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Hey everyone, i’m in a dilemma, this might sound really stupid but im a muslim, and im going Brunel in september, and im just nervous, growing up
in the UK ( i grew up in east london where drinking culture was never that popular and that’s why i’m nervous now), university was made out to be all about partying and clubbing but i can’t do any of that stuff (muslim) and i’m scared that ill just find it hard to get along with people because i’m not a part of the culture, i always hear about these freshers fairs but they tend to involve clubs and whatnot and for other people that’s really useful because its sort of an icebreaker but i wouldn’t attend these parties, and obviously i know there’s society’s and whatnot but that’s not really my kind of vibe, but ultimately my point is that am i better off staying at home surrounded by all my friends and family and people i’m close too and commuting (an hour and 45 minutes ) or do i take a leap of faith and buy accommodation and hope that i don’t just sit in my room all day staring at the ceiling.
Original post by enem9320
Hey everyone, i’m in a dilemma, this might sound really stupid but im a muslim, and im going Brunel in september, and im just nervous, growing up
in the UK ( i grew up in east london where drinking culture was never that popular and that’s why i’m nervous now), university was made out to be all about partying and clubbing but i can’t do any of that stuff (muslim) and i’m scared that ill just find it hard to get along with people because i’m not a part of the culture, i always hear about these freshers fairs but they tend to involve clubs and whatnot and for other people that’s really useful because its sort of an icebreaker but i wouldn’t attend these parties, and obviously i know there’s society’s and whatnot but that’s not really my kind of vibe, but ultimately my point is that am i better off staying at home surrounded by all my friends and family and people i’m close too and commuting (an hour and 45 minutes ) or do i take a leap of faith and buy accommodation and hope that i don’t just sit in my room all day staring at the ceiling.

Hey sis, as a muslimah myself i think you shouldn't allow this to be your fear. It will only get to you if you let it affect you. If you know deep down it will influence you its better staying at home and commuting to uni but if uni is located far then get an accommodation and best to make friends to those who are close to islam as they will only be beneficial for you. Do be friends with non-muslims but dont free mix with anyone and definitely do not trust anyone.
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Reply 2
Original post by Zendaya1
Hey sis, as a muslimah myself i think you shouldn't allow this to be your fear. It will only get to you if you let it affect you. If you know deep down it will influence you its better staying at home and commuting to uni but if uni is located far then get an accomodation and best to make friends to those who are close to islam as they will only be beneficial for you. Do be friends with non-muslims but dont free mix with anyone and definitely do not trust anyone.


Hey sis, appreciate the advice but i’m a man😭😭
Original post by enem9320
Hey sis, appreciate the advice but i’m a man😭😭

oh my bad. Then you're safe as a man you can look out for yourself. Just watch out for unnecessary drama. That happens a lot in uni and dont trust anyone. Make friends and just be you.
Hey!

I am sure you're not the only person worrying about this. I am not Muslim myself, but I personally don't drink and don't particularly enjoy clubbing, and I have managed to find lovely friends who respect this at uni.

For me, I found most of my friends through student accommodation, sports clubs, my classes and my on-campus job. It can be tricky when lots of people are going out, but there are also plenty of opportunities to socialise without alcohol. Lots of society meetings are drink-free, and many do 'sober socials'. It can be challenging as you will probably have to put a little bit more effort into getting to know people but it is definitely worth it, and like i say, the right friends will respect you and not force you to do anything you do not want to. It might also be nice to see if your uni has a Muslim Society or a local community to socialise with other students navigating the same thing in the uni environment.

Do what you want to do, and do not let anyone make you do something you don't want to. You've got this!

All the best,
Lucy

3rd year languages student
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Original post by Heriot-Watt Uni
Hey!
I am sure you're not the only person worrying about this. I am not Muslim myself, but I personally don't drink and don't particularly enjoy clubbing, and I have managed to find lovely friends who respect this at uni.
For me, I found most of my friends through student accommodation, sports clubs, my classes and my on-campus job. It can be tricky when lots of people are going out, but there are also plenty of opportunities to socialise without alcohol. Lots of society meetings are drink-free, and many do 'sober socials'. It can be challenging as you will probably have to put a little bit more effort into getting to know people but it is definitely worth it, and like i say, the right friends will respect you and not force you to do anything you do not want to. It might also be nice to see if your uni has a Muslim Society or a local community to socialise with other students navigating the same thing in the uni environment.
Do what you want to do, and do not let anyone make you do something you don't want to. You've got this!
All the best,
Lucy
3rd year languages student


thanks for the reassurance hopefully it goes well. 😩
Original post by enem9320
Hey everyone, i’m in a dilemma, this might sound really stupid but im a muslim, and im going Brunel in september, and im just nervous, growing up
in the UK ( i grew up in east london where drinking culture was never that popular and that’s why i’m nervous now), university was made out to be all about partying and clubbing but i can’t do any of that stuff (muslim) and i’m scared that ill just find it hard to get along with people because i’m not a part of the culture, i always hear about these freshers fairs but they tend to involve clubs and whatnot and for other people that’s really useful because its sort of an icebreaker but i wouldn’t attend these parties, and obviously i know there’s society’s and whatnot but that’s not really my kind of vibe, but ultimately my point is that am i better off staying at home surrounded by all my friends and family and people i’m close too and commuting (an hour and 45 minutes ) or do i take a leap of faith and buy accommodation and hope that i don’t just sit in my room all day staring at the ceiling.


I did accom as Muslim…in Exeter of all places. I was surrounded by people drinking clubbing etc but there so much more out there. I joined ISOC, hiking, boxing and met so many people. I then moved in a house with 3 Muslim girls and had the best years ever. Went to the local mosque, beaches, trips in diff cities. Uni has all sorts of people, those who drink, party etc but it’s up to you who you surround yourself with. If your mentality is “missing out” or not fitting in if you don’t do what the non-Muslims do, that’s inevitably going to lead you down the wrong path. If I did all those things, drinking, trying to fit in with non-Muslims, I would’ve missed out the experience I had in uni as a Muslim.
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Original post by Anonymous
I did accom as Muslim…in Exeter of all places. I was surrounded by people drinking clubbing etc but there so much more out there. I joined ISOC, hiking, boxing and met so many people. I then moved in a house with 3 Muslim girls and had the best years ever. Went to the local mosque, beaches, trips in diff cities. Uni has all sorts of people, those who drink, party etc but it’s up to you who you surround yourself with. If your mentality is “missing out” or not fitting in if you don’t do what the non-Muslims do, that’s inevitably going to lead you down the wrong path. If I did all those things, drinking, trying to fit in with non-Muslims, I would’ve missed out the experience I had in uni as a Muslim.


thanks this really did make me feel better
Original post by enem9320
Hey everyone, i’m in a dilemma, this might sound really stupid but im a muslim, and im going Brunel in september, and im just nervous, growing up
in the UK ( i grew up in east london where drinking culture was never that popular and that’s why i’m nervous now), university was made out to be all about partying and clubbing but i can’t do any of that stuff (muslim) and i’m scared that ill just find it hard to get along with people because i’m not a part of the culture, i always hear about these freshers fairs but they tend to involve clubs and whatnot and for other people that’s really useful because its sort of an icebreaker but i wouldn’t attend these parties, and obviously i know there’s society’s and whatnot but that’s not really my kind of vibe, but ultimately my point is that am i better off staying at home surrounded by all my friends and family and people i’m close too and commuting (an hour and 45 minutes ) or do i take a leap of faith and buy accommodation and hope that i don’t just sit in my room all day staring at the ceiling.

Hi there,

I think this is a worry that lots of people have who don't really enjoy drinking or going out clubbing. I would say to try not to worry about it too much as from my experience (even though I am not Muslim myself), there are lots of things to do that do not involve drinking or going out.

If you are worried about your accommodation and people there drinking all the time, you could always look into which accommodations are quieter. Look here on the student room for reviews or you can look on places like Student Crowd as this is a website where people leave reviews for different uni accommodations so you can see what the options are like and which one suits you. You could also request a quiet flat or state in your preferences that you do not drink so if possible could you be with similar minded people.You can usually request things like this but it doesn't necessarily mean it will happen but if other people request the same things, you may be placed together.

If you don't want to do this, that's completely fine! Any accommodation you get placed in will have a mixture of people so hopefully there will be somebody there that you get on with. It's also worth going to the social areas in the building and see if you meet anyone this way!

Or, if you did decide to stay at home, you can still have a uni experience and make friends. It may take more effort at first, but you will meet people through your course and just ask them to do things with you! Everyone wants to make friends at uni so it's likely they will say yes, especially if you make plans straight after uni- e.g. going for food or studying together in the library. It's really up to you what you think you would prefer in terms of where you are living.

I know you said you don't think societies are your thing, but I would still say it's a good idea to go to the societies fair in freshers week and see if you like the look of anything. Societies are great ways of making friends and if you live at home it's a good way of meeting different people to your course mates. If you don't fancy any, that's fine too it doesn't mean you won't make friends if you don't join one!

Other things to look into are if your student union puts on any events. At Hallam the SU puts on give it a go events where you go to places like alton towers or ice hockey matches which are very chill and don't involve drinking! Or, join some Facebook groups and see if you meet any friends there that want to make plans with you!

I hope some of this helps and that you enjoy uni,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador :smile:
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Original post by hallamstudents
Hi there,
I think this is a worry that lots of people have who don't really enjoy drinking or going out clubbing. I would say to try not to worry about it too much as from my experience (even though I am not Muslim myself), there are lots of things to do that do not involve drinking or going out.
If you are worried about your accommodation and people there drinking all the time, you could always look into which accommodations are quieter. Look here on the student room for reviews or you can look on places like Student Crowd as this is a website where people leave reviews for different uni accommodations so you can see what the options are like and which one suits you. You could also request a quiet flat or state in your preferences that you do not drink so if possible could you be with similar minded people.You can usually request things like this but it doesn't necessarily mean it will happen but if other people request the same things, you may be placed together.
If you don't want to do this, that's completely fine! Any accommodation you get placed in will have a mixture of people so hopefully there will be somebody there that you get on with. It's also worth going to the social areas in the building and see if you meet anyone this way!
Or, if you did decide to stay at home, you can still have a uni experience and make friends. It may take more effort at first, but you will meet people through your course and just ask them to do things with you! Everyone wants to make friends at uni so it's likely they will say yes, especially if you make plans straight after uni- e.g. going for food or studying together in the library. It's really up to you what you think you would prefer in terms of where you are living.
I know you said you don't think societies are your thing, but I would still say it's a good idea to go to the societies fair in freshers week and see if you like the look of anything. Societies are great ways of making friends and if you live at home it's a good way of meeting different people to your course mates. If you don't fancy any, that's fine too it doesn't mean you won't make friends if you don't join one!
Other things to look into are if your student union puts on any events. At Hallam the SU puts on give it a go events where you go to places like alton towers or ice hockey matches which are very chill and don't involve drinking! Or, join some Facebook groups and see if you meet any friends there that want to make plans with you!
I hope some of this helps and that you enjoy uni,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador :smile:


Thanks so much, i didn’t really think there was more to to uni than just drinking and partying because that’s what all the movies made it out to be lol, but now i understand there’s a lot more social activities than i thought, really appreciate it and thank you for the reassurance
Original post by enem9320
thanks this really did make me feel better


That’s okay, I realise now you are not a girl, but the same applies. A lot of time ppl think that our religion takes away from the “fun, but it brings you closer together with ppl who you can count on, you bond together through Islam. Don’t get me wrong, you will stare at a ceiling all day if that’s all you do, you have to get out there, join societies, social/ sports clubs.

At the end of the day uni really is what you make of it.

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