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Relationship with friend problem

I've liked a girl for a year and a half and we became really close within that time. sometime later she then asked me if I was straight one day and through the reply I somehow revealed how my other friends thought that I liked her, and the way that I told her implied that I didn't (I'm not sure if she had feelings for me). I did that because I didn't want to be in a relationship but I still liked her (???) then a few months later she started telling me about her love life, and how she likes another girl, but now she's dating someone else. i just wanna keep my distance (not in a bad way) and kinda get over the feelings but since we are now close friends she still wants to remain like that - so if i do stop talking to her it's going to come out rude, especially as she is really nice and notices if I'm quiet. Wtaf am I meant to do because I genuinely enjoy being in the friendship but it's hard when I have feelings???

It doesn't help when my communication is rubbish + i indicated that I didn't like her despite liking her - atp I'm just hurting my own feelings and i haven't told her and am not planning on doing so
Original post by Anonymous
I've liked a girl for a year and a half and we became really close within that time. sometime later she then asked me if I was straight one day and through the reply I somehow revealed how my other friends thought that I liked her, and the way that I told her implied that I didn't (I'm not sure if she had feelings for me). I did that because I didn't want to be in a relationship but I still liked her (???) then a few months later she started telling me about her love life, and how she likes another girl, but now she's dating someone else. i just wanna keep my distance (not in a bad way) and kinda get over the feelings but since we are now close friends she still wants to remain like that - so if i do stop talking to her it's going to come out rude, especially as she is really nice and notices if I'm quiet. Wtaf am I meant to do because I genuinely enjoy being in the friendship but it's hard when I have feelings???
It doesn't help when my communication is rubbish + i indicated that I didn't like her despite liking her - atp I'm just hurting my own feelings and i haven't told her and am not planning on doing so
I'm sure as her friend you want to put her feelings first before yours but we must understand that sometimes our feelings are just as important than the ones we enjoy if you feel like it too hard for you too see her with someone else that's okay set boundaries for yourself and move on respectfully

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