Did I scare him off or was he not into me?

Been dating a guy from an app for 4.5 months. He was showing consistent interest & we went out often. He always texted me a lot, wanted to talk on the phone, initiated dates & hangouts. Didn't immediately pressure me to sleep with him. We started hanging out more at his place, slept together after 2 months (my 1st time). Introduced me to his friends & one day talked about us potentially being in a relationship in the future. I replied, then let's say we are in one. He said he'd never felt so good with anyone & that he deleted the app.
However, over time I started to pick fights as he often travelled with his friends without me & made excuses why I couldn't go. He mentioned he wants to travel to a small town by the seaside with his friends in the summer for 2 weeks & they'll go to a club like every year. I wanted to be included, especially after I heard 'clubbing and drinking' which is a good occasion to cheat. Also, leaving his gf for 2 weeks? Too long for me. I also suspected him of being gay (he didn't initiate sex much) but we talked it out and he said he was straight.
Recently we had another argument. I said he should compromise & take me with him for the holiday or not go. He disagreed & said we're not together, that I'm not his girlfriend but we're 'dating' & we're not officially a couple since we haven't had that talk & because I don't trust him at all. Umm.. he'd mentioned a relationship first.. I thought everything was official.
He said I was too controlling & that I have pretences & don't care about him. He said we were not close enough to be bf/gf as we didn't see each other/call/text enough (not true at all..) & said he felt uneasy that I treat it as if we're already a bf & gf. He added a gf wouldn't start fights & would ask if he was ok instead. Then he said something awful. I said if he loved me he'd take me with him & he replied it's too soon for him to love yet & he needs time. What? He'd been acting like a boyfriend all the way until I started that fight. I was sure we were in a relationship. I don't understand why he said it & I felt hurt. Ignored him for two weeks and unfriended because I got so mad. Then I returned with an ultimatum - either completely together or not at all. He said after all of this he sees no sign of a serious relationship. Did I scare him off or was he not into me?

Been dating a guy from an app for 4.5 months. He was showing consistent interest & we went out often. He always texted me a lot, wanted to talk on the phone, initiated dates & hangouts. Didn't immediately pressure me to sleep with him. We started hanging out more at his place, slept together after 2 months (my 1st time). Introduced me to his friends & one day talked about us potentially being in a relationship in the future. I replied, then let's say we are in one. He said he'd never felt so good with anyone & that he deleted the app.
However, over time I started to pick fights as he often travelled with his friends without me & made excuses why I couldn't go. He mentioned he wants to travel to a small town by the seaside with his friends in the summer for 2 weeks & they'll go to a club like every year. I wanted to be included, especially after I heard 'clubbing and drinking' which is a good occasion to cheat. Also, leaving his gf for 2 weeks? Too long for me. I also suspected him of being gay (he didn't initiate sex much) but we talked it out and he said he was straight.
Recently we had another argument. I said he should compromise & take me with him for the holiday or not go. He disagreed & said we're not together, that I'm not his girlfriend but we're 'dating' & we're not officially a couple since we haven't had that talk & because I don't trust him at all. Umm.. he'd mentioned a relationship first.. I thought everything was official.
He said I was too controlling & that I have pretences & don't care about him. He said we were not close enough to be bf/gf as we didn't see each other/call/text enough (not true at all..) & said he felt uneasy that I treat it as if we're already a bf & gf. He added a gf wouldn't start fights & would ask if he was ok instead. Then he said something awful. I said if he loved me he'd take me with him & he replied it's too soon for him to love yet & he needs time. What? He'd been acting like a boyfriend all the way until I started that fight. I was sure we were in a relationship. I don't understand why he said it & I felt hurt. Ignored him for two weeks and unfriended because I got so mad. Then I returned with an ultimatum - either completely together or not at all. He said after all of this he sees no sign of a serious relationship. Did I scare him off or was he not into me?