What happened there?!
Here’s a chronology of a old story that happened with a girl few years ago- (school yr 2021-2022)
*At the beginning of the school year*
Late August to mid-Nov 2021: This girl sat next to me on the first day, starts talking to me and we became more and more friendly as days go by, she was even very touchy with me (this lasted 1 month and a half)
Early Nov 2021: This girl came in class one day and suddenly starts ignoring me, she was talking with other peoples except me, really acted like I didn’t exist while I haven’t done nothing to her,since then we never spoke again..
Early Dec 2021: she decided to change place to move to the desk infront of where we were seating,
Early Feb 2022: At first I only considered her as a friend but when she started ignoring me I developed feelings for her, so I added her on snap, this the first time we spoke since early Nov I told her I liked her and she told me that she had a bf..
March/April/May 2022: we spoke time by time on snap, even wished her happy birthday in early May, and this was the last time I ever spoke to her, since then, I have never talked to her til this day..
It’s been a few years and I’m still wondering what could I have done wrong for her to be acting like this lmao?!
*At the beginning of the school year*
Late August to mid-Nov 2021: This girl sat next to me on the first day, starts talking to me and we became more and more friendly as days go by, she was even very touchy with me (this lasted 1 month and a half)
Early Nov 2021: This girl came in class one day and suddenly starts ignoring me, she was talking with other peoples except me, really acted like I didn’t exist while I haven’t done nothing to her,since then we never spoke again..
Early Dec 2021: she decided to change place to move to the desk infront of where we were seating,
Early Feb 2022: At first I only considered her as a friend but when she started ignoring me I developed feelings for her, so I added her on snap, this the first time we spoke since early Nov I told her I liked her and she told me that she had a bf..
March/April/May 2022: we spoke time by time on snap, even wished her happy birthday in early May, and this was the last time I ever spoke to her, since then, I have never talked to her til this day..
It’s been a few years and I’m still wondering what could I have done wrong for her to be acting like this lmao?!
Reply 1
Acting like what? I suspect there was nothing deliberate on her part here at all. She speaks to you for a bit. Then she doesn't speak to you for a bit. Then she moves seats, which is entirely innocuous and shouldn't be part of this chronology at all. Then you tell her you like her, and she rejects you because she has a boyfriend. Then you speak a bit more, and then you don't speak anymore.
I think you're reading too much into this. People will come and go in your life all the time. It doesn't mean they're making conscious, relationship defining decisions every time they interact with you or don't interact with you. You haven't done anything 'wrong', nor has she decided to actively become closer to you or ignore you. It just is what it is. Objectively there's no reason at all why this should be bothering you two years after the fact. You got really hung up on her and assumed that everything she did was conscious and in response to something you did or didn't do. But in reality your friendship barely registered with her at all, and certainly not as something that she wanted to actively maintain. That's not to say it was like that because of something you didn't wrong. It isn't a negative. It is just the reality of the situation.
I think you're reading too much into this. People will come and go in your life all the time. It doesn't mean they're making conscious, relationship defining decisions every time they interact with you or don't interact with you. You haven't done anything 'wrong', nor has she decided to actively become closer to you or ignore you. It just is what it is. Objectively there's no reason at all why this should be bothering you two years after the fact. You got really hung up on her and assumed that everything she did was conscious and in response to something you did or didn't do. But in reality your friendship barely registered with her at all, and certainly not as something that she wanted to actively maintain. That's not to say it was like that because of something you didn't wrong. It isn't a negative. It is just the reality of the situation.
Reply 2
Original post
by AnonymousHere’s a chronology of a old story that happened with a girl few years ago- (school yr 2021-2022)
*At the beginning of the school year*
Late August to mid-Nov 2021: This girl sat next to me on the first day, starts talking to me and we became more and more friendly as days go by, she was even very touchy with me (this lasted 1 month and a half)
Early Nov 2021: This girl came in class one day and suddenly starts ignoring me, she was talking with other peoples except me, really acted like I didn’t exist while I haven’t done nothing to her,since then we never spoke again..
Early Dec 2021: she decided to change place to move to the desk infront of where we were seating,
Early Feb 2022: At first I only considered her as a friend but when she started ignoring me I developed feelings for her, so I added her on snap, this the first time we spoke since early Nov I told her I liked her and she told me that she had a bf..
March/April/May 2022: we spoke time by time on snap, even wished her happy birthday in early May, and this was the last time I ever spoke to her, since then, I have never talked to her til this day..
It’s been a few years and I’m still wondering what could I have done wrong for her to be acting like this lmao?!
*At the beginning of the school year*
Late August to mid-Nov 2021: This girl sat next to me on the first day, starts talking to me and we became more and more friendly as days go by, she was even very touchy with me (this lasted 1 month and a half)
Early Nov 2021: This girl came in class one day and suddenly starts ignoring me, she was talking with other peoples except me, really acted like I didn’t exist while I haven’t done nothing to her,since then we never spoke again..
Early Dec 2021: she decided to change place to move to the desk infront of where we were seating,
Early Feb 2022: At first I only considered her as a friend but when she started ignoring me I developed feelings for her, so I added her on snap, this the first time we spoke since early Nov I told her I liked her and she told me that she had a bf..
March/April/May 2022: we spoke time by time on snap, even wished her happy birthday in early May, and this was the last time I ever spoke to her, since then, I have never talked to her til this day..
It’s been a few years and I’m still wondering what could I have done wrong for her to be acting like this lmao?!
eh I don't think she really ever reciprocated you so tbh I'm not sure if anything happened at all, she probably just talked to you because you were sat with each other (dk what u mean abt touchy ngl), you say you got feelings in February when she already ignored you back in November? that probably already showed her lack of interest towards you, but you then proceeded to add her on snap (nothing wrong w chasing tbh), but she told u she had a bf, and then you barely talked since. dk abt you but read back on your own post and maybe realise there's nothing you can really do? you didn't do anything to her, and resultantly she didn't do anth back also due to her being in a relationship alr, there was nothing between you. she's not 'acting' like anth, she's simply living her life lol. Just leave it at that and let things naturally lead u to sm else who will reciprocate your feelings
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