Controlling/overbearing parents (financial advice needed)

I honestly have had enough at this point, I’m currently 17 and honestly the moment I’m done with college I plan on moving as far as possible and limiting contact or going no contact with my whole family because I think that is the only thing I could do for my own well being.
I recently pointed out the hypocrisy in how I am being treated in comparison to my male siblings in regards to domestic tasks and my moms reaction to that was to take away my phone, come up into my face and slap me. She thinks it’s discipline but if anything it just makes me dislike, it has come to a point we’re simply hearing her footsteps up the stairs irritates me and just makes me angry which I don’t want because she is my mother and our relationship has only started deteriorating in recent years. Her response to everything is that I am being influenced by friends or I have a secret boyfriend that is influencing me (never even had a boyfriend and I don’t talk to any friends outside school) but the truth is the problem is her, she is the one that makes me upset all the time not any imaginary friends or boyfriend that she has now made up. This one time she started crying and told me that she was looking at pictures of me when I was younger and “what happened to me?” And I honestly couldn’t even take her seriously because all of a sudden I am a bad person because I want you to treat me like my other siblings? I am also 17 not 6, I have my own opinions and feelings and just because I don’t agree with you on things that doesn’t mean I’m disrespectful which is something I feel like she doesn’t understand. My dad isn’t much of a help, I was studying for an exam this one time, my brothers were playing video games and my mom asked me to help her cook and I said no because I was obviously busy and my dad agreed with her because I am a woman and I should be helping my mom with the cooking they proceeded to berate me even though they could have easily asked on of my brothers that was not doing anything, and whenever I eat food that i don’t help cook she always curses at me even though everyone else didn’t help.
Maybe I am biased because I’m talking about myself but I see myself as a good kid, never drank, smoked, been to any parties, parents have never had to come into school for bad behaviour, always keep on top of my work, my teachers always say good things about me hell even my friends tell me that their parents love me but somehow my parents don’t see the same in me.
She asked me not too long ago to help her with her makeup and I said no due to her constantly threatening to hit me at any minor inconvenience and her response was to take away my money that my dad gave me. She still hasn’t given me my phone and honestly I’m contemplating just snatching it out of her hands at some point and dealing with the consequences because I need it to keep up with job applications.
I also need some financial advice, I quit my old job because the distance was too far to travel and the job schedule was too inconsistent but I have been applying for jobs. I plan on taking a gap year but honestly I don’t think I can manage another year, can you guys please leave some of your best advice for me financially? I do consider myself a frugal spender as I rarely buy thing and I could live off a very low budget on groceries a week but I have checked some small studio apartments and they are quite expensive.
I have tried expressing my feelings in a respectful manner and talking to my parents but they see everything as disrespect and punish everything and then act surprised and complain when I say in my room and avoid them, one thing I have realised is that they will never change, this is who they are. So I will just have to love them from a distance.