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Amicable Separation

I've just recently had an amicable break-up with a friend. Two years ago I e-mailed her twice and she didn't reply, then just recently I decided to get in contact with her to find out why she's ghosted me.

She told me it was because I said some really negative things during my e-mails, and that in that current e-mail my tone was negative still. I took a look back at those e-mails I sent, then the most-recent e-mail and discovered she was absolutely right-I was a real piece of you know what. At the end of the most recent e-mail she said she'd appreciate it if I didn't contact her again, but I couldn't help but send one more e-mail-a huge apology for acting like such a selfish fool. She really appreciated my apology and said that it meant a lot.

I still feel so bad about it. I allowed issues pertaining a lack of communication to destroy a good friendship that I valued so much. I can only say that I am at least glad I did the right thing and that I closed the book on our friendship with something that correlates with what I stand for as a man.

Anybody been through anything similar and cares to share?
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Original post by JDINCINERATOR
I've just recently had an amicable break-up with a friend. Two years ago I e-mailed her twice and she didn't reply, then just recently I decided to get in contact with her to find out why she's ghosted me.
She told me it was because I said some really negative things during my e-mails, and that in that current e-mail my tone was negative still. I took a look back at those e-mails I sent, then the most-recent e-mail and discovered she was absolutely right-I was a real piece of you know what. At the end of the most recent e-mail she said she'd appreciate it if I didn't contact her again, but I couldn't help but send one more e-mail-a huge apology for acting like such a selfish fool. She really appreciated my apology and said that it meant a lot.
I still feel so bad about it. I allowed issues pertaining a lack of communication to destroy a good friendship that I valued so much. I can only say that I am at least glad I did the right thing and that I closed the book on our friendship with something that correlates with what I stand for as a man.
Anybody been through anything similar and cares to share?

Yes. I was dating this dude, who all my friends stressed me out into liking. Even though I didn’t like him. I felt like I was losing an opportunity in life. My friend stole his email off me. My friend went up to him in the library when me and him was doing a project with some of our other classmates, as told him about videos I sent of my team. But noticed him, since he’s a ranga. (That’s what she said)

She asked him to kiss me, and date me. Ask me out. Said I wanted to.

Even though I didn’t want to.

Eventually he asked me, I didn’t reply, I couldn’t bring myself to say yes, sure. All my friends threw thumbs ups in his face. Saying yes. Especially that my friend.

He started being toxic to me. Dry messages. Saying wtf to me more often. Hurt me. Because, my friend sent a private message that he sent privately to gc, I’m in with his friends, to a big gc of people we both didn’t know.

I felt like killing myself, I hated myself for being the way I am.

We never dated cause I didn’t say yes. But he said we’re. I apparently broke up with him. But all I said was I want a break from you.

My friend apologised to me. I spilled all the bad stuff she’d done to me, and how hurt I was.

But I forgiven her.

But to this day I still remember all the times before that dude. She was a bully to me. And I hated myself for being to blind, to not see this.

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