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Should I quit my club in university?

So, in my first year, impressed by a friend, i joined the dance club in my university. I started doing latin and I LOVED it. i improved very fast and people were surprised and i think my body is just very convenient for it. i also LOVE being on stage, doing shows, and being watched by people. even seeing other’s dance just wakes a feeling in me that’s like flames.
however, i’ve had a very rough year, preparing for the festivals. there are many things in my life that already make it very hard, i am pretty depressed and my relationship with all friends, including the dance ones, have gone bad. And on top of these, at dance, some people are being very favored because they are friends with the ones on top and choreographers. i worked my a** off, dance better than most and people who are much worse get to always be put forward for EVERYTHING. there are also lots of annoying and stupid people, and almost no one feels genuine anymore. I have been thinking about quitting for so long, but i still love to dance and be on stage during festivals. i ask myself why i force myself to be in a community which gives me stress and annoys me but i also don’t think i could go without the dance and shows. what do you think i should do? have u ever been in a similar situation and if so how did you handle it?
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by Anonymous
So, in my first year, impressed by a friend, i joined the dance club in my university. I started doing latin and I LOVED it. i improved very fast and people were surprised and i think my body is just very convenient for it. i also LOVE being on stage, doing shows, and being watched by people. even seeing other’s dance just wakes a feeling in me that’s like flames.
however, i’ve had a very rough year, preparing for the festivals. there are many things in my life that already make it very hard, i am pretty depressed and my relationship with all friends, including the dance ones, have gone bad. And on top of these, at dance, some people are being very favored because they are friends with the ones on top and choreographers. i worked my a** off, dance better than most and people who are much worse get to always be put forward for EVERYTHING. there are also lots of annoying and stupid people, and almost no one feels genuine anymore. I have been thinking about quitting for so long, but i still love to dance and be on stage during festivals. i ask myself why i force myself to be in a community which gives me stress and annoys me but i also don’t think i could go without the dance and shows. what do you think i should do? have u ever been in a similar situation and if so how did you handle it?

Hi there,
This sounds like a difficult situation but you're certainly not alone. Although there's many benefits to joining societies at university, if you find that you're not enjoying it for any reason then it may be worth considering your options. For example, are there similar societies at your uni? Or have you looked into dance groups/classes outside of university in your local area. Alternatively, if you feel determined to stay and are able to look past the negatives, then do that!

-Nicky

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Original post
by Anonymous
So, in my first year, impressed by a friend, i joined the dance club in my university. I started doing latin and I LOVED it. i improved very fast and people were surprised and i think my body is just very convenient for it. i also LOVE being on stage, doing shows, and being watched by people. even seeing other’s dance just wakes a feeling in me that’s like flames.
however, i’ve had a very rough year, preparing for the festivals. there are many things in my life that already make it very hard, i am pretty depressed and my relationship with all friends, including the dance ones, have gone bad. And on top of these, at dance, some people are being very favored because they are friends with the ones on top and choreographers. i worked my a** off, dance better than most and people who are much worse get to always be put forward for EVERYTHING. there are also lots of annoying and stupid people, and almost no one feels genuine anymore. I have been thinking about quitting for so long, but i still love to dance and be on stage during festivals. i ask myself why i force myself to be in a community which gives me stress and annoys me but i also don’t think i could go without the dance and shows. what do you think i should do? have u ever been in a similar situation and if so how did you handle it?

Hi,
Firstly, i'm sorry this has been your experience, I have been in a similar situation before so I understand where you're coming from.
I would say you need to understand why you're involved in the society - is it just to have fun? Or because you want the opportunity to dance and perform? Of course it may be a bit of both. However, if your primary reason is to have fun and it is no longer fun and causes you so much stress then it may not be worth your time anymore. But if it's mostly due to your love for dancing, don't let other people get in the way of doing something you love.
I am unsure how it works at your university, but at the start of a new academic year the class teachers and choreographers may change, meaning the society has a different dynamic. Additionally, new people will join, giving you the opportunity to make new friends.

Hope this helps! Faye 🙂

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Original post
by Anonymous
So, in my first year, impressed by a friend, i joined the dance club in my university. I started doing latin and I LOVED it. i improved very fast and people were surprised and i think my body is just very convenient for it. i also LOVE being on stage, doing shows, and being watched by people. even seeing other’s dance just wakes a feeling in me that’s like flames.
however, i’ve had a very rough year, preparing for the festivals. there are many things in my life that already make it very hard, i am pretty depressed and my relationship with all friends, including the dance ones, have gone bad. And on top of these, at dance, some people are being very favored because they are friends with the ones on top and choreographers. i worked my a** off, dance better than most and people who are much worse get to always be put forward for EVERYTHING. there are also lots of annoying and stupid people, and almost no one feels genuine anymore. I have been thinking about quitting for so long, but i still love to dance and be on stage during festivals. i ask myself why i force myself to be in a community which gives me stress and annoys me but i also don’t think i could go without the dance and shows. what do you think i should do? have u ever been in a similar situation and if so how did you handle it?

Hi there,

I'm so sorry that you're in this position to be thinking about leaving a club that you enjoy! I'd recommend to leave and trying to find a similar club outside of university where the vibe might be different. It could even help you make more local friends! I'm sorry that I can't help more but I think that you should have the opportunity to progress in a more genuine environment.

All the best,
Jaz - Cardiff student rep

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