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life is so boring

My life is so boring. I don't enjoy anything, I only do stuff because I know its useful or just a good way to spend time or if I'm being forced. I have friends but I hate how they have other friends they spend time with - I've never said anything because it's not like our friendships have been changed in a bad. I'm just jealous. Jealous of people being able to connect and talk to people so comfortably, whilst I take ages to trust and get comfortable with a person but by that point - they have already gotten bored with me. I wouldn't say I'm a boring person, I'm just a quiet person. I've tried talking to my friends friends so I can have more mutual friends but some of them just give me a side eye or just don't include me. I don't understand what i've done and my friends have said that i'm a nice, funny and considerate person. Maybe the people I interact with, just don't vibe with me. And thats reasonable. I just hate how everyone around me, everyone in my area can connect and bond with each other so well and yet I can't.
I don't rlly know what to do, I feel like no one actually knows what I truly feel like - even my close friend of 10 years does. I just keep everything in, sleep it off and feel better in the morning. But i'm dreading for when I hopefully go to Uni, my life will be very depressing. One of my friends sisters said to me that she was an introvert, but she ended up having a better social life in UNI then she did in sixth form. But when I look at the things she likes and does - it makes sense because its what the majority likes ya know? Idk the whole thing just sounds like a massive lie. The world was built for extroverts and I wish I was one.
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
My life is so boring. I don't enjoy anything, I only do stuff because I know its useful or just a good way to spend time or if I'm being forced. I have friends but I hate how they have other friends they spend time with - I've never said anything because it's not like our friendships have been changed in a bad. I'm just jealous. Jealous of people being able to connect and talk to people so comfortably, whilst I take ages to trust and get comfortable with a person but by that point - they have already gotten bored with me. I wouldn't say I'm a boring person, I'm just a quiet person. I've tried talking to my friends friends so I can have more mutual friends but some of them just give me a side eye or just don't include me. I don't understand what i've done and my friends have said that i'm a nice, funny and considerate person. Maybe the people I interact with, just don't vibe with me. And thats reasonable. I just hate how everyone around me, everyone in my area can connect and bond with each other so well and yet I can't.
I don't rlly know what to do, I feel like no one actually knows what I truly feel like - even my close friend of 10 years does. I just keep everything in, sleep it off and feel better in the morning. But i'm dreading for when I hopefully go to Uni, my life will be very depressing. One of my friends sisters said to me that she was an introvert, but she ended up having a better social life in UNI then she did in sixth form. But when I look at the things she likes and does - it makes sense because its what the majority likes ya know? Idk the whole thing just sounds like a massive lie. The world was built for extroverts and I wish I was one.
It seems like all my friends just have another friend group, like they have 2 friend groups to be with, where I have to rely on 1. I don't do an outside sport because there are none in the area or a place that is accessible to me, I just go to the gym so you would think that this could be an opportunity but my gym is so empty and most of the people there are just old men lol. idk how to make online friends - I did try but omegle wasn't a safe way of doing it and once it got shut down, idk what to do anymore.
I'm 18 years old, turning 19 soon. My social life is supposed to be fun but it isn't. I feel so lonely, I don't know what to do. I can't believe I said all of this in a public platform but there we go. I have 2 more alevels this week and then i'm done but I doubt i'll get into uni. I don't know whats to become of me
I understand your problem to some extent. I hope that you are able to overcome it, because it isn't healthy to feel as you do for too long. I'm not at university myself yet, but a lot of my friends who I knew to be very introverted have made some good close friends at university, even if it is just 1 or 2. Societies at universities mean you can meet people easily, who like the same things as you. Perhaps when you find such people, you might find it easier to open up. You can join many societies and find which ones you like. Almost every archetype of person can be found at university, so I have some confidence that you will find your people. I know that it may be too late to change things drastically at your position, assuming you're at sixth form now (?) but I wish you all the best. I also encourage you to find sports/creative clubs or jobs in the summer. Jobs may not find you a social group per say but you can improve skills like talking to people, for example, working at a supermarket. Not to mention the fact that saved up money may help you out during university.
Original post by Anonymous
My life is so boring. I don't enjoy anything, I only do stuff because I know its useful or just a good way to spend time or if I'm being forced. I have friends but I hate how they have other friends they spend time with - I've never said anything because it's not like our friendships have been changed in a bad. I'm just jealous. Jealous of people being able to connect and talk to people so comfortably, whilst I take ages to trust and get comfortable with a person but by that point - they have already gotten bored with me. I wouldn't say I'm a boring person, I'm just a quiet person. I've tried talking to my friends friends so I can have more mutual friends but some of them just give me a side eye or just don't include me. I don't understand what i've done and my friends have said that i'm a nice, funny and considerate person. Maybe the people I interact with, just don't vibe with me. And thats reasonable. I just hate how everyone around me, everyone in my area can connect and bond with each other so well and yet I can't.
I don't rlly know what to do, I feel like no one actually knows what I truly feel like - even my close friend of 10 years does. I just keep everything in, sleep it off and feel better in the morning. But i'm dreading for when I hopefully go to Uni, my life will be very depressing. One of my friends sisters said to me that she was an introvert, but she ended up having a better social life in UNI then she did in sixth form. But when I look at the things she likes and does - it makes sense because its what the majority likes ya know? Idk the whole thing just sounds like a massive lie. The world was built for extroverts and I wish I was one.

as blunt as it sounds, you need gratitude
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Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
as blunt as it sounds, you need gratitude
why?
Original post by Anonymous
why?

comparison is the theft of joy. you need to appreciate what you have, and what you can work with. our lives are like fingerprints, they may appear similar from surface level, but on a deeper level its very different. people may have a friend group of 5 people, but having 1 is totally fine too.
you need to learn to work with what you have.

when i was younger, about 14, i used to be upset that everyone was out there living lives that i dont. now im 19 and dont ever worry about what lives people are living, because i now feel fulfilled in my own. i dont even catch myself thinking about others.

boredom is real and i really do hear you on that. but if you cant change your situation overnight, as bad as it sounds, you have to learn to live with it. and if youre going to be living with it, you may as well learn to love it.

i was always casted aside in friendships, but now i am the one suggesting to my friends that we should go and do x y z.
horrible people do exist, so you might want to put yourself out there for those who arent so horrible. i made it a resolution for myself for sixth form to put myself out there are start conversations. since you are meeting new people, you have the chance to start fresh, and put on a confident mask.

All the best, i really do wish it works out well for you. i know that it must really hurt to feel excluded all the time
Original post by Anonymous
My life is so boring. I don't enjoy anything, I only do stuff because I know its useful or just a good way to spend time or if I'm being forced. I have friends but I hate how they have other friends they spend time with - I've never said anything because it's not like our friendships have been changed in a bad. I'm just jealous. Jealous of people being able to connect and talk to people so comfortably, whilst I take ages to trust and get comfortable with a person but by that point - they have already gotten bored with me. I wouldn't say I'm a boring person, I'm just a quiet person. I've tried talking to my friends friends so I can have more mutual friends but some of them just give me a side eye or just don't include me. I don't understand what i've done and my friends have said that i'm a nice, funny and considerate person. Maybe the people I interact with, just don't vibe with me. And thats reasonable. I just hate how everyone around me, everyone in my area can connect and bond with each other so well and yet I can't.
I don't rlly know what to do, I feel like no one actually knows what I truly feel like - even my close friend of 10 years does. I just keep everything in, sleep it off and feel better in the morning. But i'm dreading for when I hopefully go to Uni, my life will be very depressing. One of my friends sisters said to me that she was an introvert, but she ended up having a better social life in UNI then she did in sixth form. But when I look at the things she likes and does - it makes sense because its what the majority likes ya know? Idk the whole thing just sounds like a massive lie. The world was built for extroverts and I wish I was one.
Same for me, but then I started to like being by myself, I started to study a level bio, chem, physics in my spare time and I found it really interesting to learn about. Also picked up reading, going to the gym, going on runs, baking, spending time with my parents. Your life isn’t boring, it’s how you view life.
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
comparison is the theft of joy. you need to appreciate what you have, and what you can work with. our lives are like fingerprints, they may appear similar from surface level, but on a deeper level its very different. people may have a friend group of 5 people, but having 1 is totally fine too.
you need to learn to work with what you have.
when i was younger, about 14, i used to be upset that everyone was out there living lives that i dont. now im 19 and dont ever worry about what lives people are living, because i now feel fulfilled in my own. i dont even catch myself thinking about others.
boredom is real and i really do hear you on that. but if you cant change your situation overnight, as bad as it sounds, you have to learn to live with it. and if youre going to be living with it, you may as well learn to love it.
i was always casted aside in friendships, but now i am the one suggesting to my friends that we should go and do x y z.
horrible people do exist, so you might want to put yourself out there for those who arent so horrible. i made it a resolution for myself for sixth form to put myself out there are start conversations. since you are meeting new people, you have the chance to start fresh, and put on a confident mask.
All the best, i really do wish it works out well for you. i know that it must really hurt to feel excluded all the time

prsom💯
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
Same for me, but then I started to like being by myself, I started to study a level bio, chem, physics in my spare time and I found it really interesting to learn about. Also picked up reading, going to the gym, going on runs, baking, spending time with my parents. Your life isn’t boring, it’s how you view life.

and prsom♨️
people have already mentioned similar sentiments above so this will be quite the generic type but do try to change your outlook on life by finding hobbies and things that you love and enjoy doing. maybe perhaps chase after self-improvement and when you do this your friends may appreciate seeing you on your grind and would want to join in or something,

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