (m) for almost 8 months.
90% of my friendship circle are having babies.
A few months ago my boyfriend randomly out of the blue told me that his ex girlfriend never got pregnant with him and they were together for close to 2.5 years. Now she's having a baby. He was worried he might be infertile. So he went to get tested. Im assuming he's fine now... considering if the test results indicated that he cannot have kids we wouldn't continue our relationship.
This discussion was had 2.5 months ago:
We have been having unprotected sex on and off for the last 2 months because we don't live in the same city so it's far from regular. I ovulate every month as normal.
He's reassured me that we will have babies in the future once we get married.
I just have a fear that... what if it doesn't happen? What if what happens to his ex.. happens to me ? We don't have our own house but I feel so much external pressure cos everyone around me is having a baby and I feel like I should be much further along with them.
But its only been 8 months. He's a wonderful man. I don't want to self-sabotage and lose him because I am constantly going on about how broody I am and we just don't have everything in place.
Im caught in-between wanting a baby and not really being ready for one because I don't have the house, marriage, car (he has one) ...
And I feel awful cos my best friend is on her second baby. And I am rushing things in my own head.

It’s a relatively short time to make a commitment to settle down and not a ringing endorsement if his fertility is an absolute deal breaker. Why hasn’t he told you the result of the fertility test. If you reckon he’s the one best to find out and then make a plan to have a baby if he wants this too. I think you have to try for 6 months around ovulation before you start thinking about seeking help

What are you trying to accomplish here? You kinda sound like you want a baby date right now. It's really easy to get carried away with everyone else's lives and milestones, but you shouldn't make impulsive choices to try and catch up, esp very permanent ones.
Curious how this 'If infertile we split up' red line came about, who's idea was this and is it that black and white? you wouldn't consider donors or adoption etc?
One thing you have to see is that it's possibly the worst time for cost of living/raising kids in recent history - unless you have that sort of money and support in place it could be brutal for you all :/

Hi everyone,
I 28 (f) have been with my boyfriend 35 (m) for almost 8 months.
90% of my friendship circle are having babies.
A few months ago my boyfriend randomly out of the blue told me that his ex girlfriend never got pregnant with him and they were together for close to 2.5 years. Now she's having a baby. He was worried he might be infertile. So he went to get tested. Im assuming he's fine now... considering if the test results indicated that he cannot have kids we wouldn't continue our relationship.
This discussion was had 2.5 months ago:
We have been having unprotected sex on and off for the last 2 months because we don't live in the same city so it's far from regular. I ovulate every month as normal.
He's reassured me that we will have babies in the future once we get married.
I just have a fear that... what if it doesn't happen? What if what happens to his ex.. happens to me ? We don't have our own house but I feel so much external pressure cos everyone around me is having a baby and I feel like I should be much further along with them.
But its only been 8 months. He's a wonderful man. I don't want to self-sabotage and lose him because I am constantly going on about how broody I am and we just don't have everything in place.
Im caught in-between wanting a baby and not really being ready for one because I don't have the house, marriage, car (he has one) ...
And I feel awful cos my best friend is on her second baby. And I am rushing things in my own head.

What are you trying to accomplish here? You kinda sound like you want a baby date right now. It's really easy to get carried away with everyone else's lives and milestones, but you shouldn't make impulsive choices to try and catch up, esp very permanent ones.
Curious how this 'If infertile we split up' red line came about, who's idea was this and is it that black and white? you wouldn't consider donors or adoption etc?
One thing you have to see is that it's possibly the worst time for cost of living/raising kids in recent history - unless you have that sort of money and support in place it could be brutal for you all :/

wait so your saying your going to break up with if his he is infertal or did I just read that wrong you shouldn't break up with the person you love if anything you can go to a sprem bank and get pregnant that way yea he wouldent be blood related to the kid but he would still be the father and also don't rush stuff just because your friends are getting pregnant you'll most likely will have one and with being caught in-between wanting a baby and not being ready you need/ should wait till your ready because if you bring a baby into the world and your not financially stable its not the best time for that also if you love him then you should stick with him no matter the hard dision I'm sure you'll make the right disison and I hope this helps

He broke up with me as he refused to do IVF and says he is now financially unstable and cannot afford to take me out anymore. He won't let me support him nor is he open to any options.