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AITA for being annoyed over my boyfriends lateness.

im honestly not sure what to do, my bf (17M) has a problem with being late. today is an important day for me, for both of us. My mum died when i was 9, and he never got the chance the meet her, i havent visited her grave in over 3 years, i was going to today, he going to come with me, to "meet" her, he knows it meant alot to me. we were going to go straight after school, i just told him " dont be late for school" , as he will have a 75 minute long detention, meaning he will leave school at 4:30.. he got himself a detention today, i know i seem like im being crazy, but we've arranged this for weeks, now time we get there, it will be closed.

AITA?
Reply 1
Why was he late ,though?
Original post by Anonymous
im honestly not sure what to do, my bf (17M) has a problem with being late. today is an important day for me, for both of us. My mum died when i was 9, and he never got the chance the meet her, i havent visited her grave in over 3 years, i was going to today, he going to come with me, to "meet" her, he knows it meant alot to me. we were going to go straight after school, i just told him " dont be late for school" , as he will have a 75 minute long detention, meaning he will leave school at 4:30.. he got himself a detention today, i know i seem like im being crazy, but we've arranged this for weeks, now time we get there, it will be closed.
AITA?

You can't have a detention like this - it's illegal.
hey, I have the same recurring issue with my boyfriend (also 17). he is late for everything and it causes most of the problems in our relationship because I equate lateness with lack of effort. in my mind I'm thinking "if he cared he'd never be late". I understand your situation is a bit more specific, so is the lateness a common thing or is it just this time? and if it is common then is there a reason why he's always late? For my boyfriend it's because he has sleep issues meaning he sleeps at weird times and is never awake until late afternoon-evening and because of this, when I want to meet in the morning he's always late because he cannot wake up. To get over the frustration of this I have to put myself in his shoes and understand that we work on different body clocks and yes it is annoying, but he is putting in the effort to get up in the first place even if he ends up running late. the reason I get so frustrated and what makes it worse is I have really really strict parents and I can only see him one day on the weekend so of course I want to spend the whole day with him and not just the afternoon. I definitely don't think you are in the wrong for being frustrated, you have every right to feel this way, but try not to aim all your frustration at him as it was the teacher who gave him that detention (75 mins by the way is insane wtf). he probably feels awful about missing something that was so important to you so talk to him about it and explain how you're feeling and hopefully he'll do the same and he can make it up to you. I hope this helped:smile:
Reply 4
ik this reply is rlly late lol but..
No ur not, but neither is he
maybe he had a genuine reason
have u spoken to him about it?
i get why ur annoyed when u've been planning something for ages
i get so ****ed, but ur bf is probs rlly sorry about it (u did say he wanted to 'meet' her)
im rlly sorry about ur mum, and hope u got to see her in the past few days xx
(and 75 mins is crazy js for being late!!)

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