Should I be worried?

The guy I’ve been casually dating had his old fling perfume in his car ….. we’re on casually dating and we’re not committed yet I still think it’s weird. I did some snooping and I found out they hooked up three weeks ago. That’s were the perfume came from… I also saw that he sent her a picture asking “if it was her perfume” she said yes and to throw it away or keep it as a souvenir weeks later she texts him again asking if he still has it or if he threw it away ? He said “he thinks it’s still in his car “ …… She asked if he could drop it off and he said yea….

So I asked him why it was in his car .. He said because he hasn’t clean out his car yet ??? Keep in mind it’s been weeks ….

Is this a red flag ?

Reply 1

indotime

Original post by Emilly676

The guy I’ve been casually dating had his old fling perfume in his car ….. we’re on casually dating and we’re not committed yet I still think it’s weird. I did some snooping and I found out they hooked up three weeks ago. That’s were the perfume came from… I also saw that he sent her a picture asking “if it was her perfume” she said yes and to throw it away or keep it as a souvenir weeks later she texts him again asking if he still has it or if he threw it away ? He said “he thinks it’s still in his car “ …… She asked if he could drop it off and he said yea….
So I asked him why it was in his car .. He said because he hasn’t clean out his car yet ??? Keep in mind it’s been weeks ….
Is this a red flag ?

unless he's not normally someone who wont clean if he does then they might have or they might still be hooking up

Reply 2

Surnia

Life & Style Forum Helper

Is it a red flag that you're snooping a guy's social media? Yes.

Is it a red flag that a guy who is casually dating is seeing other girls and has one's perfume in his car? No.

You want commitment? Set boundaries.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

what does 'casual' dating mean? because from what you are describing, and the extent that you are going to, it sounds like youre pretty committed.
you need to consider what he expects to gain out of this relationship, and what you expect to gain out of this relationship. if its some sort of commitment, then yes its (moderately) weird that he kept it. but if its not, then what are you working yourself up for?