How can I not feel awful about weight gain
I have periods of what I guess some people would call disordered eating where I lose quite a bit of weight and I’m coming out of one of those periods rn which means weight gain but idk how to not feel so awful about it. When I step on the scales and see my weight has gone up my heart sinks and I feel like I want to throw up. It makes me feel disgusting and idk why.
My current weight is about 6 stone 11/95lbs, up from a recent low of 6 stone 4/88lbs so I’m not overweight or anything close to it and really I know that weight gain isn’t that deep but idk how to not feel so awful about it. I’m just eating a normal amount (around 1600-1700 calories a day including alcohol) and I’m not binging but I’m still gaining weight and that makes me feel sick. Does everyone feel like this? Is it just a case of tolerating it until the feeling goes away?
My current weight is about 6 stone 11/95lbs, up from a recent low of 6 stone 4/88lbs so I’m not overweight or anything close to it and really I know that weight gain isn’t that deep but idk how to not feel so awful about it. I’m just eating a normal amount (around 1600-1700 calories a day including alcohol) and I’m not binging but I’m still gaining weight and that makes me feel sick. Does everyone feel like this? Is it just a case of tolerating it until the feeling goes away?
Dont worry, your weight is not close to being something that should be considered, as 95lbs is considered a low weight ( assuming you are 13 + and are average height for your age). In terms of removing this feeling, try sticking to a meal plan with meals at specific time ranges to avoid over-eating, make sure its suitable for your needs, snacks in moderation aren't bad for you. The drinking of alcohol should also be moderated as the chemical changes in your brain as a result of its consumption can lead to negative feelings, which is probably the root of your disgust.
Original post by identified-crow
Dont worry, your weight is not close to being something that should be considered, as 95lbs is considered a low weight ( assuming you are 13 + and are average height for your age). In terms of removing this feeling, try sticking to a meal plan with meals at specific time ranges to avoid over-eating, make sure its suitable for your needs, snacks in moderation aren't bad for you. The drinking of alcohol should also be moderated as the chemical changes in your brain as a result of its consumption can lead to negative feelings, which is probably the root of your disgust.
Original post by Anonymous
I have periods of what I guess some people would call disordered eating where I lose quite a bit of weight and I’m coming out of one of those periods rn which means weight gain but idk how to not feel so awful about it. When I step on the scales and see my weight has gone up my heart sinks and I feel like I want to throw up. It makes me feel disgusting and idk why.
My current weight is about 6 stone 11/95lbs, up from a recent low of 6 stone 4/88lbs so I’m not overweight or anything close to it and really I know that weight gain isn’t that deep but idk how to not feel so awful about it. I’m just eating a normal amount (around 1600-1700 calories a day including alcohol) and I’m not binging but I’m still gaining weight and that makes me feel sick. Does everyone feel like this? Is it just a case of tolerating it until the feeling goes away?
My current weight is about 6 stone 11/95lbs, up from a recent low of 6 stone 4/88lbs so I’m not overweight or anything close to it and really I know that weight gain isn’t that deep but idk how to not feel so awful about it. I’m just eating a normal amount (around 1600-1700 calories a day including alcohol) and I’m not binging but I’m still gaining weight and that makes me feel sick. Does everyone feel like this? Is it just a case of tolerating it until the feeling goes away?
As you've recognised you have disordered eating and have concerns about how you are feeling regarding weight gain - have you spoken with your GP about this?
Original post by artful_lounger
As you've recognised you have disordered eating and have concerns about how you are feeling regarding weight gain - have you spoken with your GP about this?
Original post by Anonymous
No and I don’t intend to
Why not? You've recognised there are issues with how you feel about this, and your GP is realistically the best person to help with that. If you won't seek the professional help available to you it's hard to see what help you could get from random people on the Internet?
Original post by artful_lounger
Why not? You've recognised there are issues with how you feel about this, and your GP is realistically the best person to help with that. If you won't seek the professional help available to you it's hard to see what help you could get from random people on the Internet?
I’m a healthy weight and eat every day, a doctor isn’t really going to entertain me saying there’s an issue when they have much more severe cases to deal with. Also I’m yet to receive good or valid advice from a doctor on anything I’ve been to see them about.
Original post by artful_lounger
Why not? You've recognised there are issues with how you feel about this, and your GP is realistically the best person to help with that. If you won't seek the professional help available to you it's hard to see what help you could get from random people on the Internet?
Original post by artful_lounger
Why not? You've recognised there are issues with how you feel about this, and your GP is realistically the best person to help with that. If you won't seek the professional help available to you it's hard to see what help you could get from random people on the Internet?
Realistically, and I'm speaking with experience here, GPs rarely help with disordered eating unless you are close to death, be that morbidly obese or severely, severely underweight. I was directly quoted this by a doctor once... very disappointing, especially considering the outcome of my lack of support.
I'd also like to say to the original poster that you are completely understood and these times can be so hard. One thing to try and remember is that weight gain, unless a stone or so, is rarely visible. Our weights are always fluctuated, but I doubt you look at your friends or peers any differently when they have gained 2 or 3 pounds because you simply wouldn't even notice that they have! Of course, this is so much easier said/read than done - even typing this out I realise that the words I'm saying can be hard to believe myself, but its completely true. Eating a healthy amount and gaining a bit of weight means that your body NEEDS that - it is trying to hold onto the energy you are giving it because it has been removed of it for a while. If you ever need to talk more, just say and we can talk privately if you feel the need to. I'm in a very similar position to you (it's a bit creepy actually - my measurements are literally the EXACT same as yours... it felt like this post was made by my head subconsciously or smth lol) so although I know what I have said can be so incredibly hard to understand, please be kinder to yourself and realise that weight gain ≠ bad and weight gain ≠ visible in our case! Body dysmorphia is a real nightmare just when you really don't need it!!
Original post by Anonymous
Realistically, and I'm speaking with experience here, GPs rarely help with disordered eating unless you are close to death, be that morbidly obese or severely, severely underweight. I was directly quoted this by a doctor once... very disappointing, especially considering the outcome of my lack of support.
I'd also like to say to the original poster that you are completely understood and these times can be so hard. One thing to try and remember is that weight gain, unless a stone or so, is rarely visible. Our weights are always fluctuated, but I doubt you look at your friends or peers any differently when they have gained 2 or 3 pounds because you simply wouldn't even notice that they have! Of course, this is so much easier said/read than done - even typing this out I realise that the words I'm saying can be hard to believe myself, but its completely true. Eating a healthy amount and gaining a bit of weight means that your body NEEDS that - it is trying to hold onto the energy you are giving it because it has been removed of it for a while. If you ever need to talk more, just say and we can talk privately if you feel the need to. I'm in a very similar position to you (it's a bit creepy actually - my measurements are literally the EXACT same as yours... it felt like this post was made by my head subconsciously or smth lol) so although I know what I have said can be so incredibly hard to understand, please be kinder to yourself and realise that weight gain ≠ bad and weight gain ≠ visible in our case! Body dysmorphia is a real nightmare just when you really don't need it!!
I'd also like to say to the original poster that you are completely understood and these times can be so hard. One thing to try and remember is that weight gain, unless a stone or so, is rarely visible. Our weights are always fluctuated, but I doubt you look at your friends or peers any differently when they have gained 2 or 3 pounds because you simply wouldn't even notice that they have! Of course, this is so much easier said/read than done - even typing this out I realise that the words I'm saying can be hard to believe myself, but its completely true. Eating a healthy amount and gaining a bit of weight means that your body NEEDS that - it is trying to hold onto the energy you are giving it because it has been removed of it for a while. If you ever need to talk more, just say and we can talk privately if you feel the need to. I'm in a very similar position to you (it's a bit creepy actually - my measurements are literally the EXACT same as yours... it felt like this post was made by my head subconsciously or smth lol) so although I know what I have said can be so incredibly hard to understand, please be kinder to yourself and realise that weight gain ≠ bad and weight gain ≠ visible in our case! Body dysmorphia is a real nightmare just when you really don't need it!!
Factoring alcohol into anything doesn't disprove the fact that it indisputably causes negative emotions, try quitting for a week and see how you feel. And for a 20 year old at 5'0, you are nowhere near overweight, so there is nothing to feel worried about. Human weight fluctuates every day, assuming you are drinking the right amount of water each day, so slight changes in weight mean practically nothing.
Original post by identified-crow
Factoring alcohol into anything doesn't disprove the fact that it indisputably causes negative emotions, try quitting for a week and see how you feel. And for a 20 year old at 5'0, you are nowhere near overweight, so there is nothing to feel worried about. Human weight fluctuates every day, assuming you are drinking the right amount of water each day, so slight changes in weight mean practically nothing.
Drinking makes me feel better, I’ve tried quitting, even managed about 2 weeks earlier this year but I felt worse in those two weeks than ever before
Original post by Anonymous
Drinking makes me feel better, I’ve tried quitting, even managed about 2 weeks earlier this year but I felt worse in those two weeks than ever before
If you start feeling worse when not taking alcohol, then that is a sign of addiction. This shows that your brain has adapted to using alcohol as your main dopamine source, try looking for other ways of making yourself happy and you will find that your sadness will fade easier than ever before.
Original post by identified-crow
If you start feeling worse when not taking alcohol, then that is a sign of addiction. This shows that your brain has adapted to using alcohol as your main dopamine source, try looking for other ways of making yourself happy and you will find that your sadness will fade easier than ever before.
I’m fine with how much I drink and that isn’t the issue here
Your body has a far better idea of how it wants to be, and it will settle at its status quo weight if you allow it to. It is such a wonderful complex functioning item, and if you have two arms, two legs and your senses are intact you have a whole lot more than many other people. What are the issues for you here? That you are allowing your head space to be incredibly self absorbed with arbitrary numbers? Is this a control issue? You can decide to stop this right now and you have that choice, so take control of your thoughts processes. Monitor when you start to stress about weight. Look in the mirror and ask yourself how self absorbed you want to be in life and how does 2lbs either way change your life outcome? How much time are you wasting being self centred? Who really cares apart from you? The easiest answer is to throw the scales away. Get physically fit, channel your head thoughts outwards. Stop caring what other people think.
Original post by Anonymous
I’m fine with how much I drink and that isn’t the issue here
According to you, the problems are not from alcohol or your diet, as you state that your alcohol intake is harmless and that you already have a meal plan and a monitored calorie count, so this leads to the conclusion that the actual problem is your mental state. You are too self conscious and worry about pointless ideas, perhaps limit scale checking and go for a walk, have a calm headspace and try not to think about it too much. If you are reluctant to follow previous suggestions, then the simplest option is to just monitor your food intake more carefully and research about possible alternatives for foods that you are currently eating, as you seem uneducated about the importance of healthy food intake, as if you knew that the foods you are eating were good for you, then there would be no cause for negative feelings.
Original post by identified-crow
According to you, the problems are not from alcohol or your diet, as you state that your alcohol intake is harmless and that you already have a meal plan and a monitored calorie count, so this leads to the conclusion that the actual problem is your mental state. You are too self conscious and worry about pointless ideas, perhaps limit scale checking and go for a walk, have a calm headspace and try not to think about it too much. If you are reluctant to follow previous suggestions, then the simplest option is to just monitor your food intake more carefully and research about possible alternatives for foods that you are currently eating, as you seem uneducated about the importance of healthy food intake, as if you knew that the foods you are eating were good for you, then there would be no cause for negative feelings.
it's quite a ridiculous assumption to say I'm uneducated about health and food when it's one of my top priorities
Original post by Anonymous
it's quite a ridiculous assumption to say I'm uneducated about health and food when it's one of my top priorities
Having something as a top priority does not necessarily mean that you are educated enough in such topic to make formal conclusions and reasoning as to why you feel negative emotions. And even if you were educated about health and food then you would know how weight gain works, you seem to be quite confused about this topic so i suggest to do more research and soon enough you will find out that slight weight gain and weight loss is normal and is nothing to worry about. Proceed to ignore my points and you wont get any far with yourself, learning how to not become self absorbed is a quality needed throughout life, its your choice to follow said advice and if you don't then that's none of my business.
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