Relationships

My ex boyfriend is in year 13, and is moving up to Liverpool and the thing is, he broke up with me, technically (he got his work collogue to message me on insta and technically she broke up with me, dunno how that works, buut, okayy). The thing is, is he still loves me, and I still love him, but I really really hate him, and I know that this is the grieving process, but it still hurts so much, and obviously I'm not going to see him for a long time, probably ever again, and I'm more than willing for both of us to lose contact and move on, but at the same time, it hurts, but does it hurt more if I stay in contact with him? surely it does right? because of the emotional connection and all that. I just don't know what to do, should I stop contact with him altogether? Or should we just stay good friends because we're really close and we've been through a lot together. We broke up end of March, but we still talk and hug, but today is his last day at college with me, so I'm not going to see him or hug him in probably forever, and that hurts, but at the same time, I want to grow, and just concentrate on myself, which is what I've been doing, and I feel way more like myself now that I'm not with anyone and seen what our relationship was really like, and it was fairly toxic, but, at the same time, I've seen the light, and being single is good, yet at the same time, I, personally like to be with someone, someone that I can trust and hug and talk to and hang out with, and me and my ex were really close, but there was so much that went wrong with our relationship, and I've noticed what went wrong with our relationship, and I know that my next relationship in the future will be much better because I would have learned from my mistakes from previous relationship(s). So yeah, what should I do? Should I completely cut contact with him, or should we just be friends? Or should I just give it a few months and then contact him again?
Post thoughts x
Lilly

You're better off cutting contact for your own good. The emotional attachment is not healthy here.

How can you say you love each other when you had a toxic relationship and he broke up with you? Why would you want to keep in touch with someone who didn't even have the guts and decency to end things face-to-face? He couldn't be bothered to contact you, so cut contact with him. I can't even see how you'd be decent friends with each other.

That's so true, but it's also so difficult. It hurts so much. I get what you guys are saying, so many people have told me the same, but at the same time, I still stupidly like him, but I know that we should go our separate ways, I know it's for the best. x

Think of it this way: your best friend tells you that she was in a toxic relationship, her bf had dumped her via a message from someone else, but she wants to keep in touch. What would you advise her, stay friends or cut contact?
If you can make the right decision for another person, you can make it for yourself...

Thank you x
I would tell my friend to cut it because he wouldnt be worth her time or energy x

My ex boyfriend is in year 13, and is moving up to Liverpool and the thing is, he broke up with me, technically (he got his work collogue to message me on insta and technically she broke up with me, dunno how that works, buut, okayy). The thing is, is he still loves me, and I still love him, but I really really hate him, and I know that this is the grieving process, but it still hurts so much, and obviously I'm not going to see him for a long time, probably ever again, and I'm more than willing for both of us to lose contact and move on, but at the same time, it hurts, but does it hurt more if I stay in contact with him? surely it does right? because of the emotional connection and all that. I just don't know what to do, should I stop contact with him altogether? Or should we just stay good friends because we're really close and we've been through a lot together. We broke up end of March, but we still talk and hug, but today is his last day at college with me, so I'm not going to see him or hug him in probably forever, and that hurts, but at the same time, I want to grow, and just concentrate on myself, which is what I've been doing, and I feel way more like myself now that I'm not with anyone and seen what our relationship was really like, and it was fairly toxic, but, at the same time, I've seen the light, and being single is good, yet at the same time, I, personally like to be with someone, someone that I can trust and hug and talk to and hang out with, and me and my ex were really close, but there was so much that went wrong with our relationship, and I've noticed what went wrong with our relationship, and I know that my next relationship in the future will be much better because I would have learned from my mistakes from previous relationship(s). So yeah, what should I do? Should I completely cut contact with him, or should we just be friends? Or should I just give it a few months and then contact him again?
Post thoughts x
Lilly